baby

[ssgliberty]

i have this thoght that wont go away is for me to want to have a dauter in as i am a teen and i dont know why

[thesphinx]

so you want to have a baby?

[ssgliberty]

i dont know why thogh

[Antares]

Well regardless if you want one or not, you need to wait.
Right VT Daddy? (if he ever sees this)

[ssgliberty]

i know

[Gumleaf]

teen sexuality > friends & family

[ssgliberty]

it wont go damn

[Antares]

it wont go damn
What won't go?

[ssgliberty]

the thought

[Antares]

I think that you jsut need to tryt hard to let it go. I don't think you are old enough to actually have a kid and I am sure that you don't want one deep down inside.

[ssgliberty]

but why wont the damn thing go away

[Rutherford The Brave]

Well regardless if you want one or not, you need to wait.
Right VT Daddy? (if he ever sees this)

Yes you need to wait a longgg time. PLus I think you got the Idea from me and you read my happy stories but you aren't reading the bad ones.

[The Batman]

It's not bad to want a baby in your teens, I think that a lot of people go through that(I did). You just need something to take the place of the baby. Just go get a pet and name him alien jr. and treat him as a baby.

[Techno Monster]

I have never had this thought, but I'm sure people go through this phase. I personally would never want a kid, even if I could get pregnant (Messed up ovaries) I think you should go by a pet like LightxInxDarkness suggested. Pets are actually less work than babes that keep you up all night.

[ssgliberty]

It's not bad to want a baby in your teens, I think that a lot of people go through that(I did). You just need something to take the place of the baby. Just go get a pet and name him alien jr. and treat him as a baby.

thank everyone

ps LightxInxDarkness my name is liberty everybody calls me lib.

[theOperaGhost]

My best friend wanted a baby really bad. She went a slept with a rigger and got pregnant, married him, had a baby, is pregnant again, and her life is shit. They have nothing. He's a complete asshole and is also a criminal. She dropped out of school too. She really fucked up her life. Teens shouldn't have kids, they are not ready for that.

[ssgliberty]

ok thanks everyone

[ssgliberty]

ok i`m pissed that thoght is back how do i get rid of it it`s been back for two days?

[The Batman]

Just get a pet and baby it. Dress him up in little baby clothes and give him kisses and baby food.

[ssgliberty]

LOL is there any other way to get rid of the thoght?

[The Batman]

Yea think about the 3 C's of being a parent.
Cost-Do you really think you can afford to take care of a baby?

Crying-Do you think you can handle waking up at all times in the morning to him/her crying and then not sleeping during the day due to the same thing?

Crap-Need I say more?

[ssgliberty]

Crying-Do you think you can handle waking up at all times in the morning to him/her crying and then not sleeping during the day due to the same thing?

Crap-Need I say more?

i can handle that!!!

[The Batman]

Really you make enough money where you can pay for the Baby formula, diapers, bottles, clothes, crib, stroller, more clothes. bib, more clothes, socks, car seat, blanket, toys, more clothes(they puke a lot), food, and more diapers? You can also handle taking care of a baby full time and go to school? What are you going to do push a stroller in the class room? You could wake up at all times of the night and take care of the baby and still wake up for school.

You are to young for a baby and you just want one because you see others with one. You need to think about all this stuff and don't just jump and say I'm ready you need to really think about it.

[ssgliberty]

Really you make enough money where you can pay for the Baby formula, diapers, bottles, clothes, crib, stroller, more clothes. bib, more clothes, socks, car seat, blanket, toys, more clothes(they puke a lot), food, and more diapers? You can also handle taking care of a baby full time and go to school? What are you going to do push a stroller in the class room? You could wake up at all times of the night and take care of the baby and still wake up for school.

You are to young for a baby and you just want one because you see others with one. You need to think about all this stuff and don't just jump and say I'm ready you need to really think about it.

i said i could handdle everything except cost i did not say i was ready because i dont know if i am.

[The Batman]

If you don't know if you are your not.

[ssgliberty]

yeah i know i just dont know how to get the thoght out of my head (i cant get a girl pregnant anyway)

[The Batman]

Just let it go. Say to yourself I can't do it and let it go.

