Weird situation. Need advice!

[Nicala7]

I'm in a really strange situation when it comes to my current crush. I play underwater hockey (don't even ask) with him. I thought he seemed nice, and I like how quiet and reserved he always was at practice. That's more my type of guy -- rather than the loud, obnoxious, stereotypical type teenage boy. So I developed kind of a crush on him, which is most unlike me in and of itself, as I've only ever had crushes on people I knew really well. So I've already got the unfamiliar situation of being attracted to someone I don't know well.

The I find out that (long story short) even though he was training with the senior team, he's a junior. He's like 14 and a half or 15, whereas I'm 16 and like 6 months. I don't know his exact birthday, but I deduce the age difference to be about a year and a half.

As though that wasn't awkward enough for me, I find out after this that he is in fact my friend and teammate's brother. She's about a year younger than me and this guy is her younger brother. Kinda awkward, huh?

This has been going on for like 6 months now. I can't get over him. Obviously giving it time hasn't worked. It turns out we have an annoying amount in common, like same favorite book, computer game, food... Even though he's younger, and a friend's little brother, I can't stop feeling this way. Every time I see him, cliche as it may be, I can't stop staring and I get the urge to kiss him. It's extremely distracting at practice, and not a little inconvenient.

I've never been so irrationally attracted to someone like this, and it's just such an awkward situation. What should I do? I really need help.

[jjmcray]

After seeing all the advice everyone has given to me on this forum, I would have to say the only solution is just to talk to him about it.

[Gumleaf]

well i don't think that an age difference of 18 months is that significant. my girlfriend is nearly a year older then me, and its not an issue for us. i can understand how it can be awkward being your friends younger brother, but in reality it shouldn't matter. although i haven't personally had an experience like that, i can say that my older sister's bf is her best friends older brother and a cousin of mine married her good friends younger brother. so although in theory it might seem awkward in theory, it shouldn't affect relationships with your team mate/friend.

since you seem to be "head over heels" for him, and that it appears that moving on and putting your feelings aside is not an option anymore, i think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. maybe if it really worries you about your friend/his sister, then maybe you could tell her about it first and see what she thinks. i guess the only problem you might have is if she has a problem with it, but thats what i would do. good luck, i hope everything works out for you. :)

[rsc4life]

saying that your irrationally attracted to him is not true. Like you said, he is your type of guy, and you share interests, so it is not irrational at all. Now, I agree, that is quite akward, I suppose it just depends how you feel about him. If you will never get over him, than tell the sister, ask the kid out. If you feel like you want to keep friendships etc... Then don't.

[brunza244311]

ok soo you hear ppl saying that age is just a number.. well in some cases that is very true! like this 18 month thing! not a big deal. you should deff. talk to him or ask him out i think you friend will be just fine with it its just getting past that akward stage of the crush and asking him out.

[devilsheep]

You seem like quite an intelligent person, so i'll keep my advice brief and let you decide what to do. Decide if you would be embarrassed of the fact that you are interested and quite possibly might try and start things up with a boy younger than you. Once you decided this, then it's easy from there. If people's judgement doesn't change your mind on things, then i think your solution is quite obvious.

On another note, when i was on vacation i met a girl who was a year younger than me, and i had the same sort of attraction to her as you do with this boy. I couldnt stop looking at her, and i barely even knew her. I didn't mind the fact that people knew i liked her. So yeah, its ultimately your decision.

On a side note, if you want to get to know him better, try and find out if he has myspace/facebook/bebo/msn/aim or any other sort of thing like that so you can talk to him online. It really helps with getting to know a person privately