What's the point?

[jjmcray]

I don't currently have a problem with this, and am not really worried about it right now. It's just something that came to my mind and I'm wondering about it.

Why do people even try dating in high school and stuff? Because face it, you know that you're probably not going to end up marrying that person or spending the rest of your life with them, and if you know it, why even try? Doesn't it seem pointless sometimes? Why spend all the money and time, and go through all the stress, if you know what the outcome will be?

[Oblivion]

"98% marry​ their​ 7-​​​​​​12th grade​ sweet​heart​s"
Not sure how accurate it is, but I think its fairly accurate.

[jjmcray]

"98% marry​ their​ 7-​​​​​​12th grade​ sweet​heart​s"
Not sure how accurate it is, but I think its fairly accurate.

Where'd you get that statistic from? I've always heard the opposite...
And perhaps that statistic is true, how long do they actually stay together after getting married?

[Sapphire]

Why do people even try dating in high school and stuff? Because face it, you know that you're probably not going to end up marrying that person or spending the rest of your life with them, and if you know it, why even try? Doesn't it seem pointless sometimes? Why spend all the money and time, and go through all the stress, if you know what the outcome will be?

Relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends do have positive aspects too. They give you a little "break" from the shit that goes on in life and you can have a good time and great laugh together. Just because it may not result in marriage, doesn't mean that it is a waste of time.

[byee]

When you look at all the agita surrounding 'going out' in high school, all the drama, all the angst, you do have to wonder what the point is. Aside from the drama, which I think results form 1) the competitive aspect of it, and 2) the insecurity-driven component to 'needing' it so bad, I think dating is a lot like anything else in life: The more you do it the better you get at it. So, if 'practice makes perfect', the more relationships you have, the more you get to know what you like and don't like, and recognize both sooner. The result? In theory, a better chance of selecting a more appropriate life partner.

[serial-thrilla]

the point seems obvious to me....happiness.

[Gumleaf]

Relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends do have positive aspects too. They give you a little "break" from the shit that goes on in life and you can have a good time and great laugh together. Just because it may not result in marriage, doesn't mean that it is a waste of time.

i agree with carole. teenage relationships are great. they make you feel good about yourself and you get that feeling that you are loved by someone, when sometimes you don't get that feeling in other aspects of life. and also, i'm not convinced that relationships you have in school can't lead to a happy relationship after school. call me naive, but i'm confident that my girlfriend now is the girl i'll be with for a long time after school is done! when it comes to the crunch, its all about how much you love eachother. when you start diving into stats to find reasons why school/teenage relationships don't work, then you probably should wait til after school before getting into relationships. but i honestly believe that if you are in love and happy, then there is no reason to believe that the relationship won't last beyond school or your teenage years.

[Atonement]

I have a huge problem with relationships, not so much with dating. Very different. Relationships are too serious for someone as immature as ourselves, and people get too attached to know that they are not right. Its just too serious and can hurt young people for a very long time. My friend killed herself after 4 years of dating a guy through junior high and start of highschool. Its just tooooo serious usually. If it is mutual and healthy, I have no problem.

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

Why do people even try dating in high school and stuff? Because face it, you know that you're probably not going to end up marrying that person or spending the rest of your life with them, and if you know it, why even try? Doesn't it seem pointless sometimes? Why spend all the money and time, and go through all the stress, if you know what the outcome will be?

Yeah, you're right. And I should quit my job, because I won't work at this arcade for the rest of my life. And why bother brushing my teeth? They won't stay clean for the rest of my life. And for that matter, my clothes won't fit me forever either, might as well skip those too.

[rsc4life]

Getting a little philosophical, are we? ;) Sometimes people need to start their romantic lives, they need to learn how to be in a steady (or somewhat alive) relationship first, because without any training, who says your guaranteed to find someone...