OHkay, what exactly are my options?

[ShatteredWings]

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[DaretoFallup]

ummmmmmmmmm

They might try to keep you guys together, but if they can get you guys a diff home if it come to that, yes theres a possibility you guys could get split up.

its kind of a sticky situation idk what to say really

[The Batman]

The first thing they would do is try to find a close relative for you guys to live with, but if they can't then most likely you'll be sent to foster homes and you might get split up. Is there anyway that you can stay with a grandparent or anyone else?

[ShatteredWings]

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[The Batman]

What's wrong with Missouri? I think it would be good for you to try and get in contact with a close relative so you can have an escape plan.

[ShatteredWings]

nothing's wrong with it, but i LIVE IN PENNSYLVIA. and basicly have no contact with them.. alls i know is i have a cousin who's currently on the run due to drug charges. lol

[byee]

Gwyn, I think the goal should be stabilizing the situation before it gets to a 911 situation!

for that to happen, you might talk with a guidance counsellor not so much about 'abuse', but about 'conflict', 'unhappiness', etc. See if you can get him/her to work with you to get all of you into therapy somewhere so you guys can straighten all this out.

[ShatteredWings]

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[byee]

Gwyn, terribly sorry you find my advice unhelpful. But it is accurate, nonetheless. If you call the authorities and say you're 'bothered' by your parents it's doubtful they'll do anything, as being 'bothered' is not criminal or dangerous. If you use the word 'abuse', they might investigate, and the first thing I think they'd do is determine the risk to you. If it was found to be credible, if they determined that you were in real danger, they'd put you in a shelter, as that is available more immediately. A foster home would come about if the problems could not be addressed in therapy, and the situation seemed more chronic. Would you all be kept together? Who knows, but when the State is involved, you lose control of many things, which is also why I think you should exhaust your other options first. And I think the State would have two goals: The first is immediate safety, the second is resolution, which means therapy of some type, which is also why I suggested that's where you start. Either way, you'll likely end up in therapy, so why not just initiate it yourself with the help of the guidance counsellor.

Often, you might think others aren't responding to your question, when in fact they are. Sometimes the right answer isn't as neat or straightforward as you'd like, which is why it's often better to discuss these things a bit longer, before dismissing them out of hand. And maybe without the sarcasm, too.

Start by getting some ally, like the guidance counsellor, and work with her to get you and your folks to participate in therapy. Often, parents listen to other adults before they listen to their own kids. If that doesn't work out, with the help of the therapist, you all can explore other options.

[ShatteredWings]

okay, that makes a LOT more sense now