am i gay?

[MrTeen14]

ok so basicly, i have a friend who we always tease about being gay, iknow it is not right, and i don't think he is really gay but, we do it for fun,

anyways, i sometimes have thoughts of having doing things with him, although i do think about girls too, i have been thinking about guys a lot lately, am i gay or not? (i know i am the only one who really knows but what do you guys think)

[Master Bait]

I think its just the hormones. Every(or almost every) boy goes through this "curios" stage in puberty. Guys are sexually attracted to other guys because this is the time when both guys and girls are most sexually driven. It wants to experiment w/ other thing, seeing if it likes it or not, and then move on.

[Cristiann123]

first of all and this is an answer that i always give. Its just hormones!!! and if its not hormones, it may just be because your curious. your not bi, your not gay, just curious. its up to u if u want to be gay.

[MrTeen14]

then what about the other posts about masturbating on friends of the same sex?

and what if they like it and want to do it again but you don't like it?

[theOperaGhost]

If you aren't comfortable with it, say no...they shouldn't force you to do something you aren't comfortable with. If they keep forcing it on you...just leave.

[MrTeen14]

what if you want to try it, what are you supposed to say

[Cristiann123]

just try it then if u like it keep doin it but if u dont dont do it untill u feel like u wanna do it again

[The Batman]

It's your life we can't control it we can give you advice but when it all boils down it's up to you to decide what you want. Do you want to be with this boy or do you want to be with your girlfriend? You decide and live with that decision.

[MrTeen14]

ya, but if i were to try.. how would i ask in your opinion? and where would i do it?

[The Batman]

I advice you not to ask because then the teasing can turn on you.

[MrTeen14]

well, if i were to try it, what brings it up in conversations, i don't see how it comes up and all of the sudden two friends are getting naked and...(i wont go on)

[The Batman]

I really don't know I've never done anything like it before. It depends on you and your friend so only you guys can figure that out.

[MrTeen14]

well, i find it weird and kinda sick, but i just want to try

[Neverender]

ok so basicly, i have a friend who we always tease about being gay, iknow it is not right, and i don't think he is really gay but, we do it for fun,

anyways, i sometimes have thoughts of having masturbating with him, although i do think about girls too, i have been thinking about guys a lot lately, am i gay or not? (i know i am the only one who really knows but what do you guys think)

one word. Hormones.

[MrTeen14]

well what am i supposed to do about it?

[byee]

I'm confuzzled. (not an easy thing to accomplish, btw).

Are you asking if you're gay b/c you want to try masturbating with another guy? The answer to that is no. Your sexuality is only partly defined by what turns you on or your desires. The other, and really more important part, is how you see yourself and who you feel bonded/emotionally attached to. That takes longer to figure out than what makes Mr. Dinky stand tall. However, whatever you decide to do with this curiosity, you might take into consideration 2 things: First, it involves another person who might have different experiences and expectations with this behavior, and, 2) how you might feel (about yourself and him) afterwards. Just b/c you want to do something doesn't mean it's necessarily a good idea, and rationalizing/excusing it as 'experimentation' or 'curiosity' does not protect you from the potential consequences of doing it.

Also, let me add here that teasing someone about something as personal as sexuality 'for fun' isn't really funny, it borders on (verbal) abuse, defined as the intentional infliction of distress on another. You might consider a different way of expressing your humor with this guy, I doubt he appreciates being called 'gay', regardless of the accuracy (or inaccuracy) of these remarks.

[Antares]

General Puberty :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[MrTeen14]

ok well, i was at a sleepover with my friend that i talked about earlier, we slept in the basement, and basicly, i was in a tent, (tiny tent) and anther friend of mine, jumped in and started taking his clothes off as a joke, i wasn't turned on at all, but later that night, when the friend that we teased, was sleeping, and i decided to crawl into the couch next to him as a joke, (cause a third friend of mine thought it was funny) so when he woke up he would be freaked out, but when i was basicly, right on top of him, in nothing but boxers and a shirt, i got a boner, and had trouble falling asleep because of it, so does that in anyway, make me gay or bi?