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Malcolm Tucker
August 23rd, 2008, 02:29 AM
Rape
Definition

Rape, or sexual assault, is the act of sexual intercourse with one or more persons who did not consent to it. It may involve penetration or not. In most countries it is a criminal offense, and merits jail time for the perpetrator. It, unfortunately, does happen, and causes both physical, and emotional damage for the victims.

Statistics


Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted
In 2006, there were 272,350 victims of sexual assault (NationalCrime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice.)
1 in 6 (approx. 16.6%) females, and 1 in 33 (approx .03%) males will be victims of sexual assault in their lifetimes.
College aged women are 400% times more likely to be raped
60% of sexual assaults do not get reported to the authorities.
Since 1993, reporting of such crimes has increased but 33%.
Approximately 73% of rape victims know their assailant.
Only 6% of rapists spend 1 night in prison
About 44% or rape victims are under the age of 18
15% of rape victims are under the age of 12.
93% of the rape victims age 18 and under knew the rapist. Of these rapists, 34.2% were family members and 58.7% were acquaintances.




If it is you

If it is you who has been raped, there are a few things you can do.


Go straight to the police; waiting a few days will compromise the evidence needed to capture the rapist.
Failing that, go to the hospital (You should anyway), so that you may be treated for whatever injuries (emotional too) you may have sustained in the incident.
TELL SOMEONE, don't live in silence. It will make it harder to forget.
There are a number of helplines and websites dedicated to rape victims below.



Rape and Suicide

Childhood and adulthood victims of rape are more likely to attempt or commit suicide. The association remains, even after controlling for sex, age, education, symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder and the presence of psychiatric disorders. The experience of being raped can lead to suicidal behavior as early as adolescence. In Ethiopia, 6% of raped schoolgirls reported having attempted suicide. A study of adolescents in Brazil found prior sexual abuse to be a leading factor predicting several health risk behaviours, including suicidal thoughts and attempts.

The Aftermath of Rape


vaginal bleeding or infection
fibroids
decreased sexual desire
genital irritation
pregnancy (see below)


Rape and Pregnancy

In the U.S. around 5% of rapes end in pregnancy. This produced around 32,000 pregnancies per annum. If you are female, and were raped, go straight to your G.P. and get the "Morning After Pill".

The Morning After Pill is not an abortion. It prevents pregnancy from occurring. It stops the plantation of the fertilized embryo onto the womb's wall; thus not terminating pregnancy, in fact it prevents it from starting.

It is contraception. However, in some states, some Catholic hospitals, are not required to provide it as a form of emergency contraception. Therefore I am not suggesting you pick which hospital to go to when you have been raped, go to your General Practitioner.

THE MORNING AFTER PILL WILL ONLY WORK 72 HOURS AFTER THE INTERCOURSE.

Rape and STDs

Unfortunately, in every case of rape there is a risk of contracting a STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease). The most common STD in these cases is HIV.Adolescent girls are particularly susceptible to HIV infection through forced sex, and even through unforced sex, because their vaginal mucous membranes have not yet acquired cellular density sufficient to provide an effective barrier that develops in the later teenage years. Those who suffer anal rape are also considerably more susceptible to HIV than would be the case if the sex were not forced, since anal tissues can be easily damaged, again allowing the virus an easier entry into the body.

Criminal Punishment in Rape Cases

U.S.A. (wikipedia)

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Support

If you are in need of support here are some contact numbers and websites categorized by country.

United States Of America


Call 911

Call Suicide hotline : 1-800-SUICIDE
Nation Sexual Assault Hotline : 1-800-656-HOPE


Canada


http://www.infocava.ca/ - Canadian Association for Victim Assistance
http://www.crcvc.ca/en/links/ - Canadian Resource for Victims of Crime
Call: 911


United Kingdom


Call 999
Terrence Higgins Trust (Confidential HIV hotline) 12pm-10pm on 0207 242 101
Childline- Free for children's help - 0800 1111


Republic Of Ireland


Call 999 or 112
Call FREEPHONE 1800 778888 -Dublin Rape Crisis Centre.



Sources :

http://en.wikipedia.org
http://www.garda.ie
http://www.suicide.org/rape-victims-prone-to-suicide.html
http://www.ibiblio.org/rcip/internl.html
http://www.hotpeachpages.net/canada/index.html


Edit:

I just wanted to stress the importance of reporting rape whenever it happens. Some may find it hard to believe but a huge number of victims do not report the event simply because their ashamed, disgusted, scared and so on..

But not reporting it is wrong, rape is a crime and not reporting it and not doing everything possible to make sure the person sick enough to do this to You and others goes to jail almost always ensures the same thing happening again to another victim in the future.

And to illustrate my point of view here is a story posted by one of our members

I was thinking about posting this for awhile... not really sure how some of you would react, but I think it's a story that needs sharing. It's not really my story, it's my sister's; and I would never dream of sharing it without her permission, but she's been more vocal in recent years about getting the message out, so here goes:


A number of years ago, my older sister (who at the time was 17), was walking home from a concert downtown. She had went with three of her friends, so she felt safe. Her friends got off the subway two stops before she did. Making the short trip from the subway to her bus stop alone, she was assaulted and raped. I won't go into details, but that part's actually worse than it sounds.

