New Date

[CrazyGamer]

I have a new date. I asked her out this Monday and got a yes on a date sometime this week. She said she had a really busy schedule, which I'm willing to work with... She gave me her phone which I apparently got wrong the first time. Twice, I told her I'd be eating lunch outside and she said she'd be outside (we have lunch the class after), but I couldn't find her the whole time, which I thought was strange. I was outside, but I never even saw her go into the lunchroom until the second time, which I told her I'd be outside, but I never saw her come out. Then, when I tried to call the wrong number, I obviously got a "number out of service" message, so I asked her two days later (I also can never find her in the mornings) what her phone number was and I got the right one. I tried to call her and all I got was an answering machine. I can understand this since she said she had a busy schedule. I asked her the next day why I couldn't get a hold of at 8 o'clock or 5 and she said that she was doing something after school and she lives far from school so it''s a long drive home. (Hard to explain, long story...) Then she told me that she couldn't get calls after 8. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and still didn't get an answer. I just want some advice on this because I feel like she's avoiding me. Maybe because she gets nervous around me or maybe because she just doesn't like me. But my question is, if she doesn't like me, why would she say that a date would be fine? I'm getting mixed feeling here and I don't know what to do. Am I being too forced or am I moving too fast. Or maybe I'm moving too slowly. I don't know what to do. Im going to see her in band tomorrow and I don't know what to say if I can't get a hold of her tonight. Should I confront her with the problem or what? Just need some help. I really like her and have been thinking about asking her out for a while but just recently built up the courage and I'm wondering if that was a bad mistake. Please help!

[Gumleaf]

the first thing that comes to mind with this, and i'm sorry to say it, but there are too many coincidences of things going wrong here. i honestly think that she was agreeable to go out with you as to not to hurt you by saying no. but now because she has done that, she has to come up with excuses as to not spend time with you, such as giving you the wrong phone number and when she finally gave you the right one leaving the answering machine on so she doesn't have to answer. maybe i have a negative view on this, but it honestly sounds like she is finding ways to avoid you.

[Nihilus]

I have to agree with gumleaf. I would confront her and ask her why she's avoiding you.

[byee]

It IS confusing. the antidote to confusion? Information. the way to get information? Ask.

Ask her what's going on, tell her you've been trying to maintain contact to no avail. See what she says, and see if she corrects it.

[dmeek7]

it really sounds like shes ignoring u.....and shes telling u shel go out with u to make u leave her alone....but....idk...maybe shes not....maybe she is really busy

[normanford]

she's busy or she's avoiding you...
i really think that she may be busy, and like gumleaf said, coincidences happen

[CrazyGamer]

Well, I hate to say this, but over the weekend, she just happened to get a boyfriend. Chances? None to negative one. She hadn't had a boyfriend for over a year from what I could tell considering I had never seen her with anyone all last year. It's not that she's not pretty, she just doesn't ask guys out, and guys, well, just don't ask her out. She's really pretty and has a great personality, but no one really knows her. She very open, it's just that nobody has a major interest. Except for me, of course. I don't know... And one thing that caught me off guard was one of her friends who sits behind me in a class was talking to me and I asked her if she would mind being my friend on facebook. She said it would be okay. But then she said really quickly and under her breath, "But you've practically been stalking Kaitlyn (my ex-date, if that is such a thing...)." I asked her again what she said, but she wouldn't repeat it. It has been bothering me ever since. I don''t know what I did wrong, but, man, did it catch me off guard. Oh well, there's the rest of life that I have to worry about. Time to move on. As I once said to a friend after he got turned down on a date: "Well, maybe for better... The least you can do is keep trying. There's always someone out there who is willing to spend some quality time with you..." I should get that engraved on something, although I don't know what. Maybe a divorce gift? (no offense intended) lolz.

[Gumleaf]

Well, I hate to say this, but over the weekend, she just happened to get a boyfriend. Chances? None to negative one. She hadn't had a boyfriend for over a year from what I could tell considering I had never seen her with anyone all last year. It's not that she's not pretty, she just doesn't ask guys out, and guys, well, just don't ask her out. She's really pretty and has a great personality, but no one really knows her. She very open, it's just that nobody has a major interest. Except for me, of course. I don't know... And one thing that caught me off guard was one of her friends who sits behind me in a class was talking to me and I asked her if she would mind being my friend on facebook. She said it would be okay. But then she said really quickly and under her breath, "But you've practically been stalking Kaitlyn (my ex-date, if that is such a thing...)." I asked her again what she said, but she wouldn't repeat it. It has been bothering me ever since. I don''t know what I did wrong, but, man, did it catch me off guard. Oh well, there's the rest of life that I have to worry about. Time to move on. As I once said to a friend after he got turned down on a date: "Well, maybe for better... The least you can do is keep trying. There's always someone out there who is willing to spend some quality time with you..." I should get that engraved on something, although I don't know what. Maybe a divorce gift? (no offense intended) lolz.

thats not good, but what is good is that you have a positive attitude and are ready to move on. thats a great attitude to have. and you are right, there will definetly be someone out there for you.