Weird situation, for me

[cj4976]

I broke up with my girlfriend 2 weeks before i went to school. We had been on and off and back on for almost 4 months now. I broke up with her this time becuase i realize we have different views on relationships and spending time etc. It just doesnt seem like we could work out. but we stayed friends and it only took two times seeing her that we started hooking up and doing things again. we both know that we dont work as a couple but we still have feelings for each other and thats whats keeping it going. It seems rly strange to me and i debate it a lot if its right to keep seeing her or move on. Im in college, freshman year and there are so many other people, but i feel really attached to her and she feels the same, and I dont want to drop it.

any opinions?

[hikatie]

Hmmm. That is quite a situation. When you went off to school, is it a school close or far away from where she lives? If it's far away I think maybe separating could be a good idea. But if you're still living close to her and you both still care for each other I don't see what's wrong with continuing your relationship. Just because you're a freshman in college doesn't necessarily mean you have to drop it and experiment with other women. If you really don't want to drop it then you shouldn't. Unless you really believe things can't work out between you, then dragging it on can be a very stressful and emotional weight.

You and I are both in strange situations. :P

[Mzor203]

Well, if you love her and she loves you, what exactly is the problem? If you can have different, conflicting views on how relationships should be, but you guys are still attached and like each other, I think you should stay together if you can.

Many couples have very different views on many subjects, but they still manage to love each other and not let those conflicting points get in the way of their relationship. It seems like that's what's happening here, and it's perfectly okay. I think you guys are well off. ;)

[cj4976]

to answer the first post, yes were still living close, about 30 mins away from my school is where she is. and i dont know how a relationship could work out just with our views. such as, me being myself is too clingy for her, in terms of me wanting to see her. college seems to fixing that though. and now that i think about it, it seems like our differences could be resolved sometime in the future. its just a weird feeling being together but not "together"
and yea i read your post. your in quite a strange one yourself

and thanks celeritas too, that helped with my thoughts

[hikatie]

If you think that you'll be able to resolve your differences than maybe you should try to wait it out and see if it all works out with her. ;)

[rsc4life]

Well, if you guys do like eachother, why not stay as friends? The Jerry/Elaine thing? I know that sounds difficult, but you can spend time with her and enjoy her company without having to go out with her...