lately

[shadow_moses]

So lately, I've had a sudden urge to try pot. I know all the bad things to it and I've seen what it does to people(my brother specifically) and one of the reasons I have avoided it through highschool is that my girlfriend going on 10 months says that she would be deeply hurt if I ever tried them. In all honesty I am tempted to go behind her back and do it.

Another reason I have tried avoiding it was I was gonna save it for college, cause in my highschool the availability, and time, and places to smoke are growing every month. I have some friends that do it recreationaly maybe once or twice every 2 months. Which doesn't seem too bad but I feel my addictive personality may get the better of me. And.. GAHH ..I just don't know what to do anymore. So urged to just try at and be done.

[Completely Lost]

I can almost gaurantee you that you WILL NOT spend over $20 a month on marijuana and it's your choice

It's misinformation propoganda like this that causes people to think that a plant used for so many economical friendly and industrial friendly things is as dangerous as methamphetamine.. No, I am not promoting illegal drug use ffs, but I am promoting decriminalization for the whole country because 800,000 arrests a year in 2007 is stupid for simple posession

[Callwaiting]

I'd talk to your girlfriend about it, about why she'd be so dissapointed if you did it.
It might be she simply doesn't know or have first-hand experience of pot and has just based her opinion on stuff she's heard, or been told by her parents.
If you can't come to an agreement with her then I'd say don't do it, it may be good, but not good enough to risk a healthy relationship for.

Like CL said, there's no way you'd spin out of control spending money on it, the first twenty or so times you only need like $2 worth to get really high. But if you feel like you could easily become addicted to it(Almost impossible) after researching the side effects, then don't try it at all, even though it's an incredibly slim chance it does happen to some people.

[shadow_moses]

thank you both for your answers. and callwaiting i will take your advice and talk to her about it.

[byee]

The issue here isn't one of drugs, really. It's judgement and self control. You can substitute anything for the term "pot" here, it's not a moralistic/legalistic thing, really.

You yourself state that you have an 'addictive personality', you've got first hand info wth your bro what that means, your g/f is against your doing this. It doesn't sound like this is an urge that you should be endulging, does it?

Just b/c you have an urge, just b/c you're 'curious' doesn't necessarily mean you should give yourself permission to do something when the chances of it turning out to be really bad and/or become a really big problem are present.

[Avalikia]

I'm curious as to why you feel the need to try it right now. Because unless and until you're addicted to something you just don't feel the need to use it if there's nothing else going on. Is it because your friends are using it? I'm not trying to pry here, but if you're going to make a good decision you need to know exactly why you're doing it.

[Cap'nCrunch]

Strongly consider what YOU want to do with YOUR life. Take into consideration that drugs can change your life very easily. Marijuana isn't a killer, but it can get you into unnecessary trouble. Take time to think why you want to try it.

[Zazu]

As Avalikia said, I'm confused as to weather you want to try it or your friends want you to try it, you should never feel like drugs are something that you should be pressured into taking.

I would personally see no problem with it, but make sure it's your own choice if you smoke it, not the choice of your friends.

[george]

If you really have such a big urge to try out pot but you don't want to go around your girlfriends back, you could try I-Doser (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=29551) which uses binaural beats to replicate the effects of many drugs, feelings, and many other things.

Like Sam said, its just self control. You don't HAVE to try it out just because yours friends are doing it or your given the chance to. But I can't figure out why exactly you want to try it out, because your friends do it or because your curious as to what its like or something else?

[Mzor203]

I just want to say, that I know people can become addicted to pot. I know this, am very aware of this, and have seen it happen to ones I love dearly.

It depends on the person, but pot can make you do really stupid things sometimes. My dad was addicted to pot, and he did a lot of stupid things in his life.

If you feel you have a chance of getting addicted to it, don't try it. Even though it's not a physical addiction, it can be hard to break. And if you try it, and decide you like it, what's to stop you from going and trying the stronger drugs? You could end up screwing up your life.

Your girlfriend is concerned for you, obviously, and I think you should listen to her. Use her as inspiration to use your better judgement to stay away from drugs, and to find other, less costly and troublesome ways to have fun.

[Completely Lost]

Do not take the binaural waves as what marijuana is actually like..

It's completely different..

