like a completely different person

[Gumleaf]

so only a couple of months ago this friend of mine was his normal self. he is a friend from school who is part of a little group of about 6 of us. we would have fun together and stuff. anyways, at the end of june he left for a month long holiday, lucky bugger! anyways, since he has come back, he's been a comletely different person. we would try and talk to him, and he like totally ignoring us. he just doesn't say a word to us and its like talking to a brick wall. anyways, whats even stranger soon, he seems to have made friends with people who he didn't like and apparently didn't like before he went away. anyways, we've talked about it and my other friends don't seem to care, but this is bothering me. i don't know if we've/i've done something wrong? i'm not sure whether to let him go, or try and sort things out? this is totally weird and i really don't know.

[Sapphire]

Try talking with him about it. You have to prepare yourself for him to not be interested in talking, but give it a go. He may surprise you and tell you why he's changed.

The thing is that people never really stay exactly the same. Sometimes the change is drastic and seems inexplicable. But ultimately, you have to accept that he has and that you can't change him back.

[Neverender]

so only a couple of months ago this friend of mine was his normal self. he is a friend from school who is part of a little group of about 6 of us. we would have fun together and stuff. anyways, at the end of june he left for a month long holiday, lucky bugger! anyways, since he has come back, he's been a comletely different person. we would try and talk to him, and he like totally ignoring us. he just doesn't say a word to us and its like talking to a brick wall. anyways, whats even stranger soon, he seems to have made friends with people who he didn't like and apparently didn't like before he went away. anyways, we've talked about it and my other friends don't seem to care, but this is bothering me. i don't know if we've/i've done something wrong? i'm not sure whether to let him go, or try and sort things out? this is totally weird and i really don't know.

well when i went back to newfoundland for the Summer i got together with my old friends who are almost completely different from the ones here in BC. anyways, it revived an old Ryan that was much more like them then the one now. perhaps somthing happened when he was on vacation that changed him. try talking to him, and if you don't, he'll probably return normal within a few weeks anyways

[Mzor203]

I think you should go talk to him and ask him what's up. Being gone for so long, he could've just changed while not around his normal friends. I don't think that waiting for him to do something is going to yield results in this case, so you have got to be the one to make a move. Just ask him what's up, and ask him if he wants to hang out with you guys, but if he just doesn't, then I don't know. At that point maybe it just is time to let go. It may be hard, but it's his choice.

On the other hand, talking to him could very well bring out the reason for his actions, and if it's something you guys an fix, great!

Keep us posted on how things go. ;)

[Gumleaf]

well i have an update with this. there is some good news. today our friend was placed in a situation where he was basically forced to talk to us to do our school work. the good news is that he did talk a bit to 2 of my friends. the bad news is that when i tried to talk to him, he ignored me and didn't even acknowledge me. i somehow think that the problem is closer to home and maybe i'm the one with the defective personality?

[Mzor203]

Well, that's not good. I'm sorry, Stephen.

This is a tough case. I'm not sure what's up. How close were you guys when he left? Did you guys have any conflicts in the past?

I think the answer is to keep trying. Don't give up on him quite yet, it's not a lost cause. But also know when it's enough, and respect him. Maybe there's just something's up, and stuff isn't going well for him,so he's avoiding closer friends because he doesn't want to talk about it.

Just try a little more, and if there's still nothing, maybe it's time to let him be. I don't want to say that, but... yeah.

Hope things take a turn for the better.

-Rex

[Gumleaf]

well who knows. it won't be a great tragedy if we don't remain friends, but still it will be sad. idk, maybe its my fault? i do have a funny way of turning people off me and not even realising it. but yeah, we'll see what happens i guess.

[Mzor203]

Oh, don't say that. I'm sure it wasn't your fault. I still think you should try a little more, it could be that something's up and he's feeling bad about something, so you should try to help out. I can't give you much advice at this point, but it may be that at some point you need to catch him alone and confront him. If you do, just be careful though.

Anyway, just try to be friendly to him as well. See if there aren't excuses you can find to hang out around him.

[Gumleaf]

so today i decided to stop being stupid and got myself in a situation where i could talk to him when nobody else was around, which was easier said then done. anyways, i tried talking to him again and made the best progress i have so far. it was only small talk really, but i managed to make him laugh though. i guess people can change just like that and its hard to figure out why, but as long he is happy i guess thats the most important thing.

[Mzor203]

Well, it's good that you made him laugh, but it seems like he's still being kind of tight, huh? I don't know, if you think you can get him back to his old state without much fuss, you should try. At least he acknowledged you and talked to you.