Mass Depression at Random Moments...

[iphone3ghunt]

Sometimes I feel really, really depressed.

For example, on certain days i'll just break into tears...

It mainly happens when I think about my past during my happy days, when my parents were still together...
Or if something ends, not like an episode of something, but if something is cancelled, or someone anyone dies...

I really would like help overcoming this depression.

Thanks

[Atonement]

Hey, welcome to Vt, I am addison.

I don't really see where you call that random moments for. Especially when tis dirtectly corrilated to a specific event. Well if you ever want to talk further than this feelf ree to PM me

[byee]

I think Addison's got this one. It sounds like the depression is there for you more or less constantly, but you become aware of it at specific times. Maybe it's those times that are most similiar to the times that caused your own depression, we tend to react to those situations we identify with.

You seem to have experienced a lot of loss in your life, which is the primary trigger for depression. The way to overcome it is to understand and deal with the causes and the feelings they created. Talking with someone is a good way to do that, and if the times when the feelings make their presence known become intolerable or unmanageable for you, or start to interfere with your other responsibilities or ability to feel good, then you should tell your folks and have them find someone for you to talk with.

[DaretoFallup]

Well, sounds like depression, perhaps you should talk to a proffesional, or of course you can always PM any member on this site, we are all open to help you. Feel free to PM me any time.

[Sapphire]

By the sounds of it, you only experience these types of feelings when certain events are happening in your life and that they don't last longer than would be typical. It also appears to me that the feelings you experience are relative to the events you experience.

This suggests that you aren't suffering from depression, but that you experience a depressed mood. It is normal and can easily be helped. Talking with people (whether it's a friend, family member or counsellor) is beneficial when dealing with loss. If you ever feel the need to cry then you shouldn't hold it in. Let yourself cry. It is a form of release and can really help with the expression of your pain. Artistic forms of expression are found to be helpful by many people. This may writing stories/poems, keeping a diary, sketching, drawing, acting or singing.

[thesphinx]

Situational depression
As the name says, it usually caused by a situation that includes Life change, relationships ending, school/work, death of a friend/family/pet etc.
This type of depression has the normal characteristics of depression (Basic depressive symptoms) but is caused by a situation as stated above.

The length of the situational depression generally is determined by the crisis level of the life event (as perceived by the sufferer). For example, a teenager who fails a big exam may be depressed for a day or two. A teenager who loses a parent may be depressed for weeks, months, or years. Big losses generally cause longer periods of depression.
Most of the time situational depression catalysts (casual events) will be easy to spot a death, divorce, job loss etc, but sometimes it can be more difficult to spot for instance.

You may have been optimistic for something and it does not turn out the way you wanted/planned for it to turn out.
You may not think too much of it at first, even though it was a bummer you did not think that it would cause depression.
However, you look back and maybe examine yourself before and after the event, you realize that it is the cause of your situational depression.

So you my point is you should really take a look at certain events in your life and examine how much of an effect they actually had on you.
One of the most effective treatment options for situation depression is therapy (read below “What is therapy”).

[iphone3ghunt]

see for example right now I'm alone in bed and I just feel upset, if it helps I don't really know or remember what it feelsbti be happy, idk imbjust really upset right now...

[iphone3ghunt]

right now I'm not near a comp so I can't type so well but I will come back and provide morenonfor, tonight I'll justbhabe to manage like I always do staying up until I fall asleep by myself
I'll be back, but thanks
Alex

[byee]

If it's really intense, if there isn't anything you can do to make yourself feel better, and it's getting in your way, then whatever you call it, it should probably be addressed by a professional. Tell your folks, let them get you to a doctor.

[iphone3ghunt]

It's not massive, but when Im mad or sad I've had suicide thoughts but I know I won't do it. How can I confront my parents about this and can someone give me advice on how to manage the depression by myself for the time being

[Sapphire]

If you can't remember what it is like to be happy then you really have to take a pro-active stance when dealing with this. It is a good thing that you know in your heart of hearts that you won't go through with any suicidal thoughts you experience. But you can't carry on like this.
can someone give me advice on how to manage the depression by myself for the time being

That is what we have been trying to do (see quotes below). To get better you have to really work towards it. Happiness won't come to you. If you find it too hard for yourself to do on your own, then you really should tell your parents. You wouldn't have to be face-to-face with them because you could always write a letter if it is too difficult for you.

Talking with people (whether it's a friend, family member or counsellor) is beneficial when dealing with loss. If you ever feel the need to cry then you shouldn't hold it in. Let yourself cry. It is a form of release and can really help with the expression of your pain. Artistic forms of expression are found to be helpful by many people. This may writing stories/poems, keeping a diary, sketching, drawing, acting or singing.

The way to overcome it is to understand and deal with the causes and the feelings they created. Talking with someone is a good way to do that, and if the times when the feelings make their presence known become intolerable or unmanageable for you, or start to interfere with your other responsibilities or ability to feel good, then you should tell your folks and have them find someone for you to talk with.

[byee]

Hi again Alex, thanks for the update. If you're feeling suicidal, even in passing, then it's something you want to address right away. You might be used to that as a reaction, but what it's indicating is that whatever it is, is pretty overwhelming for you, it's a signal to get some help so you can feel better.

I don't think you should 'confront' your parents with this, it sounds too adversarial. Rather, I think you should share your feelings with them, let them know how badly you feel and how overwhelming and frightening it is for you, and that you want them to get you to a doctor. Go into some detail here, Alex, if they're unaware of what you've been experiencing, they might need some specifics to appreciate what you're telling them and to change their perceptions of how they think you've been. You might want to have this convo in a very planned way, give some thought about what and where you're going to do this.

Until then, realize you've got an injury there, bad feelings hurt just as bad (if not worse) than a physical injury. Treat it (yourself!) with kindness and respect, a little TLC. Recognize that what you're feeing is temporary and that it will pass, and b/c you've told (or are planning to tell your family, that will happen sooner!

Good luck, and keep us posted.

[iphone3ghunt]

I don't want to make this a diary , but today I joined the school rowing team it was hard work but a alot or fun and now when I usually feel upsetni don't, but I want to keep this thread open 4 updates
alex
Btw a majority of these posts are frm an itouch

[Sapphire]

It is really good that your joining the rowing team has helped :)

[byee]

A good distraction works wonders! And it provides an outlet for physical release, too. And some interpersonal contact! All good things that can help alleviate your bad feelings.

If it works, great. if those old feelings come back, then it's time to tell someone, keep that option open.

And the iPhone thingy is way cool!

[iphone3ghunt]

Good news,
my depression has virtually vanished, i'll definitely be sad sometimes, but now I feel much better!
Thanks

[oscariscrazy]

ITS PUBERTY lol