Homecoming Worries

[VoodooChild]

I feel kind of uneasy about posting this, because I know you're going to get the wrong idea about the type of guy I am. You'll probably think I'm some guy who's ever touched a girl and stays in his house 24/7, which is not the truth. In reality I've had girlfriends and been on dates and all that, but I've never had this particular dilemma before, and I'd just like some advice.

My school's homecoming dance is approaching (October 10th, I believe), and last Friday I asked a friend to go with me and she said yes. Here's the problem though - In my past four years of high school (I'm a senior, another reason why I feel really weird asking this), I haven't had a girlfriend during homecoming, and I never bothered asking finding a date. But now, since it's my last year, I figured I should do it. So I don't know what to expect.

Naturally, having not been to a real dance with a date before, I've never had to actually "dance" with a girl. I'm cool with the slow dancing crap, I've done that with friends at previous dances when I went just to hang out. The thing I'm worried about is the "grinding" crap. I feel kind of uneasy about it, and it's definitely not my type of thing, but if she wants to, I'm basically obligated to do it.

My question is: How am I going to know if she wants to? Do girls just straight up ask to do that kind of stuff? How awkward is it? What can I do to make it easier? Again, I feel pretty ridiculous asking this stuff, so please don't judge me by this question.

Thanks for your help. :D

[rsc4life]

You did ask a friend... Maybe she'll go easy on you/not be into really odd dancing... Or, another thing, you don't need to dance with your date for the entire thing...

[zackF.]

The grinding thing really isn't to bad and you will know if she wants to because she just start rubbing all over your junk and stuff but if you don't want to just avoid being on the dance floor during rap songs (which will probably be all of the songs if went to a high school like mine) anyway im sure it won't be to bad and just leave early with your friends and go to a party or something instead of staying the whole time

[VoodooChild]

Come on, guys. Please help me out. D:

[staying_alive]

dude i think you're lucky that you can grind in the first place. our school is "face to face and leave some space." first of all, you'll know if SHE wants to grind. if she's the quieter, shyer type, she'll most likely not start rubbing all over you. and i know some girls who are just too polite, but most of them expect the guy to make them grind. if she wants to grind, she'll either say something or when you guys go out on the dance floor, she'll just move closer to you.

second of all, just MOVE WITH THE BEAT. guys can't dance in the first place; i find that very few can, and i'm definitely one who can't. but i'm also the one that's having the best time, just goofing off at times in the major group of people dancing, and when a girl sort of backs up on me (and the administration isn't watching) you just sort of flow with it.

Finally, as sort of a "last resort", just ask her. if you guys are friends, ask her what her opinion is on it. something like "hey, i don't want to be awkward or anything, but at the homecoming dance, what's your opinion on grinding? i don't want to push you into anything, especially since i have no idea what i'm doing in the first place." just jump right into dancing, and you'll be fine, go with the flow.

[justateen93]

well homecoming is in schools so im not sure if she would grind on u but u know her better then me