Sort of an odd situation

[hikatie]

This isn't about my relationship with my boyfriend, but more about my relationship with two other people. Not a relationship like love or sex - or anything quite like that.


So, I've got this really close friend named Jesse. He's one of my best friends, and has been for a long time. He's kind of dating a girl named Lola. Then there is this guy named Richie, who tried to make Lola break up with Jesse and fall in love with him, blah blah blah. He did a bunch of really, really mean things to Jesse. Jesse's relationship with Lola has been really rocky lately and he's been coming to me for support and someone to talk to. A lot. And Richie has recently been making extreme efforts to spend time with me, and calling me at strange hours just to talk about nothing, and giving me cute nicknames, et cetera. Jesse caught onto this and got really jealous. Need I remind you, I'm not Jesse's girlfriend. Just tonight he basically told me not to speak to Richie. But I can't do that. I can't just stop talking to someone, especially someone that thinks so fondly of me. I can't be mean to someone. At the same time I feel really awful for hurting Jesse by having a friendship with someone who ripped apart his relationship with someone he loved.

[hikatie]

(Too tired to edit main post right now)

On a side note -- Today when he told me to stop talking to Richie this is basically what happened: I told him there was plenty of "Katielove" to go around, to ease up the tense conversation, and he replied that he doesn't want to have to share any of my love. I'm not really sure what that means, considering he knows that I'm already in a relationship. I don't know, it's all kind of confusing.

[Zephyr]

Jesse shouldn't be telling you who you can talk to and who you can't.
If you want to talk to Richie, then by all means do it.
If you don't want to talk to him, then don't.
I understand that Jesse is upset,
But he can't go dragging you into his hate for Richie,
Since Richie did nothing to you personally.

Just explain to Jesse that it's them two that have a problem,
Not you and Richie,
And that you can talk to whomever you want.

He'll calm down in time more or less.

[hikatie]

I tried once, but I wasn't quite able to say it. I have trouble saying no to people.

[hikatie]

I just got a text message from Jesse ending with "love you, see you later<3"

Oh, god. Whaaaaaaaaat the fuck is going on?!

[Zazu]

I think you need to tell him that you are getting vibes that he like you as more than a friend, then explain to him that you are already in a relationship. I think it's best to nip these kinda things in the bud so to say; stop anything that might be happening atm before it escalates further.

[Gumleaf]

I think you need to tell him that you are getting vibes that he like you as more than a friend, then explain to him that you are already in a relationship. I think it's best to nip these kinda things in the bud so to say; stop anything that might be happening atm before it escalates further.

maybe its the way i am, but by just saying "love you" doesn't necessarily means he likes you as more then friends. i say "love you" to friends all the time, but it doesn't mean i want more then that.

[hikatie]

maybe its the way i am, but by just saying "love you" doesn't necessarily means he likes you as more then friends. i say "love you" to friends all the time, but it doesn't mean i want more then that.
I'm the same way too, though I've never heard him say it to anyone besides his girlfriend.


We ended up hanging out today, though we barely spoke. We ended up watching The Pianist. Needless to say, I was pretty much bawling through the whole thing, and I just wanted to go home afterwards.