it turned in to alot more...

[Travtheman95]

:confused::mad::(:eek:ok, so my two friends stayed the night at my house the other night. My mom had gone out to a party and was gone for a long time. My friends and i decided to masturbate to porn, but it turned in to more then that, i got really uncomfortable and wanted to stop. They started to have sex in my bedroom and then made a move on me. I kind of want to stay away from them now. What do i say to them, what do i do?

[Mzor203]

First, you have to talk to them, and tell them that what they did was NOT okay. Because it wasn't, in any way, any form. If they apologize sincerely, that's great. But if they give you guff about it, you have to refrain from inviting them over to your house any more. Keep your distance maybe, and they'll eventually see that what they did was a problem, if they are actually your friends. If not, maybe it's time to move on from them, at least until they come to their senses.

[Oblivion]

I agree with Rex
You have to tell them what they did was wrong, and really not OK.
After that, if you still feel like you don't want to hang with them, either tell them, or kind of... Slowly drift apart.
Best would probably be to tell them
'Hey, sorry, but you guys are a little bit too crazy for me, I don't think i really fit in with you'

[John Marston]

sorry for long comment but read it.
having sex? is it oral or anal sex oral sex(sucking penis(for boys) and borderline for experimenting(you are allowed to do it but nothing more than that(nothing more extreme than that)))or anal(anal 1= penis up analhole anal 2= finger up anal hole) if its anal sex type 1 then tell them its illegal because it is only when you're 18 are you allowed to do that if its anal sex type 2 then thats ok and its normal but if you dont want to do it to anyone other than you or not do it at all thats normal too or if its oral sex then thats normal but tell them that they cant do anything like anal sex type 1(penis into analhole)is not allowed. its always healthy to experiment if you still like these friends(they must have ben good friends if you masterbated together) then tell them that you weren't comfortable making a move on you and they should not try anything when you 3 spend the night alone together and fif they try having sex again tell them not around you. dont be surprised if you make up in the middle of the night(or anytime in the night) and they are having sex while you were asleep. OR you could just not be friends anymore but talk to one of you're friends privately and ask them if they have fellings for the other friend and vice versa fi they turn out to be homosexual then tyhat would explain it just clarify with them that you're not gay either

[byee]

Yeah, there's always a risk to 'experimenting'. A lot of people sorta rationalize whatever they're doing by saying it's 'just' experimentation or curiosity. But, the thing is, when you're doing something new with another person, there's no way to predict what they'll do in that situation. And, as you're discovering, when you do physical stuff out of 'curiosity' there's a lot of emotions that get stirred up. And that's what you're responding to now, those feelings.

I'd recommend you stay away from them, I think the relationship, previously 'just' friends, has been contaminated by this sexual experience. You're seeing them differently, you're experiencing them differently. What you've seen has changed things, and your feelings, too. Sex will do that sometimes, you got yourself into a situation you weren't expecting or prepared for. You need some time to sort things out, or at least have them settle down a bit. The best way to do that is to stay away for a while, and at least have things in the rest of your life resume their normal routine.

You might let them know that what happened at your house unsettled you, and that you need a bit of space. And in that space, you'll feel less vulnerable and maybe whatever you enjoyed about them as 'friends' will re emerge in the future and you'll want to resume the friendship. But then again, maybe not, and you'll need to stay away permanently.

[Requin]

Well you can't say we didn't warn people. Everyone is always banging on (no pun intended) about how risky masturbating with friends is. This kind of thing ruins friendships and has.
In your case, stay away from them, you may come to like them again, eventually, but you never know.
But talk to them and say that it made you uncomfortable and you don't want to be around them for a while, just to clear your head. We don't know what will happen to you and your friends so, i can only say the best of luck to you and i hope that it all turns out fine for you.

[southcarolina]

I agree with what everyone else says, and actually in the south where I live the legal age is 16

[John Marston]

i agree. i think that you should have some ALONE time to clear your head(not to do anything else) and stay away from them for a while.and if you feel that you dont want to stay away from them then you may have sexual feelings towards them and thats healthy and fine too dont forget that being homosexual is completely fine but so is being bisexual and straight.if need be you may need to see a psychiatrist(sp?) about this incidnet or maybe(and more preferably) your school's student support. or maybe another 1 of your good friends your other friend(if you wish to speak to)dosnet spread rumors about them.anyway i think you have had a good eneough explanantion to the many things you can do now its time to act or as some people have said NOT act and stay away from this "problem" for a while just to clear your head but dont hesistate to ask for some advice again. good luck to you on your problem