Boners

[Fireball15]

I was wondering since I usually only get turned on by naked men what should I do when Im having sex for the first time with a girl and I don't know if I'll get a boner, should I tell her I need to run to the bathroom first and start playing with myself to get it hard or what?

[southcarolina]

Chances are if you're about to have sex, it'll give you a pretty good erection, it's just your body's natural preparation.

[pontiacdriver]

I was wondering since I usually only get turned on by naked men what should I do when Im having sex for the first time with a girl and I don't know if I'll get a boner, should I tell her I need to run to the bathroom first and start playing with myself to get it hard or what?

I am guessing that you have a concern about your sexuality and how you will be able to have relations with a female in light of your being aroused by men. You need to keep in mind that being gay is so much more than simply getting turned on by another guy as homosexuality is BOTH the desire to have relations with someone of the same sex in an emotional AND physical way. If you honestly know for a fact that you are gay, then it is really not fair to a girl that you go out with her when you know that you can never be totally into her.

My guess is that you are developing and that you might be somewhat self-conscious about your body. You may see features on more developed guys that you wish that you have on your own body thus causing you to get really aroused when you see such features. For example, if you really want to have a "six pack" on your own body, then you might get really horny when you see a guy with a "six pack" floating around. Basically, don't let your desire for a more developed body make you think that you are incapable of liking a female figure if you are indeed straight.

When you engage in sexual activity with a person it really should be after a long process of getting to know the other person and developing a deep love for her. Sex is sharing yourself in BOTH a physical and sexually way, and if you are really in love with your partner, then getting an erection is really going to be a non-issue as it will happen naturally. If you have to force yourself to become aroused when you are with your partner, then you might need to re evaluate your overall relationship with that person.

[Tessa James]

yer i kinda have the same problem, i get a boner watching female porn, but i mainly get off on gay male porn

[byee]

I think the short (and correct) answer is that when the time is right, you'll get an erection and be able to have sex.

Right now, it sounds like you're not quite there yet, so you don't understand how it all works. That's fine, don't fret about it too much, b/c what you're experiencing now is just telling you that you're not ready for sex yet. You're still developing, not only physically but mentally/emotionally as well, and your experience with erections now are more reflective of that ongoing development, rather than the final result. You haven't gotten to the light at the end of the tunnel yet!

It'll work when it supposed to, it's an automatic thing. Until then, try not to misread what's going on now as anything more than normal development.