I hate life.

[DaretoFallup]

Dangit omfg my grandma died and my brother has cancer, my mom already lost all of her family now except for me and my brother (i have a 29 y/o brother) 4/4 of the people who have already had cancer have died....

[Kuervo]

wow, omg. i feel really sorry for u and for ur family. dont worry things will get better, i know so. pray to God, he can help. but u dont have to hate ur life, just be glad ur alive and so is ur mom and brother. be thankful for wut u have. hope i helped

[byee]

Oh, i am so sorry for you, this all sounds terrible. Is there anything we can do?

It's hard to be strong in situations like yours, you need to be extra nice to yourself and treat you with lots of TLC.

Let us know if we can help.

[DaretoFallup]

ok, thank you I just cant stop crying i feel so much pain life is so hard

[Rutherford The Brave]

Chelsea I'm terribly sorry for what has happened to you. Just let it out its ok to cry. Please just pm me if you feel the need, I'm sorry once again. Stay safe sweet cheeks ;).

[thesphinx]

I'm so sorry! :hug:
don't worry about crying it's the best thing you can do in this situation, don't hold it in.
if there is anything we can do please tell us.

[The Batman]

I'm sorry babe but you have to hold on for both your mother and your brother. Be there for them during this ordeal and just show them all the love you can. Death is a natural part of life but it is also painful so if you feel you need to cry than let it all out.

[DaretoFallup]

thank you guys really i just want someone i can talk to i hate being alone during bad times and i feel really bad for my momcause all her family is pretty much dead.

I know death is a natural part of life but why cant it just happen in their sleep or something i hatewhen they go in pain (cancer) yes im reflecting on previous family deaths.

My grandma has been in a nursing homefor about ten years she had some illness and i hated that nursing home herstuff got stolen all the time but she was in maryland andd there was nothing wecan do the reason im upset is it was my moms mom and if my mom died, i know i wouldnt be ok.

With my big brother hes my only male role model i have i look up to him so much, with all the cancer relateddeaths in the family im scared he'll die too, and I cant lose him, not now when i need him the most.

[ShatteredWings]

:hug3:

do u wanna talk? death, well, to put it lightly sucks. :( most of us here on vt are more than willing to listen

[JoMan]

No, you don't hate life.

Dying sucks.

Even if your life might not be the greatest or the one you want, it's over 9000x better than dying.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Chelsea you are a very strong young women. I know how hard life is trust me, I just lost the most influencial man in my life, I work 2 shifts a day and I have a baby to take care of. This is life though, we just always cope with what hits us. Its unfortunate though, Death hits people young even the fittest people can die at twenty and the most unhealthy can live to 100.

[Sugaree]

Chelsea, dying is a part of life and so is dying. This entire thing called life is all about being born, living life as long as you can, and then dying off into some type of spiritual world beyond this one.

It's hard to get over the death of a pet, parent, and family members but we have to accept things like this. It's ok to cry. Don't act like you're strong because no one is very strong in the death of a family member.

So just cry because that can help. But, don't cry too much. Just remember the good things and the good times you had with your grandma and think about how much she loved you and how much you loved her. Because in the end, it's the times you and her shared in both your lives.

As for you brother, I'm very sorry. Cancer is an awful and dreadful thing. But, you can help him through it. Talk to him and ask him if there's anything that you can do for him or do anything for him. He needs his family now more than ever in this time and that helps people through tough times.

[byee]

Chelsea, we spoke last night, but I wanted to check in tonite and see how you are, and also add my $.02 (Ok, Ok, $5.00!).

I think you're going thru a really hard time, and it's really important to get lots of support here, and you need a really good support network out there, too. Plan on letting some people in on your situation at school as we discussed. And you know we're all here for you, too. We're a really good bunch, and I think any of us would gladly help, just let us know.

One thing I think bears remembering is that eventhough there's a lot of illness in your family, and you're rightly terrified about it and the potential outcome, you should also try to balance that with the simple fact that your brother is still here, he's still an active part of your life, and that he is, quite simply, more than a cancer patient. Don't dwell just on that, the illness, and your fears. Enjoy him and focus on all the other things he does for you, on all he means to you. Don't let his illness (or your worry) interfere with that.

[theOperaGhost]

I'm so sorry Chelsea.:hug: I hope things go well for you. If you need anyone else to talk to, I'm here.

[ssgliberty]

wow i`m sorry for you but i know my uncle died on the 7th at 12:18 Am and a bff i`m sorry to hear about your brother :( if you need someone to talk to i`m here.

[DaretoFallup]

thankyou everyone, Im still in shock and have my little "moments" where i break down but im trying to just be strong for my brother at this time and hopefully he'll get past this

[BlackenedSilver]

Im so sorry to hear that all that is happening to you!
The best thing to remember is that things will get better and people beat cancer!!
I cant say anymore than what people have already, So im just going to repeat some.. lol!
We are all here to help! :D
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