Depressed about social life

[The_Creator]

Hi Guys, i'v been getting really depressed recently, i Used to have this great group of friends and we all hung out with eachother every week. but ever sinse, we seem to have been drifting apart, it has only really just hit me just now and it's really getting me down. one of them especially has made new friends and he is never the same as he used to be. i used to have 6 really close friends about a year or two ago, now i have 1. this whole situation is getting me very depressed, angry and frustrated. I really don't know what to do and saying "don't worry it will get better" doesn't help. I also have another issue. There is this dude who is in my classes at school, I just can't read him at all, i don't know whether he is my friend or not, i can hardly just ask him "are you my friend" without sounding like a total looser. I really want to get to know him better as well but he also has alot of friends and it is hard to find a good time. Both issues really concern me and i would appreciate it if i could have some feed-back for both problems. I'm seriously depressed about this and i know that someone of my age should not be getting depressed.

[thesphinx]

Hi I'm Mike, Welcome to VT!
Regarding your old friends I think you should talk to them about how you feel and see what they have to say because they don't know how you are feeling without you communicating with them, and that is what friendship is about communication.
And who knows maybe they feel like you are drifting apart to and walk to fix it.

About your knew friend just get together with him sometime, that's how you will get to know each other better.

[Requin]

Right, welcome to VT!
Problem 1) Well the best advice I can give is to, as Mike says talk to your friends about it. Say to them, why are we drifting apart from each other? And see what they say. Communication to friends is the most important thing, and expressing your feelings about your friendship is also very important to make sure that it lasts and runs smoothly.
Of course, no friends are perfect, you'll fall out, everyone does that but just talk to them, you never know what they might say. Organise to go somewhere out with them, anywhere I don't know what's around by you so, park to play a sport, theme park anything. Try it, you never know.

Problem 2) Well as Mike said, spend some more time with him, talk to him more and see what happens. I'm sorry but with both problems your going to have to gamble. BUt it doesn't have to be like that. Ask him to do something with you (keep clear minds please). Go out with him and his other friends if that goes well and if one thing leads to another you never know.
You could find yourself with a whole bunch of new friends. I hope this helped and I hope things go well for you.

[The_Creator]

thanks for the advice, just to say this dude in my class, i only want to be his friend. i'm a dude also, and not gay ^^

[thesphinx]

Keep us updated :D

[Sapphire]

AS people grow up, they change. Friends drift apart and form different friendship groups. It is all part and parcel of life. The trick to not feeling left behind is not really dwelling on what you no longer have with some of your older friends, but working on building good relationships with new friends.
That isn't to say that you should forget them all. Meeting up every fortnight or something and going to the cinema can be a nice way for you all to keep in touch and reconnect.

[Requin]

thanks for the advice, just to say this dude in my class, i only want to be his friend. i'm a dude also, and not gay ^^

I realised that anyway, but thanks for the thanks. :-)
Keep us informed of how it goes won't you.