her dad.

[Josh9961]

omg i need some help with this. Theres a girl at school who i fancy like mad, and she feels the same way, but shes not allowed to have a boyfriend unless her dad meets him and says hes alright. So i have to meet her increibly strict, boy-hating, German and frankly scary father this weekend. It's worth it, but i dont wanna mess this up. Any advice on how i should handle this? Cos i am getting mega-stressy about this.. :eek:

Note. Her dad sent her little sister to watch us when a group of us went to the cinema.

[CookieMonster]

The best thing you can do is relax and be yourself. Answer all his question completely honestly.
He'll like your honesty more than anything.

[rsc4life]

The best thing you can do is relax and be yourself. Answer all his question completely honestly.
He'll like your honesty more than anything.

Honestly, not to sound like a bad person. Try to be yourself. But be on. Be better than normal.

[Mzor203]

Be your best self, as they said, and make sure to dress nicely. This matters a lot, first impressions are incredibly important, even though you shouldn't judge someone on them.

Be polite and kind, don't get angry, and try not to show any fear, but don't be too assertive either.

[byee]

Wanting to meet you is not a bad thing, you know. It means he's involved and interested in his kid's friends. Involved parents often have very nice, loving kids, of which you'd be the beneficiary here!

Dress nice, shake his hand (Firmly!), and remember! MAKE EYE CONTACT! Be polite, say 'It's nice meeting you Mr. X' (use his name, MAKE EYE CONTACT!). I'll bet he'll ask some basic questions, maybe what grade you're in, maybe what sports you play, where you live, etc. Make sure you answer the sentence completely, as in more than one word, like "I'm in the ninth grade at Smith Middle School", "I'm the quarterback on the varsity football team", "I live over on Smith St.". MAKE EYE CONTACT! Smile, too.

Don't worry, just MAKE EYE CONTACT, speak in full sentences (no one worders, and for heaven's sake, don't grunt!), and remember to tell him that it was nice meeting him as you firmly shake hands goodbye while making EYE CONTACT.

[pontiacdriver]

omg i need some help with this. Theres a girl at school who i fancy like mad, and she feels the same way, but shes not allowed to have a boyfriend unless her dad meets him and says hes alright. So i have to meet her increibly strict, boy-hating, German and frankly scary father this weekend. It's worth it, but i dont wanna mess this up. Any advice on how i should handle this? Cos i am getting mega-stressy about this.. :eek:

Note. Her dad sent her little sister to watch us when a group of us went to the cinema.

The best way to approach this situation is to put yourself in the Father's shoes. I am sure that he has the belief that all teenage boys want is sex, and you need to somehow make it clear that your intentions with his daughter are honourable. There is no question that the guy is going to ask you a lot of probing questions that might be very personal, but you must answer them all honestly and to the best of your ability if you really want to go out with this girl. Ask the Father directly as to what his expectations of a boyfriend is and what his rules are. As the others have mentioned, you should definitely go dressed very well such as wearing a dress shirt and a pair of dress pants. Make sure that you are well groomed and that your hair is done well and that you are clean shaven if you can shave. You are just going to have to deal with the Father sending folks tailing you and your girlfriend for a while, and things will die down once he begins to trust you. Definitely do not do anything sexual with this girl (even if she initiates it) as this Father sounds pretty crazy and might track you down if he thinks you have had sex with his daughter. Finally, regarding rules that are probably going to be laid down, try to follow them to the letter even if your girlfriend thinks that they are stupid. For example, if the Father wants his daughter home by 10PM, then get her home by 9:45PM at the absolute latest so that you will be golden in the Father's eyes.

It is going to take a while to build up trust with the Father, and just don't do anything to slip up as trust is a hard thing to build but an easy thing to loose.

[JoshDude]

Yeah, definetly don't try and act out. You have to be yourself.
And as said above, her father would appreciate the fact that you are being honest with him.
Goodluck.