Help me please!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Indy]

Ok let me tell you what has happened,

Theres this girl (crazy huh :rolleyes:) that I've really known for a good year and a half. I asked her out a year ago and she said no for reasons I've fixed now (she told me) and it seems like I've never gotten over her, I tried but just couldnt. We live in Texas, and she has a boyfriend that lives in Navada. She's seen her like the summer for like a week but thats it. I talk to a good friend of mine online and he said that theres no way it could work out like so. She and I are really close to each other (shes my best friend) and in the past month I've really liked her....like ALOT!!! And shes in my head all the time, shes tormenting me inside me. I cant focus in school or any other things. Its killing me because I want to be with her so bad but she has a boyfriend. Please help me out, I gets worse every day, I CANT SLEEP AT NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also, I don't act on them of course, but I've had really bad thoughts on how to break them up so she can be with me and thats been haunting me aswell because on the other hand I just want her to be happy.

[byee]

Indy, you've got it baaaad!

There's really only one solution here, and that's to have a frank convo with her and let her know how you feel about her.

There's always that risk that it will 'change' the friendship, but if you're so miserable with the way things are, it might be best to take that chance. As for the long distance boy thing, I know that there are a lot of different opinions on this, but mine is that she's in Texas and he's in Nevada, they're just pen pals. Maybe they need that much space, but most people 'go out' locally. That situation doesnlt threaten yours.

Talk with her, you seem like a really nice guy, I think you might have a shot here.

[Indy]

Oh and one more thing, I really want to spend more time with her. Its just on the phone with her mom always taking her phone away (i know her mom, CAWAZY) and at school where theres numerous interuptions, how can I spend more time with her...just her??? Note: Don't mention her parents because they are just wierd, my parents are fine with it though.

[hikatie]

I went through that same situation and just waited for them to break up on their own. Granted I waited for like two years, but ever since they broke up my bf/bff and I are completely inseparable. One of the songs I posted in the music section is about that whole situation, actually.
This is the song: http://h1.ripway.com/kittymlynne/the%20colors%20dried.mp3 :P

I wouldn't want to get between them. But that's just me, for you if you just talk to her things might work out in your favor. Who knows?

[Sapphire]

You have to tell her. This is affecting you too much to just be ignored or wished about. It will be nerve wrecking but at least you will both then know where you stand to one another.

As for spending time with her without interruptions maybe try inviting her to the cinema or bowling or something. Or invite her round your house one day even.

Ok, I have to ask. Why are her parents "weird" about you too chatting?

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[Indy]

Ok, I have to ask. Why are her parents "weird" about you too chatting?
They're just paranoid about it, I'm not just saying that, I'm dead serious.

[Sapphire]

Paranoid about what though?

[Indy]

Her and guys.....and girls too..her mom thinks she'll turn bi or a lesbian. Her dad doesnt really care that much though, and I've met her dad, he's really nice but her mom, HOW THE HELL DID HE MARRY HER!?!?!? lol

[Sapphire]

How old are you both?

[Indy]

Both 15 almost 16

[Sapphire]

Arranging to go out somewhere seems like your best bet to spend time with her on your own and at 15/16 there is no reason why she can't go out.

[Kuervo]

i have the same thing, bro. i like this girl so much but i dont have the courage to tell her that i like her or to ask her out. but what i would do is tell her how u feel about her. or try asking her out on date. something she would enjoy. or even ask her how she feels about u

[Indy]

though shes the kind of person that is a little freaked out about stuff like that. Thinks that most guys want girls just for sex, she knows me well enough to not think that about me. Shes kinda tromatized about her first bf that beat her once. Also I think it would be little akward to ask her out again, also I think she might be afraid shes cheating on him or something.

[Sapphire]

Then reassure her that while she has a boyfriend you are just her friend.
She knows you and trusts you. She knows that you won't hit her. By reassuring her that you would be going out as friends, you will strengthen her trust in you and you will be more likely to be able to spend time alone with her.

[Indy]

OK thanks, now more feedback from my first post please :D Thats what Im most concerned about

[Indy]

Guys I still need some help here. I dont wanna just tell her how i feel, it will seem so akward and I'll be scared as hell. Help me out please

p.s. Weve decided on a place to just hang out and spend some quality time together so there's some good news there

[Nihilus]

Don't do anything to break her up with her current bf! Just wait and she'll realize that a long distance relationship doesn't really work.

[Indy]

I already know that, but the wait is killing me!

[Nihilus]

Patience!

[Indy]

Ugh this isnt working!

[Nihilus]

If you have too tell her how u feel.

[rsc4life]

I honestly think you need to talk with her, otherwise it will effect your performance in school... etc. It can't take over your life. Talk to her, I know it sounds hard... But sometimes you just have to do it!