[george]

Of course it's not gonna be exactly the same but its a substitution for pot to his curiosity. Seeing as how pot does different things to everyone, I Doser just replicated the general effects of it That is EXACLTLY what we tried to emulate with this dose, to GREAT effect: mood lift, philosophical or deep thinking, increased appreciation of music, pleasant body feel, and that HIGH that only THC could bring... until now!

but yeah, lets not get into stuff like that in this thread, if you wanna say something about it just go here:http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/sh...ad.php?t=29551

[Kuervo]

dont even do it. it can hurt ur relationship with ur gf especially if u do it behind her back. OR just ask her permission if she lets u, but personally i wouldnt do it

[shadow_moses]

If you really have such a big urge to try out pot but you don't want to go around your girlfriends back, you could try I-Doser (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=29551) which uses binaural beats to replicate the effects of many drugs, feelings, and many other things.

Like Sam said, its just self control. You don't HAVE to try it out just because yours friends are doing it or your given the chance to. But I can't figure out why exactly you want to try it out, because your friends do it or because your curious as to what its like or something else?

ya, i-doser, i found the thread about it and you can go read the comment i left on it.

[shadow_moses]

dont even do it. it can hurt ur relationship with ur gf especially if u do it behind her back. OR just ask her permission if she lets u, but personally i wouldnt do it

So I talked to my girlfriend more about it, and she said as long as it doesn't become and everyday thing or something that might take time away from our time, and especially I am not around her while doing, or being on it. She said she would prefer if I ever did do it to do it with someone who could just make sure I don't take too much, and that I don't do anything silly while high.

I told her I thought about doing it with my older brother and his girlfriend and she said as long as I don't leave the apartment shes fine with it.

Still not knowing if I will actually go through with it, I believe I'm seeing my bro next weekend so I will get back to you on rather I went through with it or not.

[Callwaiting]

There's a few things I feel you might want to know here, one is that your girlfriend would probably have a really good time with you when you're high, but if she feels that way it's probably best not to.
Unlike most people think, with pot you still have a sense of responsibility and a reasonable judgement, you don't do dangerous stuff at all.
I agree you should probably do it with someone who's done it before, to show you how to smoke it properly ect. but it's not something to get worried about, just smoke a small amount and wait about ten minutes, if you feel anything at all then you're good. If you don't feel anything then wait until the next day, you don't want to get stoned your first time by accident, you might just react to it slowly.

Update us!

[shadow_moses]

So tonight, was an interesting one in the way me and my girlfriend talked about drugs, and two how I figured out what her problem with it is.

So started us just talking and I mentioned how she doesn't want me to try drugs because of personal beliefs of hers. So I showed her all of your wonderful replies and told her that she believes that it is harmful to people. Well, I retorted with the analogy that marijuana is like alcohol in the fact that it is ok as a pick me up in small doses that are not harmful to your body, but like alcohol too much can change people and make them lose control of themselves. referring to one of the posts left here, I told her that it is really a matter of self control.

Well mentioning alcohol made her mention her mother who is a large contributor to her opinion on addiction. Her mother has a large drinking problem and she highly dislikes her mother for it. I reminded her that her mother is nothing like me and I have self control when I really needed it. I do not plan to do drugs constantly, but once in a while as to not get addicted but still enjoy it.

She is no longer sure as to what she perceives as right or wrong and is now more ok but still questioning. The only reason I am pushing this so hard is the fact I want to experiment with drugs but not against her will.

[Antares]

Just don't.
It is a sticky situation to get yourself into and the outcome can be so many things...usually negative but still
Just don't.
Don't even start.

[The Batman]

Whats the use of trying an illegal drug just because your curious? In no way is it going to benefit you any and it's just a waste of money. So why do it?

[Mzor203]

Even weed can completely over take your "self control". It is possible to get addicted to it mentally, and it is not good when you do. Weed can cause you to do a lot of crazy stuff even when your not too high. I've seen its effects.

Playing with drugs just because you're curious is a good way to get your relationship ruined. If something does happen, and you get addicted, or do something stupid, how do you think your girlfriend is going to see you then? Especially after you told her nothing will happen? She'll think you lied to her, and that won't go down well.

I urge you not to even try it.

[shadow_moses]

Today I was supposed to get my first nickel bag, and I think it was lucky for me that my friend's dealer didn't find him. Cause on the bus my girlfriend was talking to me and she said that we weren't done discussing and that I wasn't allowed near the stuff till we came to a conclusion and so I went to the guy who was supposed to hook me up and since he was a good friend and his birthday is this weekend I told him when he gets it to have a happy birthday and I'll stay clean for a while longer. (well at least till this friday possibly[brothers house])