relationship with my friend

[mouni]

he is my good frnd.......v are knowing each other since last 6
years....
contiue 3yrs we were together in our institution...n we were very good friends....
.b'coz of sum reason we didnt meet for 2 years but we were in contact through chatting...once in a week or twice in a week we used to chat.....but we didnt met....n through chatting.....v started chatting about sex.....n tat chatting crossed everything n in last month v met n we got so much attracted to each other tat we started oral sex.........but we had decided tat v'll not take it seroiusly as its only to satisify both..tat we will not becum emotional........... after doing 4 times oreal sex v decided tat not to continue...otherwise tat'll be prob for both us......
but in between tat i got emotionaly attached wit him....but he is not..

v cant contiue dis relationship tat i know very well....i jus want to cum out from dis wat should i do....
pls help me.......:confused::mad:

[Θάνατος]

Well you need to talk to your friends and get his feelings toward you. A relationship takes two people to make it work. It sounds like you two were good friends before you tow became sexual with each other. The first and moist important thing about any type of relationship you need to be friends first.

[mouni]

we had already discussed about dis....he thinks tat i m not satisfied ........wat v did but....n he is saying tat if u want i'll satisfy u....but d question is of not satisfying me.....
d thing is tat i dont want to contiue also n i dont want to leave also

[Requin]

Can anyone type properly and not use da d's n' n's n s's n V's!!!!!!
Well if you really love him, you'll have to tell him about it. It's the only way of getting around it. You've put yourselves in a difficult poisition and if he doesn't feel the same way then i'm afraid your going to have to get use to it.
Sorry for the harsh words, but it's a reality check, you can't really back down now, just tell him how you feel, and see what he says. Good luck and i hope you can sort this out soon.

[grafty99]

time will tell, thing like this generally sort themselfs out with time, that is my experience anyway. hope it helps

[byee]

Yeah, it would be easier if you didn't speak text here.

The issue is emotional evolution here. You both started having sex for physical reasons, but you developed an emotional attachment to him, and he did not. That's the problem here, you both started at the same place, but your feelings changed as a result of the intimacy of oral sex, while his did not. It's not the same for you anymore, you now find you need more from him, and he does not.

You can talk with him about this change, but I think you're the one who has to decide if you want (or can tolerate) 'just' having a sexual/physical relationship with someone when you really want something more emotionally developed.

People's feelings change very often as a result of sexual stuff. Hopefully, both partners experience this change, the intimacy of sex brings people closer emotionally. But sometimes it doesn't, that's the risk when you start sex before you have an emotional context to the relationship. Now, you're left with decision to see the glass as half full or half empty. Or maybe find another vending machine.

[southcarolina]

I can't understand you're grammar.

[george]

He is my good friend, we've known each other for the last 6 years. For 3 years at my school, we were very good friends. For some reason, we didn't meet for 2 years but we talked to each other through IM. We would chat once or twice a week but we never saw each other. When we were chatting, we started talking about sex. After talking talking about sex since the last month, we finally met and we were really attracted to each other until we started trying oral sex. After having oral sex 4 times, we decided to stop doing it otherwise it would would become a probably for both of us, but in that time, I became emotionally attracted to him but he isn't.

We can't continue this relationship very well anymore and I just want to come out from all of this, what should I do?
Please help me......
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For all you people who don't wanna take the time to read it, heres my rough translation of it.

You really need to decide whether or not you really want a relationship with this guy. You have a emotional attraction to him but he doesn't have one for you, which can be a big problem in having a relationship.

This is really why people in a relationship should really only have sex when they have a really good connection to each other or it could just turn into a fling.


As a small note, I just wanted to say that they don't have vending machines with glass Sam :P sorry just thought it was kind of funny.