i gues this was ok

[liveandlearn]

So im 13 and my girlfriends parents just happen to be friends with my parents. So one night she came over to my hhouse and was going to stay there while her parents and mine went out to dinner. We decided to go swimming in my pool at night. just a side note we had never had sex and just kissed before. So anyway we were swimming with each other for a while and there was an ocaisanal kiss here and there..... So after a while she wanted to see if i would go skinny dipping and i said ok cause i thought it would be fun and we could get comfortable with each otheres bodys. Before i know ot we were kissing and hugging like mad. We were both madly in love and we started having oral i was (fingering her she was rubbing me) and we had both orgasmed and kissed some more. We realy enjoyed it and it was a great intimate exspireince! My question is though was it right to do im 13 month from 14

[Rutherford The Brave]

Ok um well sounds like a great time.

[liveandlearn]

Ok um well sounds like a great time.

Well what does that mean??? im saying was it alright to do at 13

[rsc4life]

Well, I suppose whether it was ok doesn't really matter anymore, seeing as it happened. I'm not sure if 13 is the age to have oral sex... Wait a couple of years I suppose.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Oh sorry I wasn't aware that it was a question. Well If your both comfortable with it then I would say it is fine.

[Mzor203]

No, he's 13, but in one month he'll be 14. Yeah, that was hard for meto decipher to.

@The OP:

What do you think? Are you unsure about what you did? Are you comfortable about what happened? The only one who can really give us an answer is you. If you are comfortable with it, and think you're mature enough for anything involving any kind of sexual activity with your girlfriend, then it is fine... as long as you stay smart and don't take risks. Always use protection if you end up going farther.

If you aren't comfortable with it, or are unsure, odds are you shouldn't be doing it.

So so you think you're ready and can be responsible?

[DarkWingedAngel]

what u did was totaly fine
u were just exparementing

[rsc4life]

what u did was totaly fine
u were just exparementing

Hold on, I think having oral sex goes a little beyond experimenting.

[DarkWingedAngel]

it technically was not oral it was just a hand job and masterbateing
what is wrong with that

[rsc4life]

I dunno, I still think, at 13. Whatever.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well everyone belives in different things me i had sex at 13 but others would say that it is complety wrong but i say it is not if the 2 love each other
so i think if they love each other alot then it does not matter
just my opinion though

[oscariscrazy]

Im 13 and i haave had sex 2 times and I WENT BEYOND!! but what u did is just experementing. so i think it was okay but for me it wasnt

[liveandlearn]

No, he's 13, but in one month he'll be 14. Yeah, that was hard for meto decipher to.

@The OP:

What do you think? Are you unsure about what you did? Are you comfortable about what happened? The only one who can really give us an answer is you. If you are comfortable with it, and think you're mature enough for anything involving any kind of sexual activity with your girlfriend, then it is fine... as long as you stay smart and don't take risks. Always use protection if you end up going farther.

If you aren't comfortable with it, or are unsure, odds are you shouldn't be doing it.

So so you think you're ready and can be responsible?

Thanks for the replys every one! yea we both felt mature and comfortable with it so in my opinion it was ok

[Mzor203]

If you feel that way, then as long as you stay safe and know what you're getting in to, that's fine.

[pontiacdriver]

In the end of the day everyone has a different set of morality, and it is always hard to tell someone what is "right" or "wrong."

My view is that unless you and your friend are old enough to be able to afford protection and know how to use protective devices like condoms and birth control pills, then you really should wait until you both are old enough to do so. With you both being 13 I am sure that your girlfriend's periods are not regular, yet, and it would be really risky doing vaginal intercourse especially if she does not know exactly what time of the month she is at greatest risk for pregnancy. My view is that for both of your safety that until your friend can get started on birth control that it is best to take things a lot slower. Also, you need to know how to use condoms as well as have some around in the event that things get really heated as it is never a good idea to have sex without protection.

You also need to factor in how your respective parents would react to you both being sexually active. If your parents' find out that you both are doing sexual things, then there is no doubt that there is going to be tension between your families if any of your parents have an issue with such behaviour. You cannot assume that you can keep your sexual activity secret from your parents forever as you both will eventually be caught sooner or later.

Finally, you and your girlfriend need to know what to do in the event that something goes wrong. For example, your girlfriend should know where to go for Emergency Contraceptives if you two have vaginal sex. Also, in the event that your condom slips off or you both have unprotected sex, then you both should know the warning signs of potential pregnancy and/or what to do if your girlfriend misses her period. You both should have access to a medical provider to whom you can talk if either of you have complications from sexual activity.

While sexual activity no doubt feels good there is a lot of responsibility and risks that go along with it, and you need to make sure that you are ready for the good as well as the bad that comes with sex before taking things to the next level.

[byee]

Yeah, only you can decide what's OK. Whenever people do new things there's often this sense of unease. Think about what that might mean, that vague sense of unease.

Sexual things are exciting b/c they feel so good. But, you might want to take into consideration that *other* part of sexuality, the emotions or feelings. It's easy to overlook them in the excitement of the moment, but as you get more accustomed to this new activity and maybe even advance, the feelings will likely become more intense too, and for her as well. You have to deal effectively with them, otherwise that unease will likely become a real problem.

It's a good idea to be aware of the emotional aspect of sex, b/c it's a very important part of the overall experience. Likewise, those feelings can complicate the physical component, it's easy to enjoy the physical feelings of sexual stuff, it's often a lot more difficult to handle the feelings that you (and her!) might experience as a result.

If you (or she) continue to feel uneasy or 'weird' afterwards, it's a good signal that you've gone too far and should back off.

[sabin22]

in this case "better (early) then never"

[waterplayer]

Sounds awsome but i think you should wait to have sex

[Neverender]

So im 13 and my girlfriends parents just happen to be friends with my parents. So one night she came over to my hhouse and was going to stay there while her parents and mine went out to dinner. We decided to go swimming in my pool at night. just a side note we had never had sex and just kissed before. So anyway we were swimming with each other for a while and there was an ocaisanal kiss here and there..... So after a while she wanted to see if i would go skinny dipping and i said ok cause i thought it would be fun and we could get comfortable with each otheres bodys. Before i know ot we were kissing and hugging like mad. We were both madly in love and we started having oral i was (fingering her she was rubbing me) and we had both orgasmed and kissed some more. We realy enjoyed it and it was a great intimate exspireince! My question is though was it right to do im 13 month from 14

its right to do it if you both consented to do it and you really loved them.

[liveandlearn]

Sounds awsome but i think you should wait to have sex

To all the posters who think were gonna have sex. were not we just had oral that time. Were to young for actual sex

[southcarolina]

that's normal, I lost my virginity when I was 14

[rainebg]

I think it was fine me and my gf do the samething but you will probably want to have sex soon and i think your too young for sex but if your just doing tht its fine.