my secret

[bloo ppl]

ok well i've had lots of treads like this but bare w/ me. ok well as some of may kno (or not) i am bi. and well i've told only my closest friends. but i sometime want to go ahead and tell everyone, but then i think of the bad things that may follow, and chicken out. i was just wondering. wich do you think is better: tell everyone and not care what others say. or just keep it between me and my closest friends.?

[Atonement]

Well it shouldn't matter to you whether everyone knows or not. Like, I had this person in my school that literally went around to people saying " I am bisexual now." I was like wtf? I have nothing against it, but why should it matter that everyone knows? It shouldn't. Its not like its some requirement to go ahead and tell everyone. Its not that big of a deal. Just live your life as you want, and don't care if or not you NEED to announce it. Why is it their business anyway?

[Sapphire]

If I were you then I would only tell the people I was comfortable telling or who needed to know for some reason. It shouldn't matter if you don't tell anyone else. After all, it is your business and your life.

[ShatteredWings]

just friends

if people find out, who cares.

[Callwaiting]

If I was you I'd just bring it up when it needs to be brought up. I don't run around telling people I'm straight, but I guess thats a lot different.

Maybe the next time somebody says something like "you're so gay" just be like nah I'm actually bi, get it right!
I think you'll find most people will be cool with you being bi, after the first shock. people tend to be more freaked out by guys who are gay.

[rsc4life]

Keep it with your friends... If you care about people knowing, make it the people who care about you!

[byee]

WHOA! Where'd you get the idea that if you only tell close, trusted friends and not the entire world you're 'chickening out'?! I rather think that strategy shows excellent judgement!

People tend to think that the 'rules' of self disclosure somehow change when it comes to sexuality, for some there's this need to share with people what you feel about yourself. I'm not sure where that comes from, maybe it's the need for approval, but there's a genuine risk involved when you actually share something so personal with people who are unprepared or otherwise not expecting it. So, I think a more nuanced approach is in order here, sharing this info only with people and in situations that are 'safe' for you, and them, too.

Otherwise, you might try to see this disclosure not so much as sexual, but like many other things you don't necessarily share, like when your last bowel movement was.

[waterplayer]

i would keep it between my closest freinds or people will start talking
(FOR ME MABY NOT U) and i would be an outcast (ME)

[brunza244311]

you should get it off your chest, no one should care about your sexuality and if it bothers them they can go fuck them self because it is your choice who you like and if that makes you happy then you should go with it and i wish you all the luck in the world in what ever your decision is.

[Silver Assassin]

I have a deep secret too... I want to be a mermaid:-(

[fast8]

yea i tell your closet friends not everyone needs to know an if they fine out should not matter

[Ambrosia]

I'ma merman. Please don't bump! :locked: