Help me, sex question

[Nero12]

alright well me and my girlfriend are 14, and we thought about you know "doing it".

Is it okay to do it at this age? I have 2 condoms with me.


And how do I know if she is experienced?

[Shpadoinkle]

Sex at 14 isn't responsible, I don't think it's a good idea.

[DarkWingedAngel]

it is ok as long as u can deal with what may happen like unwanted pregnancy and stds and u have to be emotonaly ready to
as far as if she is experinced u realy can't tell unless if she tells u
good luck and use protection

[Oblivion]

Well think about it.
Are you ready to have a child, raise it, get a job, pay bills, get an education, and pay for your child to grow up healthy?
I highly doubt it at 14. Actually, in the US [and probably other places] you have to be at least 15 to get a job.
You always have to be ready for the consequences.
So obviously you haven't thought about it too much.
Sex isn't an object that you have fun with when you're horny.
Also if you don't know how to bring it up with your girlfriend i could guess you aren't that close to her.

But if you do decide to do it, its a good thing you have condoms :)
You could probably safely assume she is not very experienced since she is 14.
But if you really want to know, ask her.

Finally remember STIs and STDs. If she has ever had sex, or was born with them, she may have some. I believe 1 in 5 adults are infected with genital herpes. And it doesn't go away. You have it for life.

Sorry for any harshness, but you really have to think this through.

[Nero12]

Well think about it.
Are you ready to have a child, raise it, get a job, pay bills, get an education, and pay for your child to grow up healthy?
I highly doubt it at 14. Actually, in the US [and probably other places] you have to be at least 15 to get a job.
You always have to be ready for the consequences.
So obviously you haven't thought about it too much.
Sex isn't an object that you have fun with when you're horny.
Also if you don't know how to bring it up with your girlfriend i could guess you aren't that close to her.

But if you do decide to do it, its a good thing you have condoms :)
You could probably safely assume she is not very experienced since she is 14.
But if you really want to know, ask her.

Finally remember STIs and STDs. If she has ever had sex, or was born with them, she may have some. I believe 1 in 5 adults are infected with genital herpes. And it doesn't go away. You have it for life.

Sorry for any harshness, but you really have to think this through.


Very true, thanks man, I just got excited. LOL

[Maverick]

Moved to Boys Puberty.

[Master Bait]

Before you have sex, acknowledge that it is both illegal(because age of consent laws minimize at 15-16 in the US) and you wont be able to support the baby if you impregnate her.

And dont have sex until your both mentally and physically ready.

[Sugaree]

You need to think about this first. There are many things that you have to take into consideration.

1. Emotional damage. You can recieve emotional damage at this age if you have sex. You may think you're ready but at this age you're really not. It can cause you to think low of yourself.

2. You need to wait. You really need to wait this out. You're 14 and have a few more years until puberty is done. But, you don't really have to wait until puberty is done. Some people have sex when they're in puberty and some have sex after they've finished it and some people don't have sex at all.

3. Pregnancy. What happens if you accidentally broke the condom and ejaculated? She doesn't have a "morning after" pill to prevent getting pregnant. If she gets pregnant then how are you going to take care of the baby? You need a job to get money. At 14 you won't be able to find a ton of jobs that pay good money for child support and you just can't dump the child on her.

5. STDs. STDs are also a BIG risk for having sex at a young age when you're 14. Your girlfriend is also young just like you so that puts her at the same ammount of risk as you are. When girls are going through puberty, they're immune system is focused on improving the sex organs because when you're young you're immune system isn't fully prepared for STDs so you must be careful for her and you.

These are just a few things that you HAVE to consider. I would highly advise that you wait until you're ready and she's ready. Sex isn't just something that you just randomly do with your girlfriend or boyfriend. It's an event that should only take place when two partners are truly ready for it and that they don't do it for the wrong reasons.

[The Batman]

Actually nick you can get a job at 14 it just doesn't pay good. I think you should just wait till your both at an emotional place where you can handle sex. Don't just do it because you get excited do it out of love.

