Party?

[Nighter]

Hey guys.

I'm 14, and I'm a freshman in high school.

I made some friends (all girls, but meh?) and they are all in their junior or senior year.

One is turning 18 next month, and we are very good friends, and she wants me to come to her birthday party.

Now, I'm all for going, but she said after 7PM, they might start drinking, and I told her that I would be very uncomfortable drinking, and she said I wouldn't have to.

Now, at this point you are probably saying "Well, just leave after 7!" and I would. This part is going to probably sound weird, but meh. I have other friends who are probably going, and I know at least 2 of them won't be drinking either, and I'd like to talk with them, but also, well, I don't want people to take advantage of my friends, especially if they get drunk... (They are extremely attractive)

Yeah, I know that sounds weird, the freshman trying to help protect the senior, but yeah.

Thoughts?

[Oblivion]

I think your saying they dont want to drink [like you] but you think they might be swayed into it?

OK, so you could set up like a thing for people who don't want to drink at the movies, or at your house or something? That might work

[Nighter]

Ah, not quite.

My friend is turning 18, it is her party, at her house. She knows there will be drinking, and she will be drinking. When I found that out I told that *I* would be uncomfortable drinking, which she said is okay, I don't have to.

However, 2 of my friends (both 17) who PROBABLY won't be drinking will also be there. However, I have a feeling they *might* end up drinking, and if that happens, I want to be there incase someone tries to take advantage of them.

That's why I want to stay after 7, incase that happens.

But I really don't want to have my parents yell at me either, even though I wasn't drinking.

[rsc4life]

Taking advantage of someone is never really right.

[Nighter]

Taking advantage of someone is never really right.


I know.

I think I phrased that wrong, I want to be there incase someone DOES try and take advantage, so I can stop them.

[byee]

It's very honorable that you want to stay to protect the virtue of your other, supposedly drunken, friends. But, that's not your job, nor is it expected, esp. at a birthday party. You were invited to participate in the festivities, not be a security guard or 'daddy'. So, you may exclude yourself from some of the activities that you are uncomfortable with (like boozing), but putting yourself in the role of 'Protector' isn't what's called for.

Like it or not, people will do things that can get them into all sorts of trouble, even in your presence. And although you shouldn't turn a blind eye to something you see occuring in front of you, you should also be able to recognize that it's not your role, job, or expectation to prevent it if that means putting yourself in an otherwise uncomfortable position, like being around a lot of drunk teenagers. This might sound harsh, but it is their responsibility to accept the consequences of their actions, it is not yours to prevent them.

Go and have a good time, and if it gets out of hand and you're clearly uncomfortable, it is your responsibility to take care of yourself, perhaps by leaving.

[Nighter]

Ahaha, I knew I would get this kind of answer, just had to make sure I guess. >.<

Yeah, I guess I will go, I'll stay a bit after 7, but if things start to get really weird, I'll call my parents and have them pick me up.

[Maverick]

Good plan. Your friends are old enough to know what can happen and at 17 they'll be able to make their own decisions. While I think its great to be there to look after your friends, I don't think you can have that kind of responsibility. You have accountability from your parents and you need to look after yourself more than anyone.

When you are older and are around people that can legally drink, its good to have someone to look after a group of friends. But its useful when you don't have mom and dad over your shoulder as you do now and laws aren't being broken.

[Θάνατος]

Well I think it is awesome for one that you want to stay and help your friends out. You have to think about yourself first. I think it is awesome that you don't want to drink. I hope you can resist the temptations to have you drink. If you are pressured by your freinds, I would think about getting new freinds because friends should respect you for you beliefs.

[Nighter]

Well I think it is awesome for one that you want to stay and help your friends out. You have to think about yourself first. I think it is awesome that you don't want to drink. I hope you can resist the temptations to have you drink. If you are pressured by your freinds, I would think about getting new freinds because friends should respect you for you beliefs.

Ah, they won't be pressuring me to drink, well, at least my friends won't, however I don't know her friends that much.

But who knows, maybe things will be semi-calm?

...Yeah, that's likely to happen...

Minors + Underaged Drinking = Not pretty sights.

>.<

[broadwaydude]

i think ur a really good friend, but if you don't feel comfortable not drinking and its that important to u, ur just going to have to leave the party or u can convince ur friends to go to ur house with u