problem containing yourself

[secretman20]

I always have this problem that if im with a girl kissing and lying on the bed that i can't contain myself and start touching her down there, hoping she'll do the same. Even though it's not a smart thing to do knowing that relations dont work that way and she also said she wanted to wait.

So that happened like half an hour ago and im SO sorry but does anyone ofyou know a solution to this and how i can contain myself better?

plz help caus i really love her!!:(

(and if your bored you should watch this its histerical xD!http://nl.youtube.com/watch?v=PkkJXy14DUc) Dont know if thats allowed by the way if its not pleas let me know..

[pontiacdriver]

My view is that you should firstly avoid gissing your girlfriend on beds since a bed provides adequete space for you to position her for fingering. It is great that you respect your girlfriend's decision about waiting, and you definitely should make out with her in places like a couch where you both will be sitting up and have a harder time getting at her privates.

My other suggestion is to be mindful of the placement of your hands and force yourself to keep them away from her privates especially if she is not comfortable getting fingered at this point. As silly as this may sound, you can always tie a piece of string around your finger to remind yourself not to touch your girlfriend down there.

Finally, if you find yourself getting super aroused when you are out with your girlfriend, then you might want to masturbate before seeing her so that you can get some of your feelings out so that you can stay in control.

Finally, the best way to avoid doing anything to your girlfriend that you know that she won't like is to remind yourself of the last sentence of your post: "caus I really love her." If you really care about your partner, then you will do everything in your power to respect her, her body, and her decisions.

[Trickster]

self-control is all i can tell ya. If u feel your self goin down try to stop at the waist. and work back up.You love her awwwwww that sweet and u should also just keep telling your self if u know ur gonna make out soon "dont go down " . like pontiadriver said try masturbating before u meet her. That way u will be too exhausted to even move your finger much less a hand. tryi holding eachother really close that way there is no room and sit down so it will have to be very awkward trying to go there. IF she loves you she knows u wanna wait, and that u just cant help yourself. if u take one step at a time u will be allright

[secretman20]

thnx for the tis you guys are a great help!!

[geniusrocksoutloud]

if you are confused then wait for when ur girlfriend is ready.Usually girls will tell you and then your on your way.Sometimes dont be afriad to tell her, if she was your true girlfriend she'll understand.

[Camazotz]

You might need discipline. Next time your kissing her, think about something else, or just focus on kissing rather than touching.

PS. While the video was hysterical, it has nothing to do with the thread.