[ssgliberty]

i`ve tried

[Rutherford The Brave]

It cost about 400,000$ to raise a child, I only have 700,000$ You do the math how long will it take you to work, enough to raise that money.

[ssgliberty]

idk i said i cant handle cost thats about it

[Sugaree]

Yes, but you're not thinking. You need to think! Thinking is a key factor. Thomas and Greg hit the nail right on the head in this thread.

You need to think about a few things. How long would you have to work? How much will stuff like food, formula, etc cost? Will, someone help me in raising the baby when I'm work or if I can't get home to take care of him/her?

You are trying to get a job at a fishing shop next spring right? You need to think about how much it will pay you. Money is key for raising a baby. You don't have the money that you need to raise the child or even pay for the child support.

You also need to think about how young you are. How old are you? 13? 14? You are waaaaaaaaay too young to father a child IMHO. You need to really think this over. Just by saying "I'm ready!!" doesn't really mean you are going to be ready for what it will put you through. A baby takes most of the time in the mother and father's lives and they can't just go out of the house and leave the baby and do what they want to do.

So, thinking is the key to this door. Get your thoughts straight. Just because you want a baby and think that you are ready for one doesn't mean you are truely prepared.

[ssgliberty]

i ner said i was redy i said i`m able to do all that i cant get a girl pregnant i told you that i need the thoght out of my head.

[DarkWingedAngel]

here this is a good idea
think about this how would your mom/dad think if u were to tell them i wan't to have a kid or i'm goin to have a kid they will think u r not ready to even stay home alone because they will not trust u and even if they do let u have a kid then i swear they won't take kare of it for u when u r in school or working i sugest u wait untill u have atleast finished colage
and that is about it that the others did couver alredy
as far as getting it out of ur mind do something go on a date or get a puppy and it will go away on it's own

[Sugaree]

i ner said i was redy

i can handle that!!!

Then explain that ^^

You said that you could handle it and now you say that you never said you were ready. Saying "i can handle that!!!" is also saying, in a way, that you are ready.

[ssgliberty]

mmmk

[ssgliberty]

i sayd i can handel that i did not say i was ready theres a diffrence

[Sugaree]

Yes, saying that you can handle a baby also means that you think you are ready.

[ssgliberty]

o well i can handle one easy.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I beg to differ my friend I beg to differ. If you choose to do so ready for 1 hour of sleep, working every day, No free time, no money, no friend time, NO ALONE TIME. You constantly smell like the three P's; Poop, Pee and puke. You always have to feed them, they do not stop crying when you hold them. The pee on you poop on you puke on you. The throw up scalding hot milk on you.

[The Batman]

Seriously dude you came on here asking for advice and so far your knocking down everything we say. What do you really want?

[Rutherford The Brave]

I hate to be mean, but your not ready. Your no wheres near being ready. You cannot handle it, the anguish, the pain, the anger. Its too much, just take my advice and stop thinking that you can handle this.

[ssgliberty]

i wanted to get the thoght out of my head damn

[The Batman]

Then start listening to what we're saying. We are trying to help you and the only way we can is if you allow us to.

[ssgliberty]

ahhh it`s out all i did was try to open my locker with my head lol.

[Rutherford The Brave]

*smacks Lib in the back of the head* Dont do that no more.

[ssgliberty]

ok srry lol

[byee]

ok i`m pissed that thoght is back how do i get rid of it it`s been back for two days?

The way to get rid of the thought is to try to understand it and address it directly.

You want a daughter for a reason, it's a very specific want. Think about it for a minute, let yourself go with the fantasy: What do you think it would be like? What would be the good parts? Her loving you? Needing you? Her never leaving you b/c of that? issues that maybe mean something to you now b/c of the other stuff that's going on and making you unhappy?

Many/most fantasies come from something called 'need gratification', when we're missing something emotional, we create a fantasy to meet that need. so, the guy who feels weak fantasizes about being really built and really buff, etc.

Think about what having a daughter means to you, what she would give you, and then you can better address that need, rather than having the recurring thought.

And, what i'm hearing isnlt that you're actually planning on having a daughter now, but rather, the emotional parts to it are appealing, so I'm not worried that you're about to go out there and try to make a daughter.