Do you have to come out if...

[Mr. Smithers]

Lets say you have a friend that your mom knows about. Your mom always picks him up and you guys go out to the movies or wherever. If this friend is a boy and she notices that you are not spending time with a girl romantically, will she finally suspect you don't like women meaning that you won't really have to come out.

Is it better for parents to already know or just to come out?

[Θάνατος]

Well you parents could suspect you of being gay, but just because you hang out with more guys does not mean they will think you are gay.

I came out in January and I wish I didn't. My parents found out because i was stupid and left AIM log in while I went to work. My step mom read my conversations with a guy that I was talking with. That is not how I had planned on my parents finding out. I was not allowed on the computer for a month. I totally withdrew from my family because of this. My dad to this day will not talk to me about me being bi he is in total and complete denial.

I have had other friends who their parents have accepted them because being gay does not change who you are. It is just your sexual preference.

You might want to start leaving hints and feeling the water before you come out.

[Hyper]

It all depends on the parent..

[byee]

The answer to your q, Fezzie, is that you should only tell anyone when you are 1) Absolutely ready, and 2) absolutely sure it's 'safe', as in 'accepting'.

In the absence of those preconditions, as Rob can sadly attest to, it's best to keep it to yourself.

[The Batman]

While I was researching things about coming out I learned that a majority of the people who came out to their parents said that their mom already had that feeling. The thing about our Mothers are that they are a little more attentive to our emotions and they notice things that we don't. So a lot of the time when you come out to your mom she already knows. But it is still a good thing to tell her anyway.

[Attax]

The answer to your q, Fezzie, is that you should only tell anyone when you are 1) Absolutely ready, and 2) absolutely sure it's 'safe', as in 'accepting'.

In the absence of those preconditions, as Rob can sadly attest to, it's best to keep it to yourself.


I agree with that, for example, in my general area where I live it would definitely not be safe to come out. I live where they would stone you to death with bibles if you were gay . . .

[Trickster]

just because they think its so doesnt mean they know. If a parent never see's you do homework at home they might think youre failing but when you come home with A's there wrong. Thats like an example. U dont need to worry about it they wont know until you say it to there face. But i agree with people who said drop hints. Dont be like "Mom what would happen if i kissed a boy?" that just coming out. ask about gay people, they'll probably just think youre curious about gay people or bi at most. IF its not your time to come out to them or you fear it could be bad then just wait till you got a place and job until you come out yo your parents. to me it seems like the best way.

[Attax]

And another suggestion: reading the coming out tips, that could help

[rsc4life]

That's not the way I'd ever like my parents to know about me...

[Requin]

Well it depends...on your area, how your parents react to it, friends etc
As sam said, only come out when you are ready. And mothers are better at noticing our emotions and feelings than others.
There just that good. So i would just go with the flow, however you feel at the time.

[Zan0ra]

I don't know... A while back I went for tea and left some msn conversations up on my screen. I shut the door and went down for tea. What was on them was a LOT! of stuff like that... well yeah... My dad finished first and went up to my room when I got up there and saw him up on my pc I noticed that the conversations had been minimized and just yesterday my dad said that he already new that my sis was dating my mate bradley. So I think he thinks I am gay but yesterday my sister said I have a gf *I didnt really want to tell them that* which hopefully swayed there opinions.