something is wrong with me

[MrTeen14]

ok so i am really confused, i had a dream, where i was swimming and i got onto a raft when i was really tired, and a friend of mine, wearing a tight pair of boxer breifs, (and i was in that too) crawled onto the raft, (accidentally or on purpose, idk it was a dream remember) and he was on top of, me, and he kinda got his penis up my butt, and then i really like it, and we started to do more, and then i woke up and i couldn't sleep because i was thinking about it all night, then when i finally did get back to sleep, the dream continued, and started over, but with a better friend of mine, and i was really turned on, and now all i can do is think of that dream and really enjoy it and want it to happen for real...

why am i so confused, i am so angry right now, i don't know what to do... i try to think about other things, but it is all i can think about, and it really turns me on, and sometimes i find myself thinking about what "could" happen in another dream... what is wrong with me

[cjdude]

nothing is wrong with you...
i have experienced the same things pretty recently too.
maybe two months back.
i had a similar dream, but switch the raft with a hammock.
anyway.
thats all i could think of during school and whatever i would be doing.
the only thing that crossed my mind was my really close friend.
it was especially terrible when i would see him in person.

Eventually i slowly drifted on to other things in thought.
doing homework and really trying to focus on math and stuff that requires full brain power helps a lot.
i also spaced out my j/o sessions.
not fantasizing is the best thing i could come up with.
good luck, bro.
it'll all work out.

[MrTeen14]

ya it is hard to see the person isn't it, ok so part of my dream came true, i was changing for gym, i never get boners in gym, i am not like that when i am actually around lots of guys, i guess i like it in secret, but the friend of mine from the dream came up to talk to me in nothing but his small boxer briefs, i had to cut the convesation short because i started to remmember the dream, and i looked for a few seconds, and it really turned me on and i feel like a feak!

[Sapphire]

There is nothing wrong with you. It was a dream and therefore something you don't have any control over. It is normal to be aroused by sexual dreams. Your curiosity is, dare I say, also normal.

Give it time, like cjdude pointed out, and you will find these thoughts are less important and less invasive than they are at the moment.

[cjdude]

in your confrontation in the locker room:
you did the right thing.
dont feel like a freak.
odds are, the guy has had a similar dream and has been just as freaked as you.
and if not, im sure he will someday.
dont worry, you'll be fine :]

---Thanks "Sugar_and_Spice"! :]

[MrTeen14]

im just so confused, and right now, all i can think about is the dream, and why would he have a similar dream?

[Sapphire]

What is confusing you in particular?
Is it the fact that you dreamt of doing sexual things with a male friend?

[MrTeen14]

well, yes, but the main confusing part is wanting it to happen for real, and its all i think about when i go to sleep nowadays.

[Sapphire]

Take a deep breath and relax. Your curiosity and desire to experiment is nothing bad or to be ashamed of.
I think that you will find that your hormones are responsible for these seemingly unshakable thoughts/desires. During puberty your hormones are all over the place. Give them time to settle down and let yourself enjoy the ride. There is no rush to label and categorise yourself.

[MrTeen14]

odds are, the guy has had a similar dream and has been just as freaked as you.


then why would he come up to me almost naked

[Sapphire]

then why would he come up to me almost naked

He was saying that your friend has probably experienced and dealt with what you are faced with at the moment so as to reassure you that you aren't a freak.

[MrTeen14]

well i doubt it, i bet nobody in my school is like me now

[byee]

He came up to you 'almost naked' b/c he was in a locker room! I think it struck you the way it did b/c it reminded you of the dream.

You're overreacting to the content of the dream and it's meaning. Sometimes, we dream b/c stuff is on our minds and it's a way to work it out. Sometimes we dream, just because. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, it's just a random 'thought dump'.

Sexual feelings of all sorts are a normal part of adolescence, so it makes some sense that they;d be part of dreaming. All those dreams indicate is that you're in puberty, and puberty doesn't stop at bed time. Your curiosity about sexual things with your friends or with certain body parts is just part if that. Dreaming about it is arousing, you remember your dreams (and the arousal) into the day.

With time, the dream, as well as the feelings and urges, fade. Until then, try not to overreact to them, they're just manifestations of puberty, they don't reveal some secret about you.

[MrTeen14]

i get a dream like this about 1 time a week, and this one i described, was almost a week ago,

[Sapphire]

Dreams are not manifestations of your "hidden desires" or even your "real self". The dream analysts in the world can't tell you anymore about yourself than you already know.

Most of the kids (boys and girls) at your school will have had similar dreams and are either facing or have faced the confusion that you are in.

The desire to do this stuff in real life is a result of natural curiosity. Some go through with these desires and others don't. You are most definitely not alone in any of this.

[MrTeen14]

well i feel a little better now that i told someone

[Sapphire]

That is good to hear.
Just remember that this is nothing to feel ashamed over :)