need help

[bringo123]

im bi-curious, and i need to know how to tell my other bi friend about my feelings, any help would be appreciated:D

[rsc4life]

Well, I suppose.... You make sure he is bi before telling him. Also, if your just curious, I'd give it a little while (a year or so) just to make sure it isn't hormones... I mean, if you are set on it, then check around at the coming out tips, although you aren't gay I suppose. Sorry I can't be of more help.

[waterplayer]

i think its just hormones

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Waterswimmer, thanks for your input but I think ateen was looking for advice on talking to a friend, and is working out his sexuality on his own. He doesn't need us to define his orientation for him, especially when he didn't ask us to.

To answer the question, it's probably best to do this in a semi-private setting--at one your houses when you're alone in the room, sitting at the park, etc. You'll be more likely to feel nervous or uncomfortable in a more public setting. I also think it's a good idea to determine why you want to confide in your friend. If you're looking for support while you figure yourself out, then you need to be clear about that. Let your friend know that you're still not sure, and that you're not trying to hit on them (since they're bi too, and may be confused about your motives). Since they've gone through this before, you might ask them how they were sure that they were bi--it might help you to look at yourself in another way. If you're looking to hook up with them, you also need to be very clear. You need to let them know that you're just curious--thus anything you do with them is really only experimentation, and you shouldn't mislead into thinking it's a romantic relationship. It would be horrible for them to get romantically attached to you, only for you to turn around and say, "I was just curious, never-mind, I'm straight." You also have to be careful not to pressure them into anything. Give them a little time for your revelation to sink in, let them ask any questions they may have, and then bring up the idea of a hook-up. Something along the lines of, "Part of why I think I'm bi is because I'm sort of attracted you," and see what they have to say. Overall, remember that the friendship comes first. If they seem uncomfortable you need to remind them of that, and let them know that you don't want your admission to change things.

Good luck. :)

[Neverender]

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i agree completely with your post. make sure your in a place that your alone, and try not to come on as your hitting on him.