A Mess

[fleury29]

hi! well i dont really know where to start. i guess i'm just grieving and need to vent. my grandmother passed away on the 12th. i'm basically a mess and i'm not dealing good at all. we were so close and she was like a second mother to me. i miss her soo much and i just don't know what to do. i've missed so much school and keep getting sick. my grades are falling drastically. i honestly feel like if one person does the smallest thing that upsets me, i'm just gonna crack and freak out. i feel like im suffocating and my chest is going to burst. it hurts so bad. im sorry if im sounding so pitiful but i cant help it. i just need to talk i guess before i do something completely stupid. :(

[Atonement]

Right, so this seems like the perfect oppurtunity for me to throw out this great phrase my mom ALWAYS uses."How do you eat and elephant? One bite at a time."

You need to break everything down. First, you need to get school in line and on track and get that going. As for your grandmother, well, it is unfortuante that that happened and I feel for you but think of her... Would she want you freaking out over her? I highly doubt it. Just think of how she wants you to be strong and hold your head high.

As for freaking out. Just breathe. In... Out... I learned when I am stressed, to breathe in, count to 7, the exhale for 7 counts. Steady breathing the the key. Also, to help relieve the stress, you need someone to talk to. Someone to just let it all out with. Whether this be a friend, a trusted adult, a parent, or even someone online... Anyone helps.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.

[Θάνατος]

Well can you talk to anyone. Talking is the best way to help you deal with your feelings. Talk to your freinds, parents, teachers or school counselor. If you can't find a friend I will talk to you. I have lost all of my grandparents and a son. I know how to deal with grief so feel free to contact me.

[thesphinx]

The best way to get through things like this is to talk to someone and get the feelings out.
If you hold it in it will get worse so please don't do that!
Good Luck and Sorry about your grandma :hug:

[byee]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

It takes a while to recover form loss, the grieving process takes time. Give yourself some time, remember there's a real injury there, and like all injuries, it'll respond best to TLC. Take good care of yourself.

I think it would be so good for you to find a trusted adult who you can be with and share some of your giref with. The support they can give, even if it's nonverbal, them just being there with you, is really good and really important. Don't go thru this alone.

They say that when we love someone, really love them, they never really leave us. The connection stays with us forever, perhaps it takes a different form, but it's still there nonetheless. With time, the intense loss you feel will pass, and you'll be left with the memories and the soft glow of true intimacy, which really doesn't change.

Let me know if I can help.

Sam

[rsc4life]

I'm so sorry to hear that... My advice to you is to get school under control first. Just devote your energy to getting your homework done, studying for tests. Then, when you are satisfied with that, it should help you relax and have time to grieve. I've always found it is difficult to do anything else in life if school is messed up.