is this allright.......

[DarkWingedAngel]

so yesterday i was swimming at the ymca and my friend his name is james he is 12 goin on 13 this year and i was also with my other friend kayla so we were in the pool having funn and everything then james swam under me and blew bubbles and it was hitting my stomack and stuff so then we went into the sauna and playd are u nervous u no the game where u say r u nervis and go closer to there dick and they go closer to the girls boobs it is a realy fun game so when we got out of the sauna we went into the hot tub and then james went under water and we could not see him under all the bubbles in the hot tub then he put his hand on my vagina and started to rub my clit it felt realy weired because we could not see him but it felt realy realy good and i got realy aroused by it (oh and he did that to my friend kayla to)
is this normal

[Atonement]

Normal, idk. But if you don't like it, draw the line and say no. Guys are like that sometimes, so, if don't like it, you make him stop. That simple. Just be careful

[BlackenedSilver]

Normal, idk. But if you don't like it, draw the line and say no. Guys are like that sometimes, so, if don't like it, you make him stop. That simple. Just be careful

What vindication said really covered it.. lol if you dont want him touching you like that.. just tell him!
I dont know if its normal.. I dont think its right for him to touch you like that without your permission. But then again you didnt stop him either by the sounds of it. The reason he did it might have been the are you nervous game.. he could think your still playing it or it was a green light.. :confused:
x

[Sugaree]

Normal? I can't really answer that but maybe he was experimenting without really knowing how you felt.

But, if you don't feel comfortable with it then next time if he tries to do it then tell him no.

[Sapphire]

It's normal that you felt aroused and that he wants to experiment. If you don't feel comfortable with something then you should say so.

[DarkWingedAngel]

im not saying that i did not like it infact i loved it i was just wondering if it was ok for a 12 year old to do that to a 14 year old

[The Batman]

Teens are learning about sex younger and younger, so sadly the fact that a twelve year old knew what he was doing doesn't surprise me. I guess in a sense it is normal.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well also earler that day he was at my house then i fell off of the coutch and then he laid ontop of me and started to basicley masterbate me by rubbing i don't no how he evan new how but the thing is he has a gf would it be cheating or no

[The Batman]

Yea I think it is cheating. He's doing something sexual to a girl who is not his gf so cheating yes.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok so what should i do about it

[The Batman]

Just tell him that you don't think it's right what he is doing and ask him to stop.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i like it when he does this though
and i don't even no if he has a gf he might have lied to his friends

[The Batman]

Until you know for certain, you need to tell him to stop. If it turns out he has a girlfriend, it could get real ugly.

[DarkWingedAngel]

What vindication said really covered it.. lol if you dont want him touching you like that.. just tell him!
I dont know if its normal.. I dont think its right for him to touch you like that without your permission. But then again you didnt stop him either by the sounds of it. The reason he did it might have been the are you nervous game.. he could think your still playing it or it was a green light.. :confused:
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what do u mean by green light
ok i will tell him to stop as hard as it may be i will try

help

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Please don't double post.

[byee]

ah, the other James post. OK.

First, in answer to your first q, is it normal for him to come up in the hot tub and masturbate you, the answer is no, it;s not, Desi. he 's not going out with you, you do not have the relationship with him where this kind of intimate behavior would be Ok, and frankly you didnlt ask for him to do it, he took it upon himself to do it without any consent or permission or even discussion about it. Aside from the fact that it wss exciting for you and ot felt good, we'd otherwise call it sexual assault.

The second q, what you should now do about it, eventhough you like it, the answer is (IMNSHO) that you should tell him to now do this anymore, for the same reasons as I mentioned above. Should your relationship change, then that might be a diff story, but right now, it's just experimentation (basically him experimenting on you), and it;s being done in a less than straightforward way.

The third q, is there a problem with the age diff, the answer I'd offer (again) is that yes, there's a prob. There's a big emotional diff b'twn a 12 y/o and a 14y/o, and that difference increases the probability that one or both of you will get hurt. Again, look at the way he's initiating all this, in hot tubs and jumping on you.

There are other ways of feeling good that don't put either of you at risk, consider them instead.

[Kuervo]

totally normal. even if i havent done that, but its ok. its like experimenting, kind of with other ppl and guys

[BlackenedSilver]

what do u mean by green light
ok i will tell him to stop as hard as it may be i will try

help

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Please don't double post.

Like the gamecould have been a signal to him saying go ahead you can do it. thats what I meant by green light. But Im not sure if its true was just a random idea to why he did it

[Antares]

Like the gamecould have been a signal to him saying go ahead you can do it. thats what I meant by green light. But Im not sure if its true was just a random idea to why he did it

"...gamecould..." is a Typo. It should be separated. "thats" --> "That's" In this case sentences shouldn't start with "but". "...Im..." --> "I'm" Don't forget punctuation. ;)

As for the O.P.'s problem, I would say it is normal for an experience like that to happen. Especially in the teenage years where a boy's boldness increases and their interaction with girls increases. I think that it is normal that he did this and you shouldn't be concerned.

[Cheryl]

He is just experimenting, if your enjoying it, why stop?

[Sapphire]

punctionation.

This is an incorrect spelling. It should be punctuation.

All in the name of "type in proper English" day of course :)

[Antares]

This is an incorrect spelling. It should be punctuation.

All in the name of "type in proper English" day of course :)

Thanks! Now let's get back on topic unless there are more grammar mistakes.

[Boeing]

I don't think there is a problem with him masturbating you. You just want to stay away from oral and sex. Sex can lead to STD's, etc.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok well i told him that im ok with it for now but not in public for example the pool and hot tub at the YMCA thanx for the help and everything i will still take advice though depending on what he does
thanx agen

[AMERICANelite123]

hun thats normal expecially for guys to want that
i would have stopped him but thats just me but u know ts all up to u to deside

[Indy]

This is just my word but if you like it, then I would think it's ok for him to do that. If you don't then tell him to stop. That simple.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok now can this thread be gone now

[Dubs]

I'd say you should keep doing it.

If it pleases you, there's no problem. He's 12, so nothing could really happen. Unless he's an early kid.

I just find it funny and cool, how he just has the courage to go, and start rubbing you. lol, most boys would panic.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I'd say you should keep doing it.

If it pleases you, there's no problem. He's 12, so nothing could really happen. Unless he's an early kid.

I just find it funny and cool, how he just has the courage to go, and start rubbing you. lol, most boys would panic.

No boys can produce sperm earlier than twelve and actually the possibility rose in the last five years. It is said that 4/5 12 year old boys can impregnate a young female. (Statistic found in a study done by Dr. Dianne Carey.)

[Rutherford The Brave]

Oh you must think your funny! We have a bob saggot in the house! Listen Dianne Carey is one of the most respected neurologists in the USA. That crossed the line, so next time just keep that stuff in, it wasn't funny at all.

[BeautifulSilence]

:locked: as requested by OP.
-Laura