Boners for the right person

[MrTeen14]

ok, so i am inda in a delema, i get boners a lot, in class, at home, all of the time, i have kinda earned to control them, so anyways...

whenever i thought about the girl i liked, nothing happened, but whenever i thought about guys naked and stuff, i got hard, why is this? i really like this girl but i can't really "prove it"

[iJack]

You have to get a boner to prove it to a girl? Thats just sad, if you like here, she should beleve you. If not, then dont try

It also could be hormones, the naked guy part.

[Neverender]

hormones make you feel attracted more to those of the same sex(causing the confused sexuality and urge to jack off with friends) and thats why you get boners when you think of guys and stuff. it'll go in time

[byee]

iJack, in his usual, blunt style gets right to the heart of the matter!

"Proof" for attraction, be it emotional or physical, can't (and shouldn't) be determined by getting an erection. It's a bit more than that.

Many guys believe (quite wrongfully) that they should always be redy for any sexual encounter anytime, anywhere, and with anyone. This is really false, it often takes a lot to focus one's attention and arousal on one particular person, b/c in order for 'evolved' men to respond, they need both physical attraction, as well as emotional connection. That's why it's easy to get turned on by strangers or people we hardly know (including porn), b/c it's impersoanl, all we need is the physical image to get going.

When you know someone a bit and like them a bit, it's not so impersonal, but it's not personal enough to feel totally comfortable and safe being aroused. There's a vulnerability in acknowledging or showing arousal. That's why the random girlie on the street will do it for you, and why the guys in the locker room will, too. It's impersonal enough to not feel embarassed but yet sexual enough to trigger the arousal. And, since penises are by their nature sexual, they're arousing, so looking at them in locker rooms triggers that arousal, for some.

[Requin]

Usual answer here. You can't define that your gay just from getting a boner. It's a part of your body. YOur arm doesn't tell you that you fancy a girl does it?
Your penis doesn't have a brain, your body reacts to when you get aroused sexually (what other arousal is there?) by having loads of blood pump through to your penis and it does something very clever by sort of, turning off the 'out' vien in your penis, so all the blood stays in your penis and you get an erection!
So it's just your hormones controlling your thoughts and not to mention your body.
And what Sam said but i can't be bothered to repeat it.

[Boeing]

ok, so i am inda in a delema, i get boners a lot, in class, at home, all of the time, i have kinda earned to control them, so anyways...

whenever i thought about the girl i liked, nothing happened, but whenever i thought about guys naked and stuff, i got hard, why is this? i really like this girl but i can't really "prove it"

Probly cause you have seen naked guys(yourself) and you haven seen a women naked in real life.. my 2 cents

[John Marston]

you cant actually control when you get boners/erections and because you get hard over naked guys(like me too and im not gay) its just your hormones and curiosity