[Cristiann123]

umm people u be missing one important fact... He Can Get A CONDOM!!! y r u talking about pregnancy and everything when he can just get a condom!!! i mean, ya i aggre that he shouldnt have sex untill he's ready, but its up to him if he wants to do it soon, if he wants to go protected or not!!!>_<

[theOperaGhost]

umm people u be missing one important fact... He Can Get A CONDOM!!! y r u talking about pregnancy and everything when he can just get a condom!!! i mean, ya i aggre that he shouldnt have sex untill he's ready, but its up to him if he wants to do it soon, if he wants to go protected or not!!!>_<

Well, he asked if we thought it was alright for him to have sex at such a young age, so we all answered with how we felt.

Condoms aren't always 100% effective, and although it is rare for one to fail, it does happen. At 13 years old, people shouldn't be having sex. There is a very emotional side to sex, sex isn't just intercourse. Even though he may be physically ready to have sex, I'm going to go out on a limb and say that there isn't a 13 year old in the world mature enough for all of the emotional aspects of sex.

[Sugaree]

umm people u be missing one important fact... He Can Get A CONDOM!!! y r u talking about pregnancy and everything when he can just get a condom!!

Condoms can break when you least expect it. So what if that happens and then ejaculates? The girl would get pregant if she doesn't have a morning after pill.

[Cristiann123]

srry people i guess ur right a just had a bad day and me be a little angry

[Oblivion]

Well, he asked if we thought it was alright for him to have sex at such a young age, so we all answered with how we felt.

Condoms aren't always 100% effective, and although it is rare for one to fail, it does happen. At 13 years old, people shouldn't be having sex. There is a very emotional side to sex, sex isn't just intercourse. Even though he may be physically ready to have sex, I'm going to go out on a limb and say that there isn't a 13 year old in the world mature enough for all of the emotional aspects of sex.

Yes, that and at 14 you are less likely to know how to put a condom on, and when to take it off.
It could slip off or break easily if put on wrong, and if you don't take it off in time, its even more likely to slip off, or semen to come out of it.

Condoms aren't 100% reliable, thats why you need to be ready for the consequences.

[josh92]

Before you have sex, acknowledge that it is both illegal(because age of consent laws minimize at 15-16 in the US) and you wont be able to support the baby if you impregnate her.

And dont have sex until your both mentally and physically ready.

If they are both 14 i dont think it is illegal.

[Oblivion]

If they are both 14 i dont think it is illegal.

I believe it still is illegal and either parent could sue.

[Dima]

Yes, that and at 14 you are less likely to know how to put a condom on, and when to take it off.
It could slip off or break easily if put on wrong, and if you don't take it off in time, its even more likely to slip off, or semen to come out of it.

Condoms aren't 100% reliable, thats why you need to be ready for the consequences.

When IS the right time to take it off? Just wondering. o_O

[theOperaGhost]

I believe it still is illegal and either parent could sue.

This is true, I do believe. They are both below the age of consent, so their parents have the right to file charges of statutory rape.

[Oblivion]

When IS the right time to take it off? Just wondering. o_O

Well I am not entirely sure, which is why I won't be having sex anytime soon ;)

[Maverick]

If they are both 14 i dont think it is illegal.Laws vary by state.

[MoveAlong]

When IS the right time to take it off? Just wondering. o_O

right after you cum. You can't leave it on or else your cum may be pushed out and get inside her.

I don't think you should have sex at 14. I mean, how long have you known her? Do you really like each other? Do you just wanna have sex, or do you want to really connect? Do you feel completely comfortable around her? Does she feel the same way? If you break up, do you want to have to see the person that you had sex with in the halls at school every day? just a few thoughts. I wouldn't do it. At least not full-blown sex.

[byee]

It's interesting that everyone's decision here seems to be based either on the legality of it, or the possibility of pregnancy. I think both of those issues are important, of course, but maybe it's just me, but the one issue that's perhaps really, really important and hasn't been mentioned a lot is the emotional aspect of sex.

