Real Bad Deppression

[jaja]

Im 14 and i know im going through puberty and i moved to a new city and its summer so im always at home since i dont know anybody.but thats not what gets me deppressed its the thought of being gay like i know im not i know its probably hormones and all but everytime i think about it it brings me down and b4 i turned 14 i loved girls i wanted to have sex and everythign by at 14 my voice began to deepen and i started having these thoughts of men now everytime i think about it i get really sad i sleep alot now and i just found out my uncle was gay and i took that kinda hard just need some help...

[Mzor203]

There's nothing wrong with thinking about other guys. It's perfectly normal and just your hormones probably, as you yourself pointed out. Moving can be hard since you leave all your friends behind, and I think that is playing a key role in your depression. School is almost about to begin, fortunately, but I think what you need to do is find something you enjoy and start pursuing it avidly to take your mind off anything else.

Just pull through for a couple more days and then hopefully you'll be able to make some more friends.

If you ever need to talk, I'm here.

[jaja]

by the way ive been feeling like this for a month

[Mzor203]

Well, did it begin before or after a month? I still think my point stands true. Once you get some friends and get back to school you will feel less lonely. As for the part where you think you might be gay,just remember that if you aren't the feeling will subside soon enough. But until then, just go about your life how you normally would. Just keep a smile on your face and try to pull through.

[jaja]

i dont really think im gay just the thought of being gay

[Mzor203]

Well what exactly is bothering you then? I'm not sure exactly what it is you're having problems with, what is causing it? You don't have to worry about the thought of being gay if you aren't. I'm not sure exactly what the problem is.Could you elaborate a little?

[JoMan]

Sounds like he's got a fear of being gay to me. Maybe the society he lives in doesn't accept that.

You don't SOUND gay to me though, you just sound like you have a fear of being gay.

[jaja]

its that sometimes ill have thoughts of men

[Mzor203]

We have got that, and as I have said before, don't worry at all. It's probably just hormones and at this point you can't tell. Just give it time.

[jaja]

i even tryed watching gay porn for a test no boner i think its just something phsycological going on with me cause of puberty

[Mzor203]

Well then, I think that question is answered. You don't have to worry about it if it was going to be a problem in some way. Don't worry, it's just puberty.

[byee]

Rex has done a really nice job on this one, nice going, Rex!

I think you have too much time on your hands, you need to get out of the house and start making friends, exploring the neighborhood, etc. Get out of your head. As they say, an idle mind........

At 14 everything is arousing, it's the combo of hormones, eyeballs, and genitals, all those wires get crossed, the insulation gets fried. Homosexuality is not determined at 14 by what arouses you or what you find yourself thinking about or looking at. Those are just urges. Sexuality is more about emotions, how you see (and experience) yourself, and how you see (and experience) others, who you trust and look to for nurturance, who you're primarily emotionally attached/bonded to. I'm not hearing anything about that stuff from you, so it's most likely about the 'other' part, the arousal. You need both to be gay.

Get out there, make some friends.

[thesphinx]

I agree with Rex and Sam, I also think that if you don't get this resolved you should think about therapy it can really help you sort out all these thoughts and feelings you are having.

[The Batman]

Don't let the fear of being something that your probably not keep you from being happy. Your 14 years old and you say you think of men, then just think of them and think of women. Instead of trying to fight these thoughts just let them come and go and soon you'll be happier than you are now. I doubt that your gay and so do you and maybe it's the fear that your uncle is gay is what's making you think that you might be gay to. Just try and not worry about being gay and start worrying about having fun.

[jaja]

this whole problem really started when i was having a sexual fantasy about a girl and didnt get erect cause everytime i used to i did and after that i didnt anymore then i stopped thinking about girls and just started thinking about guys...

[Mzor203]

Hmm, even so, I still believe that the explanation for this is your hormones. Puberty does the weirdest things to you. It's unpredictable and fickle. Don't let this get you down though, as I said before, keep living your life like you normally would, and once school starts again and you get off your feet and start doing stuff, things should clear up a bit.

However, there is a small chance that you could turn out to be gay or bi. But this will probably not become apparent for quite a while, so just wait it out, and we will see what we shall see.