Sex

[LoneWanderer]

well, i have this problem. Im 15 and some of my friends are turning sixteen and are starting to buy condoms for using with their girlfriends. I find it kind of weird for them to be going at it already, but hey its legal. Im just worried about when i turn 16, they will be expecting me to start having sex, but im not developed fully yet, and I was wondering what i should do when they ask me about having sex even though i cant. Any ideas on what to say?

[Oblivion]

Just ignore them or lie about it
Don't give in to peer pressure, because you really shouldn't have sex just because your friends want you to. You need to do it because YOU want to.

[LoneWanderer]

The thign is i DO (sorry shouldve said that first) but im just not developed yet so i couldnt.

[Oblivion]

You mean you can't ejaculate semen yet?
Well theoretically if you had a close sexual partner [which you should have before having sex] and told her, then it wouldn't be that much a problem. You would both still orgasm. And even less of a chence she would get pregnant!

[pontiacdriver]

well, i have this problem. Im 15 and some of my friends are turning sixteen and are starting to buy condoms for using with their girlfriends. I find it kind of weird for them to be going at it already, but hey its legal. Im just worried about when i turn 16, they will be expecting me to start having sex, but im not developed fully yet, and I was wondering what i should do when they ask me about having sex even though i cant. Any ideas on what to say?

It is your body, your choices, and none of anyone else's business whether or not you have sex. Having sex just because everyone else is doing it is the worst reason out there to do so as sex should be a reflection of your love for your partner and not done out of societal pressures. If anyone asks you whether or not you have had sex (not that it is any of their business), then stand up for yourself and state assertively that you do not feel that you are at that stage in your life right now to have sex. Sex is really complicated (emotionally that is), and if you are content with being single or are all right with your relationship right now not being sexual, then leave things the way they are and don't feel that you have to live up to other people's expectations. You are not a freak for not having sex, and if anything, you would be quite odd if you based your personal, intimate decision about having sex just because you wanted to fit in.

As for your not being "developed," do you mean that you can't ejaculate? If you can't ejaculate, then don't worry as plenty of guys as late as 16/17 don't experience their first ejaculations until then, you are simply a late bloomer. You are just as masculine as any other guy out there, and at least you don't have to worry about clean up like the rest of us.

[byee]

You're saying that you'd like to have sex but you feel you cannot b/c you're not developed, right? That's a pretty good reason to not do it. That, and the lack of a partner can prevent sex from being on the radar.

Sex isn't a competitive event, although it often seems to be that way. Your friends buying condoms is perhaps as much to show off as it is to actually use them. There's a lot of bravado with sex, but it's more than that. It's also largely emotional, and for that to happen, there needs to be a committed relationship. And all of that takes time.

If they start bragging about sex and asking you, you can ignore it, or my favorite, smile broadly, and let them decide what that actually means.

When the time is right, it'll happen. Until then, enjoy other things.

[Neverender]

well, i have this problem. Im 15 and some of my friends are turning sixteen and are starting to buy condoms for using with their girlfriends. I find it kind of weird for them to be going at it already, but hey its legal. Im just worried about when i turn 16, they will be expecting me to start having sex, but im not developed fully yet, and I was wondering what i should do when they ask me about having sex even though i cant. Any ideas on what to say?

they will start expecting you to have sex suddenly when your 16? with what? their girlfriends, a couch? it won't matter if they want you to have sex. just say i don't want to have sex yet. and who am i going to have sex with?

[Attax]

Be sure that if you want to that it is the right person. Be sure that you really want to and not just because everyone else is doing it.

[DrDrDrDrDr]

if you have a girl, want to have sex, have gone through all safety stuff, do it. if you have a girl, don't want to have sex, don't do it. if you don't have a girl, and want to have sex, go find a girl. if you don't have either, your set

oh ya, the girl has to want to have sex with you too=p

and all after first one include safety stuff too.

and don't think that you have to have sex at 16, if you want, you could wait till your whatever age you are ready! heck, if its right for you, never have sex. its all up to YOU!!

[broadwaydude]

first technically u can have sex u just can't ejaculate but if ur not
Comfortable having sex don't give into peer pressure and just say no