Big boobed dilemma

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I have a problem and need some advice;
I'm planning on asking out this girl who I have been close friends with for years She's been single for a couple of months and doesn't seem to want a boyfriend for one simple reason.
She has huge boobs, easily biggest in school and every time she goes out with someone all they seem to want to do is touch and see her boobs. How do I manage to make her know that I fancy her for other reasons not just for her amazing figure?

[Callwaiting]

By being friends with her for years!
Just don't mention it :)

[byee]

First, how do you know that she beleives all guys want her for are her boobs? Has she said this, or are you assuming it, or is it just gossip?

I think the way to reassure her that you like her for who she is rather than what she's got is to take your time to get to know her and be her firend for a while and studiously NOT stare at, mention , or otherwise attend to her breasts in any way, shape or form. If she has a history of being used for her breasts, then i;m sure she;s aware of a pattern, where guys eventually make her breasts a major part of their attention. By not doing that, you increase the probability of her trusting you. It just takes a little longer.

When people are sensitive about something about themselves, they become apprehensive. It means that you have to take extra time and extra care to reassure them that you're not going to do something to reinforce their mistrust or otherwise reinforce their apprehension, and this is most easily done not only with you words (later on), but also with your actions. So, with time, they'll feel less vulnerable. Just give it a bit more time.

[ShatteredWings]

Eyes off :P

from a girl. that is the only way :P

ya know, be, like a friend first. It is annoying when people wanna date you just like emediatly after meeting you. really

[rsc4life]

Well, you said you are friends with her, so do something special for her. Bring her flowers maybe, try not to get caught staring at her chest, and connect more emotionally with her. You seem to have already done that.

[A.J.]

Dont look down when your asking. Thats It. She'll trust you if your close friends. And seriously dont look down. I know its hard.

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Thanks for all the answers. Just to respond to a few;

IAMSAM - First, how do you know that she beleives all guys want her for are her boobs? Has she said this, or are you assuming it, or is it just gossip?

She definitely knows people want her boobs, the last few boyfriends she had kept groping her.

A.J. - Dont look down when your asking. Thats It. She'll trust you if your close friends. And seriously dont look down. I know its hard.

Lol, they're pretty hard to miss but i will keep my eye's up high, she's caught me glimpsing a few times before but obviously not enough for us not to be friends.

rsc4life - Well, you said you are friends with her, so do something special for her. Bring her flowers maybe, try not to get caught staring at her chest, and connect more emotionally with her. You seem to have already done that.

I'm going to buy her a CD or her favourite band, i've bought her gifts before but this one has to be special. I'm still pondering on what to say, probably something similiar to what I said to my previous GF that worked

[DaretoFallup]

leave em alone dont look at em or in that area look at HER and not her body make sure she knows you want her for who she is

[doktored]

Good news people, I went and bought her the CD and asked her out and she said yes. I'm not single again!! Plus, i'm sleeping over at her's tonight, i'm on her computer as I type, she's in the shower :)

[byee]

Gratz! Just be a good boy here, do NOT even glance at her chest! (Lots of eye contact and smile a lot, instead).

[rsc4life]

Good news people, I went and bought her the CD and asked her out and she said yes. I'm not single again!! Plus, i'm sleeping over at her's tonight, i'm on her computer as I type, she's in the shower :)


congrats!

[dmeek7]

Good news people, I went and bought her the CD and asked her out and she said yes. I'm not single again!! Plus, i'm sleeping over at her's tonight, i'm on her computer as I type, she's in the shower-quote.....(i dont know how to quote.........y werent u in the shower with her...jkjkjk

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

try not to get caught staring at her chest

This answer trumps the others because you still have permission to look.

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Thanks for the congrats people, to Kill7us, we're just beginning first base lol.

[jjmcray]

Good news people, I went and bought her the CD and asked her out and she said yes. I'm not single again!! Plus, i'm sleeping over at her's tonight, i'm on her computer as I type, she's in the shower :)


Wow... how did her parents manage to allow that? Unless there are other people sleeping over too...?
Or, how old is she?