My Dad.

[The Batman]

Ok so I logged off of here and I decided to check my myspace and I have a message from my sister. She told me that Our dad is suppose to get out of jail around October 9. I love my dad and I found out he went to jail on my birthday(also my first day cutting) this year. I was planning on seeing him the day after my birthday but I couldn't. I really do want to see my dad cause he's a lot different from when we were together. He's a lot nicer and he acts like he loves us. I just don't know what to do it's been months since I've talked to him, and I just don't know what to say.

[ObamaBiden08]

I can't help very much because thats never happened to me but I can tell you 1 thing when you do visit him tell him that you have missed him very much and give him a huge hug. Sorry if that didn't help I tried my best. Like before, nothing like this has happened to me. I hope everything works out for you.

[Zephyr]

Just tell him how much you loved him and missed him,
Catch up on what's new,
Pick up where you left off.

[Mzor203]

I see how this could be a bit awkward or uncomfortable for you, not seeing him for so long. Just tell him that you love him. Do as Steph advised.

Also, you may want to try to stay away from an conversation pertaining to him being in jail. He will probably be ashamed of it, and there's no need to bring it up for a while unless he himself initiates the conversation. Just show him that you care, and that you won't judge him.

[The Batman]

Trust me he won't be ashamed of it he turned himself in and it's not the first time he's been locked. Beside it was only for drinking and driving. I might start off by calling him then just try and go visit him. Most likely he'll do most of the talking so all I gotta do is sit and smile.

[Mzor203]

Well that's good, I know a lot of people would be touchy on that, so it sounds like it's going to be fine. I think your plan is a good one.

[byee]

Yeah, absences can create awkwardness. Just start with 'Hi', and see where it goes.

You and he have a relationship, so what's awkward is the time and space b'twn you. However, there are other things which might/should become apparent once you see him, which wil make it easier.

Relax, take it slow, and let it flow.

[pontiacdriver]

Ok so I logged off of here and I decided to check my myspace and I have a message from my sister. She told me that Our dad is suppose to get out of jail around October 9. I love my dad and I found out he went to jail on my birthday(also my first day cutting) this year. I was planning on seeing him the day after my birthday but I couldn't. I really do want to see my dad cause he's a lot different from when we were together. He's a lot nicer and he acts like he loves us. I just don't know what to do it's been months since I've talked to him, and I just don't know what to say.

The best way to start off any conversation with your Father is to simply say that you missed him terribly and that you love him. From there other good conversation pieces to bring up could be the following:

1) a recent accomplishment in your life
2) recount a funny encounter that you have had or have seen on television
3) If there is a mutual hobby that you both share in common (i.e. fishing), then you can talk about recent developments or enhancements that have been made in that field.

Perhaps a good way to make your Father feel like he is making a fresh start and that he is welcome is by organizing a coming home party. You really don't need to do anything fancy as you can go to a party supply store and get decorations for under $20, and you can have a barbeque to cut down on food expenses.

Good luck, and it is good to hear that your Father is returning.