am i gonna be a loner 4 the next 4 years?!?

[billwill]

so i just started high skool but i have 1 problem: i suck in making friends. i have 1 friend that i new from b4 high school but we barely talk and usually are far away from the other freshman guys(who no me but arent friendly). i dont feel confident enough 2 just walk up 2 them and just talk to them. i cant be confident wit ppl unless they r friendly. and i dont want to be a loner 4 the next 4 years. WHAT DO I DO?!?

[Oblivion]

Make an effort to be friendly.

I doubt everyone in the whole high school is unfriendly, so if you are more open and friendly to people they will probably be more friendly to you.

High school is full of people so there will mos likely be someone like you, so find someone with similar interests and become their friend.

[Muffins]

You'll only be a loner if you dont try, theres bound to be someone, highschool is huge you will make friends if you try. :)

[Nihilus]

Be your self. I made a friend just by starting to talk to him in class. You can do it to

[Junky]

Get involved, in anything. If you don't make the effort you will be the loner for the next 4 years.

[Nihilus]

Yes getting involved in sports and clubs are also great ways in making friends too. Rep + Junky

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Pay attention to the way the other kids interact in class. See if you notice anyone (or even a group of kids who already know each other) who seem like people you would like to get know better, people you can imagine maybe having lunch with or talking to outside of school sometime. Get to class early (if you can), and introduce yourself before the bell rings. Just something like, "Hi, I'm *insert your name here*. I don't know too many people in this class, and you seem cool, so I thought I'd say hi." They'll tell you their name, and you might have a few moments to exchange typical small-talk questions such as, "So, did you understand the homework last night?" or "So what classes are you taking?" but passing period is notoriously shorter when you're trying to have a conversation, so you won't have to flounder for words for very long. After that, say hi when you pass them in the hall, or just make eye contact and smile, just be friendly. When you have to break into groups in class, try to be in their group, or talk to them before class if you weren't sure about something in the homework. Just little things, no pressure to keep a conversation going, this'll help you get more comfortable with whoever the person is. When you feel like you're up for it, ask where they usually sit for lunch, then ask if you could join them that day. Just something like, "Mind if I join you? I'm not getting along so well with the kids I usually eat with, so I'm trying new things." You'll get a chance to see who they hang out with, and to decide if maybe you want to try making friends with them, too.

You won't become best buds with everyone you talk to, but this will help you get used to talking to your peers, and hopefully you'll find a friend or two that you really fit with. Good luck!

[foof1]

"Hi, I'm *insert your name here*. I don't know too many people in this class, and you seem cool, so I thought I'd say hi."

No affense or anything(I'm just trying to help billwill) but if you go up to someone and say that you'll look like a dork. It's a good idea but people are cruel and will think that. Not all people are cruel though. I would not think that someone who said that is a dork but the mean people will. I'm a victim of something like this so I know.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Well, I suppose it depends on the group of kids. Personally, I've said that sort of thing before (because if you just walk up and say "hi", but have nothing else to say, you look a little silly), and it usually worked for me. It just tends to help to have a reason for talking to the person. If you randomly engage them in conversation, they may be too busy wondering what your motive is. As long as you're friendly, and not pushy (such as immediately asking that person for their phone number and seeking them out at lunch that day), it shouldn't matter too much how you start the conversation (though basic societal rules still apply xP). Even tapping your neighbor (kid sitting next to you) on the shoulder during English class, and asking, "Did you read that story we were supposed to? Wasn't that weird?" can be an effective means of getting your foot in the friendship door--it's common ground for the two of you, and just introducing yourself causes them to make a mental note about you, changing your status from "that kid in my class" to "casual acquaintance".

Yeah, some people will be rude no matter what you say, but there's no foolproof formula for introducing yourself that no one can possibly shoot down. If you observe a bit beforehand, you should get a small idea of who in the class you're likely to get along with, and who is likely a huge jerk; use that to your advantage. Getting laughed at isn't fun, but if it happens one time it just lets you know to say something different the next time. Besides, you can't just not talk to people because you're afraid they won't like you--if there's one thing I've learned it's that you can't always rely on other people to try and make friends with you, sometimes you have to make the first move.

[billwill]

ok but the problem is its a small school and all the other freshmen come from the same school and they all no each other. i no them already cuz im in the same bball team as them and they dont respect me enough cuz im not as good as them. now wat?

[Oblivion]

Build respect by being nice and fun to be around.
If they base their respect for you on how well you play a sport, then you probably don't want to be their friend anyway.

[billwill]

but there r no other guys= being a loner 4 the next 4 years

[Oblivion]

Are you saying the only guys in the whole school are on your basket ball [or baseball?] team and hate you because your not good enough for them?

[Atonement]

I don't know how it is in your school, but in mine, freshman are made fun of like, look at the freshman going the wrong way, but not like " I hate all freshman" Usually, there are upperclassmen that will get to know and hopefully help the freshmen

[billwill]

this is how it is. mostly all freshman guys r on a bbal team. i ply 4 it. this is how respect is earned-being good in basketball