Friends?

[Callwaiting]

Like posting most stuff on the internet, I feel like a total loser right now so I'll try to get this over with quickly.

Well, the thing is I don't have any friends. I sorta hang out with people at school in class, but I just sit around on the weekends and at lunchtime and stuff.

I don't know what it is, I'm not that bad looking, I think I'm interesting if a bit quiet, I keep secrets, I like helping people and I'm not really weird or different in any way other than the fact I like reading.

so why doesn't anyone like me, is it lack of effort on my part?
I can't really go up to someone and talk to them about anything because I don't know anybody well enough to do that.

so.. what should I do? Just continue on by myself, being laughed at and stuff?

It'd be cool if someone replied to this,

thanks!

[Rutherford The Brave]

Well, if you continue being anit-social your not going to get anywhere. Just go up to some people and talk to them! People love to be talked to its human nature. Your bound to make friends if you just put a little time and effort into making friends.

[ShatteredWings]

Like posting most stuff on the internet, I feel like a total loser right now so I'll try to get this over with quickly.

Well, the thing is I don't have any friends. I sorta hang out with people at school in class, but I just sit around on the weekends and at lunchtime and stuff.

I don't know what it is, I'm not that bad looking, I think I'm interesting if a bit quiet, I keep secrets, I like helping people and I'm not really weird or different in any way other than the fact I like reading.

so why doesn't anyone like me, is it lack of effort on my part?
I can't really go up to someone and talk to them about anything because I don't know anybody well enough to do that.

so.. what should I do? Just continue on by myself, being laughed at and stuff?

It'd be cool if someone replied to this,

thanks!

You seem like a nice guy :)
Here's the issue. Your probably a little too quiet, if you know what i'm talking about. i can be too. you just have to talk to somebody. Do you have ANY friends? maybe you can tag along and try to talk to other people (tht's what i've always done. it works)

[Underground_Network]

I'm just like you. I'm quiet, I really only hang out with people at school, outside of school, not much. What you have to do though is approach people. Look for people with similar interests. Try and find someone else who likes reading. Maybe if you see someone reading during lunch or sometime during the day, you could start talking to them about it. And I'm sure there are people out there who are willing to befriend you. Sometimes there are other shy people out there who want to befriend, but just like you, they're too quiet and 'afraid' to approach you. You have take an initiative and just walk up to someone and start to talk. After you get to know each other a little better and 'officially' befriend each other, you can start hanging out.

[Callwaiting]

well I can tag along with people I sometimes talk to in class, it's just I won't talk to anyone and it'll be worse than being alone.
I feel awkward going up to people as well, I'm really bad at introductions..

How do I introduce myself without sounding like an idiot?

[ShatteredWings]

Hi, i'm (whatever your name is -- i doubt your rents named you "call waiting"), *start talking about something trivial that's going on*

[Atonement]

Well I was very similar to you awhile ago. Pretty quiet. Minded my own business, and just, got by eachday knowing people, but not really KNOWING them. Well, the best I found to get friends is to be involved with them. Whether this be through band, chior, sports, or maybe your school has clubs or speech or whatever it may be, just get involved. If you know some peoplein your school, try to know them better than just an aquintance. Just step out of your box and try. No one ever died by the word no. Rejection is a part of life, should it happen to you, shrug it off and try again. I mean, really, the statistics of everyone in your school saying know to hanging out outside of school is pretty slim.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find what you are looking for.

[BlackenedSilver]

If you just, start talking about something thats happened recently that people are interested in, or if your in class ask someone about the work.. even if you understand it lol! Might also be that your too secretive, there are something you have to keep to yourself but if you dont reveal anything about you or your personality then how is anyone supposed to get to know you?
Just a few ideas there, hope they help.

[checker]

I think the best way to socialise well is to join a club which interests you. The good thing about this is that there will be other people there who have the same interests as you, so part of the bridge has already been gapped in getting to know them; you'll have some common ground to start on.

Also, in class ect, you just need to see if there are some people who you get along with, and just talk to them more. If you see them walking to school when you do, try and tag along with them and ask them how they're feeling this morning ect. It can feel awkward sometimes, but as long as you relax when you're doing it, it's quite easy to talk to new people or people you haven't really talked to that much before.