Happy? No.

[BlackenedSilver]

Im never happy with anything. I have an amazing Boyfriend, but having him has depressed me out.
Because he is so amazing I dont feel like Im good enough for him, Last time we went out I was really quiet because that is all I could think about.
Im now avoiding him because maybe I might start to appreciate him more if I dont see him in a while, but he is even on my msn name.. Im on his too, I hate the way that looks but if I change it he might take in the wrong way.
Everythins just been so confusing ever since we got together, My friends all think that we are going to gt married when we are older, but the thought of spending my whole life with him scares me.. and the thought of sleeping with him. Im just so Confused :confused:

Im just so pathetic that Im picking the negatives out of a mostly positive thing. :(


(Sorry about my rant, I just needed to let it out. Thanks for reading :D)

[Patchy]

Don't Apologise for posting, it was a pleasure to read it!

Basically it sounds like your seeing each other too much and its almost too much. What I would do is limit seeing him like spend some days with your friends and some days with him. Also it depends how long you've been going out for about the sleeping with him thing, every relationship is different and that you might not want something that he wants e.g. sleeping with him.

What to do is carry on for a few more weeks then talk with him like how he feels about you etc to see what he's wanting then you can work something out...and what your friends are doing is pretty common, just ignore it! :P

Hope this helps :)

[Attax]

Haha, sounds like the relationship that just ended with me. The girl thought that she wasn't good enough for me because she had never had a boyfriend who treated her decently.

Here is my advice that would make it easy for both of you:
a) admit to him how you feel, but promise to work it out. And whenever you make that promise, follow through with it. Cause if you don't it will probably end, like mine did, and he will think that you didnt care about the relationship anymore whether you did ornot. . . it is one of the worst things that he can go through . .. I did and I hope it never happens again!
b) don't think that just because you fell this way means that your relationship is going down the drain. Because if you feel like this, then it will. And he will feel like shit, and do you really want that for him? Sounds like you care for him.
c) sometimes a little time a part is a good thing, it can make him see how life is without you and vise/versa and it may rekindle the sparks in your relationship . . . Or make you realize something that you never once did
d) if you honestly don't think you could spend the rest of your life with him let him know, because although it may hurt both of you, and although it may end your relationship it is better to end now rather than in 3 years whenever he proposes and you turn him down because you couldn't stand living with him.
e) if it does end, don't be afraid to be friends, but give him some time to get his emotions together. Because if you don't do this he may not be ready to accept you just as a friend and nothing more . . .


Gosh, this makes me wanna talk to my ex now and see what she thinks about us getting back together, lol but thats another story. . . and I hope that my advice helped!

[BlackenedSilver]

Thanks alot, it has really helped.

You said it might be because I see him too much, well I dont, I see him once a week at the most, and we have been going out for 3 months this month.
We both have very busy timetables so we barely see eachother.

Thanks alot. :D:D:D

[Attax]

Well if you truly love him you won't let that get in the way. That is what happened to me, and now its hard to be friends, but whatever happens try to be friends because it would be very nice.

[rsc4life]

You are good enough for him if he wants to spend time with you.

[BlackenedSilver]

I do Love him, but I dont wish I could see him more.. I wish I could see him less.
But then without him, I just feel that life would have no point.

And I just feel he could get a better looking, nicer girl than me. Someone who would Make him happy, because all seem to be doing is making him sad, But If we broke up.. I dread to think what would happen.

Confusing.

Thanks for your help again. :D

[Avalikia]

This sounds much more like a self-esteem issue and not a relationship issue to me. If he thought that he was too good for you three months is more than enough time for him to have found someone else, and in my experience it's never the guy who stays when they they could do better (in fact, I've seen a lot of guys leave a girl when they thought they could do better and they were wrong). Therefore, he must be seeing something in you that you're not seeing, because otherwise he'd be long gone by now.

I'm not sure what advice to give, but I do know that avoiding him will not help anything (it never does) and if he's as amazing as you say he is then talking to him about it can only make things better. In fact, he may be able to tell you what he's seeing in you that you're not. A lot of girls think that they're nothing special or, even worse, a bad person when in reality they're a good person who's trying to be better.

[BlackenedSilver]

Yea, I guess your right, I shall stop avoiding him now, since he was really nice texting me when he found out I was sick.

Thanks alot, Its most likely a self esteem issue, I have real problems with that after being bullied for quite a few years.

Thanks. xx

[Avalikia]

Oh, well welcome to my world then. I was bullied in one form or another for nine years (the only reason it's stopped is because my peers have finally decided they're too old for that sort of thing) - it's really hard not to believe what other people say about you or think that you're a good person when you're singled out like that. But during those years I found that if I specifically took time to do things good people do, then being bullied didn't matter to my self-esteem because no matter what anyone else said or did I knew that I was a good person. You know, simple things like helping my neighbors and such. When I could honestly say that I did that all the time, I couldn't honestly say I thought I was a bad person. I can highly recommend it.

[BlackenedSilver]

Ok thanks, I might try that.

Thank alot. :D