Being nice and being friends.

[JoMan]

Does it work? Is it a good way for a girl to get to like you? I've heard it works, it just takes longer.

I'm extremely easy going, I'll do almost anything for anyone, not just girls.

Everyone says that I'm really really nice, and it's not an act, for all you people who are thinking "dis guy r dum, he not nise. it r act".

I've been trying to get with this girl, who I really really like, for a few months now.

She talks to me all the time about everything, she comes to me for problems and such, and she even asks for my advice! I didn't think I gave very good advice, but apparently it works for somebody! Anyway, long story short, this guy played her and she's been pretty sad recently. I've tried to comfort her and she's been acting differently around me, in a good way. She asks if she'll be able to talk to me later, as if I'm going to disappear or something. She considers me her best friend. Is that a good thing? Or a bad thing?

I'm talking relationship wise, but I do cherish our friendship.

Inb4 ask her out.

[Gumleaf]

well some people say that nice guys finish last, but for me i'm a nice guy and i think i've finished first. i'm like you, my best friend is a girl and we were very close like you and that girl appear to be. it turned out we both liked eachother but neither of us said anything. anyways, we have taken the risk and hooked up and have been very happy together. so it can work and can happen. whether it can for you, you can only try and see, but good luck to you anyways.

[Mzor203]

I think what you are describing is a very good sign. She seems attached to you, and loves your company. At this point it's very likely that asking her out will meet with success.

The one thing you should think about is, what if you two break up? Will that completely ruin your friendship, or will you be able to keep it going? I'm not trying to steer you away from it, just pointing out something you should think about with such a close friend as this.

If you think you're ready to ask her out, I say go for it. Everything seems to be in your favor. :)

[JoMan]

But I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me, talking relationship wise.

PS. Thanks for your help guys

[byee]

Wait, she DOES like you! How could you say she doesn't?!

It's really only in the movies that girls throw themselves at the feet of their guys, that they pine away for them, anticipating the phone call, or chase them down the frozen food aisle for a little off handed nookie! Really.

Most good relationships happen to nice guys, and they usually develop slowly over time. It's usually not 'love at first sight', rather interest and then friendship and then love. Sounds like you're on the right track here, just keep doing what you're doing and don't get caught up either in expectations (yours or hers) or definitions (like 'going out').

[JoMan]

Hmm...

You could be right about this.

We'll see.

[Gumleaf]

Most good relationships happen to nice guys, and they usually develop slowly over time. It's usually not 'love at first sight', rather interest and then friendship and then love. Sounds like you're on the right track here, just keep doing what you're doing and don't get caught up either in expectations (yours or hers) or definitions (like 'going out').

i agree, and thats how good relationships develop. i agree that i think you two are on the right track. its important not to rush into these things. it was over 2 years before my gf and i hooked up after first becoming friends. so there is no need to rush, but let your relationship continue to develop.

[Nihilus]

Its a good thing. Support her because she has gone through a bad experience. Iamsams advice is good too.