Sex changes everything in a relationship, it's a very intimate, very personal thing (think about what happens during sex), and it's really hard to anticipate (or even describe) what those changes are. And you have to be ready for them.

It's not just the stuff on yuor body that you can see, on the outside, that changes during puberty. It's the stuff inside, too, most notably the brain. How it works, how it processes info, how it reacts emotionally all evolve during puberty, and unfortunately, b/c it's the brain, it takes much longer than the other stuff to develop. So, what often happens is that people have all the adult hardware, but their ability to process and deal with all the feelings is lagging behind. It's that lag that often causes the problems.

14 is too young for sex, even if it was legal, even with a condom. That's b/c the brain hasn't developed enough to fully handle all the intensity that often accompanies the physical part.

It's Ok to wait, it's OK to connect in other ways, and to take care of those needs yourself. When the time is right, you'll know it, and enjoy it more, too.

[sas2013]

i think 14 is to early but thats not up to me so if you do at least be safe

[LoneWanderer]

Well think about it.
Are you ready to have a child, raise it, get a job, pay bills, get an education, and pay for your child to grow up healthy?
I highly doubt it at 14. Actually, in the US [and probably other places] you have to be at least 15 to get a job.
You always have to be ready for the consequences.
So obviously you haven't thought about it too much.
Sex isn't an object that you have fun with when you're horny.
Also if you don't know how to bring it up with your girlfriend i could guess you aren't that close to her.

But if you do decide to do it, its a good thing you have condoms :)
You could probably safely assume she is not very experienced since she is 14.
But if you really want to know, ask her.

Finally remember STIs and STDs. If she has ever had sex, or was born with them, she may have some. I believe 1 in 5 adults are infected with genital herpes. And it doesn't go away. You have it for life.

Sorry for any harshness, but you really have to think this through.

im sorry but there are numerous things i dissagree with, The child job and bills statement was unnecessary if hes planning on using a condom. Everybody knows that people under the age of 16 (17 in the US) are having sex, this doesnt make it right but still. Also Condoms are not only a form of contraception but also prevent against STD/STIs. Mate as long as you use a condom, what have you got to worry about? However if you do start having sex, id recommend that your girlfriend goes on the pill.

[theOperaGhost]

im sorry but there are numerous things i dissagree with, The child job and bills statement was unnecessary if hes planning on using a condom. Everybody knows that people under the age of 16 (17 in the US) are having sex, this doesnt make it right but still. Also Condoms are not only a form of contraception but also prevent against STD/STIs. Mate as long as you use a condom, what have you got to worry about? However if you do start having sex, id recommend that your girlfriend goes on the pill.

Pregnancy and STD/STIs are not the only things to worry about with sex. As Sam and I have stated, there are huge emotional effects that sex has on people. Sex is a good thing, but I don't feel that there is a 13 year old anywhere that is emotionally mature enough for sex.

Sex shouldn't just be done because it feels good. If you truly love each other, which I doubt, because once again, 13 year olds really aren't mature enough for true love, sex is fine.

And of course condoms DO fail at times, so if that happens, it could turn into the biggest mistake of your life.

[iFap]

I only have one thing to say. If you decide to... USE A CONDOM!!! Seriously. I mean it!

[Antares]

And how do I know if she is experienced?

If you don't know if shes 'experienced' obviously you are not ready.

Just wait.

[coopie.mac94]

it's good to know u hav condoms, but ur the only ones that realy no if ur ready so....

[Sugaree]

When IS the right time to take it off? Just wondering. o_O

Take it off after you ejaculate.

[adam1995]

alright well me and my girlfriend are 14, and we thought about you know "doing it".

Is it okay to do it at this age? I have 2 condoms with me.


And how do I know if she is experienced?

2 things i am almost 14 and have a good gf and we do allot but not actal sex. were not ready. i have a freind that is doiig it with his gf and believe me at 14 ur gonna need mor ethen 2 condoms. he says he coms lots of times while there doing it. i think you should avoid sex at 14. you can still do stuff with eachother.

[Gumleaf]

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