why am i like this???

[Gumleaf]

well its me being stupid and paranoid again. tomorrow my parents leave for a 2 week holiday to china. sounds good and there is no reason for me to be concerned. they are on an orgainsed group tour with an experienced tour guide. china is a relatively safe place to go. you don't hear about train crashes and plane crashes in china. so why is it that i'm scared that something is going to happen to them? like i'm paranoid about it. why do i always fear the worst? i have no reason to. its not like we have had a family holiday disaster that should get me concerned. i don't know, i'm just probably being stupid. i hate me sometimes.

[JoshDude]

The chances of anything bad happening is relatively small. To be honest I wouldnt worry too much. To take your mind off of it, you should perhaps hang out with your family (cousins, brothers etc) and go out with your friends. Try and keep occupied with other things so that you do not think about their trip.

[Callwaiting]

I sometimes get like this, but the best thing to do is try to relax and enjoy your parent-free holiday.
Nothing is going to happen, they'll return happy and refreshed from their holiday after you've enjoyed yours!
As they're travelling with a guide who has had experience in China, the worst thing that could happen is them getting pickpocketed or something.
I know it's kinda hard to see it from this angle though, so maybe you could give them a call(actually a txt, I'd imagine the rates would be horrible) every few days to see how they're going, where they're going next ect.

Hope I could help!

[byee]

Stephen! I think people are the way they are for 2 reasons: Experience and temperment. In your case, you've shared some pretty nerve wracking stuff lately, some real family health concerns, fears about moving, etc. then there's 'You', the emotional, attached guy who enjoys and needs 'his' people.

Put the 2 if those things together, and you have some very legit concerns about being seperated from parents! Feelings aren't always rational, but they are rationally derived.

Make sure you and your folks make up some times to call each other so you can stay in touch and be reassured they're OK!

[The Batman]

I'm just like that Stephen I always jump to the worse when thinking of things. I was watching this show and they actually gave a bit of advice on how to deal with worrying a lot. I believe one of them was a replacement sorta thing it's where you replace that worry with love. Instead of worrying about them getting hurt just try and call them everyday and see how they are doing. Another technique was boredom it's where you repeat the thought over and over again very slowly till you get tired of it. I'm not sure if they work but you could try it out.

[Gumleaf]

well they have left now, so i'll just have to learn to deal with it. but the text messages will definetly be flowing though.

[Mzor203]

Well, keep in touch with them. Hope you manage okay Stephen. :)

[Hyper]

Like I said in the Relationships thread..

Stop worrying about useless things, naturally we all worry some just do it more than others simply because its in their nature, but controlling & understanding ones nature takes time & maturity

So you have to work on that worrying on your own.

[rsc4life]

It's simple. You care about people. If you care, then you worry more. :miss: