role of parents

[Gumleaf]

i just saw a story on tv where they debated the rights of whether a parent should know if their daughter is on the pill. the focus of this story was that a 14yo girl went to her school nurse and asked about contriception. the nurse/counselor directed her to a doctor who prescribed her with the pill without her parents knowledge. the parents weren't happy at all, but the school said that all mettings between students and counsellors are confidential. so what do you think? if you are a girl, would you go on the pill behind your parents back, and if you are a guy, would you encourage your girlfriend/partner to go behind their parents back to go on the pill?


now this is a subject i'm interested in. my girlfriend is 15 and she is on the pill. now in her case she hasn't told her parents and thats the way both her and me want to keep it. we want to continue being intimate, but i think its better to do this rather then having a mishap with a condom and getting an unwelcome suprise. but thats just my opinion.

[Zephyr]

I think it's up to the girl to decide, not the parents.
It's her body, so she should be able to get birth control.


And actually, most parents that I know encourage use of the pill,
Because let's face it, you can't control a hormonal teenager's sex drive,
So you might as well be safe rather than sorry.

[Antares]

Remeber that birth control pills are not one hundred percent. If I were you I would use a condom and the pills.

Now back to the topico (lol), I think that parents should be open to the fact that teens do eachother and they want to save their selves and take a pill everyday. Now, my sister is on the pill but I also know for a fact that she uses condoms (well I hope...) At first I really didn't understand why girls who I thought were not having sex were on the pill but they are. I am not sure but parents just need to wake up educate and provide for their kids because teens are active. Plain and simple.

EDIT: To answer the question, I think that I would want my gf on the pill if she wanted and agreed to be on it.

[ShatteredWings]

my girlfriend is 15 and she is on the pill. now in her case she hasn't told her parents and thats the way both her and me want to keep it. we want to continue being intimate, but i think its better to do this rather then having a mishap with a condom and getting an unwelcome suprise. but thats just my opinion.

Remeber that birth control pills are not one hundred percent. If I were you I would use a condom and the pills.
i think he meant he's using both.


anyways, they shouldn't have to know. medical is confidental, even at 13-18 (or at least in this country)

[theOperaGhost]

Well, I don't think parents should decide it, yet I think they should know about it. I think most parents would encourage use of the pill anyway though. I can see why parents could be mad if they didn't know about it, but they shouldn't be mad just because a girl is on the pill, they should support that.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Of course it would be nice if the parents were informed (to keep all that nonsense starting), but honestly they don't matter at ALL concerning with what the daughter chooses to do. Destructive behaviour (drugs, etc.) is something that IS a parents problem; its obviously negative and needs to be stopped. But contraception is a SMART thing to do; kids have sex, and you're not ever going to stop them.... so wouldn't you at least feel better if they were safe about it? This is like parents finding out their kid bought a bicycle helmet with her own money.... and them taking it away from her when she decides to go for a ride on a dangerous trail in the woods. Duh!

[ShatteredWings]

Of course it would be nice if the parents were informed (to keep all that nonsense starting), but honestly they don't matter at ALL concerning with what the daughter chooses to do. Destructive behaviour (drugs, etc.) is something that IS a parents problem; its obviously negative and needs to be stopped. But contraception is a SMART thing to do; kids have sex, and you're not ever going to stop them.... so wouldn't you at least feel better if they were safe about it? This is like parents finding out their kid bought a bicycle helmet with her own money.... and them taking it away from her when she decides to go for a ride on a dangerous trail in the woods. Duh!

that is probably one of the strangest, yet most acurate compairsons i've ever heard. quite true

[Oblivion]

I think it's up to the girl to decide, not the parents.
It's her body, so she should be able to get birth control.


And actually, most parents that I know encourage use of the pill,
Because let's face it, you can't control a hormonal teenager's sex drive,
So you might as well be safe rather than sorry.

Agreed.
If I were a parent I would be GLAD if i found out my daughter was on the pill.
Not that she was having sex [what parent would?], but at least that she has enough sense to use a pill.

[Whisper]

I would be fucking FURIOUS!!!!
I would immediately pull my daughter from that school


If my girl wants to go on the pill at 14 then she needs to come talk to me
and I would want to meet this...boy

as far as a school that I'm paying to give my daughter an education telling me I have no business knowing wither shes on the pill or not i'd sue
SHE'S 14!! Shes a child
She is most defiantly the parents responsibly
and they have a right to know
The school needs to smarten the fuck up

[The Batman]

I think that this is something that the parents should know about. It's good that she wants to be on the pill but it's better if the parents know because if they were to find them or find out through other means it could become something really messy. Parents know that someday their kids are going to have sex and it's better for them to know that they are doing it safely than to be concerned that their child might be having unprotected sex with who knows.

[Zephyr]

I'd say the girl is fortunate to have that option of contraceptive through the school.
I understand where Kodie is coming from on the parent's perspective,
That your child should talk to you about it and everything rather then keeping it all hush hush,
But coming from the high school district that I did,
They didn't even so much as have pad/tampon dispensers in the bathrooms,
And our school board thinks that it's immoral to have condoms available even WITH counsel from the district nurse.
And we have one of the highest rates of teen pregnancy in the state,
Hm... go figure :rolleyes:

[Oblivion]

Look at it this way:
If you were a parent, would you rather have your child having sex behind your back unprotected,
or
Have your child having sex behind your back protected?

I doubt very many kids would tell their parents when they have sex, so likewise they won't say when they are on the pill.
So either way they will have sex, but with or without the pill is the question.

[ssgliberty]

i think the parents should not beable deside it`s the girls choise. and iwould tell my gf (if i had a gf) that it`s her choise.

Look at it this way:
If you were a parent, would you rather have your child having sex behind your back unprotected,
or
Have your child having sex behind your back protected?

I doubt very many kids would tell their parents when they have sex, so likewise they won't say when they are on the pill.
So either way they will have sex, but with or without the pill is the question.

i`d rater have them be protected

[Sugaree]

Hmm, this is actually a bit hard for me to answer. I can't say that I generally approve of a daughter going behind her parent's back and take the pill. But, it was her choice to go on the pill and not her parents' choice.

If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't tell her to go behind her parents' back about taking the pill. I would tell her that it's her choice and not really mine.

[LuvTitanicxxJack]

I think that the parent would know if they took the time to have a good relationship with their daughter. I know people who hid it from their parents so they wouldn't get mad and maybe one person who told her parents about it and they were cool with it. I guess it just depends on the situation.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

girl;350073']that is probably one of the strangest, yet most acurate compairsons i've ever heard. quite true

Thanks. I pride myself in my accuracy... and strangeness. :D

[Sapphire]

I personally think that for a girl of 13/14/15 to be on the pill is not a good thing. It carries health risks with it and almost sends out the message that spontaneous sexual relations at that age are ok. The prescription of the contraceptive pill should be something that parents of girls under the legal age of consent should be made aware of.

[Camazotz]

I personally think that for a girl of 13/14/15 to be on the pill is not a good thing. It carries health risks with it and almost sends out the message that spontaneous sexual relations at that age are ok. The prescription of the contraceptive pill should be something that parents of girls under the legal age of consent should be made aware of.

I totally agree here. You could make the argument that it is the girl's choice, and at least she's being responsible by using protection. But a girl at a young age shouldn't be having sex, and when people find out that a school can give out birth control without a parental consultation, it can be interpreted as schools are saying it's okay to have sex at a young age, as long as you're safe. Parents should know if there daughter is on the pill, or even having sex.

[henry827]

i think that it should be confidential because girls are much more likely to go on the pill if their parents dont know about it. if it was not confidential many would refuse to go on the pill for fear of their parents anger while still having sex causing a raise in pregnancys.

[Zazu]

I think that it should be the girl's own choice, and if she wants it to be kept confidential then she should be able to.