I hate my mom's "fiance"

[DaretoFallup]

AAAHHHHHHHHHHH
imgoing nutz i hate him my mom right now she wont listen and i have to pretend to be prefect

HES NOT MY FATHER! he needs to knock that shit out cuz im goin nutz


sorry more of a rant but whatever

[Nihilus]

Jeeez take it easy. Hate is a strong word. Talk to him about how you feel because he may become yourStepfather. Tell him that your feeling how your feeling.

[Zephyr]

Chelsea... if she won't listen, write her a letter expalining everything.

What exactly is he doing?

Because I was in this exact same situation at your age,
Lived with my mom and her fiance.
And I understand that it's hell.

If you want to PM me with the details,
I can really help you.
I've been through this situation like no other.

[byee]

There's so much going on with you, Chelsea.

I think it takes a while for a parent's new partner to feel right and to develop a relationship. It's not an automatic thing, your mom can love this guy, but it will take a while before you can accept him and develop feelings about him.

I think it's important to tell your mom how you're feeling and explain to her that it will take you some time here to get adjusted to his presence and role in your life. From what you've said elsewhere to me your mom sometimes has difficulty seeing things from your perspective and aappreciating your feelings. That's frustrating, but it can be overcome with a little (OK, a lot!) of extra effort explaining calmly to her about your reactions and feelings. Also, don't forget to tell her at the end of the convo what it is that you need. People leave that out a lot, they think that getting it all out is the point, or that their parent should then be able to figure out what to do. But a lot of the time, the parental unit can't do that, they need some clear direction (and something a bit more realistic than 'throw him out'). Think about what it is you need here to feel better thru the transition, what would make it a bit more comfortable as he eases into your life.