She went to the hospital where they did a lot of tests. I was too young at the time to fully understand what had happend; all I knew was someone had hurt my big 'sis. She stayed there for a few days for observation, but thankfully her body was not seriously injured and the STI tests all came back negative.

While she was in the hospital, she gave a description of the man who attacked her. My mom and dad wouldn't let me be in the room with her when she did that, but I watched through the window as the detectives talked and took notes. To this day I still remember the look they shared with each other. The look I now know to mean "Oh, that guy. Yeah, we know him."

The man was arrested the very next day and charged with several Class A indictable offences. My sister was forced to testify (which was yet another trauma) but he was found guilty. This ass wipe is currently serving a 25 year prison term.

Justice served, right?

Not entirely.

Added to the simple fact that taking away this man's freedom in no way equates to making things right for my sister, this story has the added tragedy of never having to have happened.

You see, my sister wasn't this man's first victim.

Only six months earlier charges against him for raping another young woman had been dropped because she had refused to testify. The Crown could have issued a subpoena, but chose to respect her wish to be left alone.

For a long time, I felt my sister had paid the price for this woman's cowardice. It's a horrible thing to say, I know this now, but for I long time I hated that other woman almost as much as I did the bastard who hurt my sister. It wasn't her fault of course. You can't help feeling what you feel: whether that be fear, or shame or anger... you just feel it. I get that now.

Still... I can't help but think how my sister's life, my family's life, would have been different if that other woman had come forward; or if the Crown pushed the issue.


Rape is a crime I can't even begin to comprehend, but if you're one of the many young women every year who fails victim to it, I would urge you, for the sake of every woman after you that that person may harm, report the crime and follow it through to the end.

Thanks for your time.

So whoever and where ever You are and no matter what was done to You: find the strength to fight and make sure the person(s) who did it to You never get the chance to do so ever again.

-Hyper

Oblivion
August 23rd, 2008, 02:31 AM
Oh my god thats sickening.
Good info/post though.
Wow. America is so messed up.
Rep+

Sugaree
August 23rd, 2008, 07:17 PM
Oh my god thats sickening.
Wow. America is so messed up.

It's not just America. It's everywhere. Good job on this Michael. This would be a great help guide for anyone that has been raped.

Oblivion
August 23rd, 2008, 07:29 PM
I know Matt, but it specifically shows US details, and thats what I was referring to

Malcolm Tucker
August 24th, 2008, 03:45 AM
I know Matt, but it specifically shows US details, and thats what I was referring to

That's because there were only US statistics out there.

stotty
August 24th, 2008, 03:59 AM
ummmm..maybe you should lock the topic mods. i dont see how it needs replies?

japanman
August 24th, 2008, 04:34 AM
Nice job this should be stickied.

I help as much as i can to make sure ppl at school or just around dont get sexualy assaulted but I always know that someonelse somewhere is bieng raped but for me thats enough i might not be able to save the world but i can save some ppl.

*adds thread to favs*

Malcolm Tucker
August 24th, 2008, 06:03 AM
ummmm..maybe you should lock the topic mods. i dont see how it needs replies?


My call, not yours. It's not locked because I might be missing something and if no one can reply, I can't fix it. It stays open. Keep posts related to the topic

GiZzLe
January 30th, 2009, 11:21 AM
that doesnt really help if u g2 sum 1 n tell them

MysticalBurrito
January 30th, 2009, 11:53 AM
that just sick i cant believe that this state is so messed up

YourFriend
July 4th, 2009, 02:37 PM
It's not just America. It's everywhere. Good job on this Michael. This would be a great help guide for anyone that has been raped.

it is everywhere, but it's more in USA than any other country, face it...

Bougainvillea
July 4th, 2009, 03:35 PM
Did you knew if you're getting raped or if you're kidnapped, you're supposed to yell "FIRE" instead of help? Because people usually don't respond to help. That's fucked up.

ErykaInspire.
July 5th, 2009, 05:29 PM
One year ago in November, my "then" boyfriend tried to rape me......
it did result in suicide attempts but talking to someone REALLY helped.

You're NOT worthless and that's not all you're good for.
Don't block everyone else that tries to walk into your life, they could change it for the better.
Everything starts with trust, but make sure that people earn it.

I'm open to discussion if anyone needs to talk about their experiences. I know how big it is, but it is possible to talk about, and to cope with it.
Don't worry about dumping everything on me, that's what i'm here for<3
PM me whenever.

LiGHT
July 5th, 2009, 05:44 PM
Great info. +rep I did not know half the stuff up there. Thanks for helping me get caught up. And I don't know if this a stupid question or not but can a male be raped by a female?

ErykaInspire.
July 5th, 2009, 06:23 PM
And I don't know if this a stupid question or not but can a male be raped by a female?

ABSOLUTELY!
If you're not willing, it's rape.
Anyone can be raped, male or female, by any gender.

Sapphire
July 17th, 2009, 01:10 PM
It is hugely important that you talk with someone about this if it happens to you.
Even if you don't want to go to the police you need to heal yourself and talking about it is the first step towards that goal.

Rape Crisis UK (http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/) are there to support anyone over the age of 14 in the UK (regardless of gender, race etc) who has had to deal with any form of sexual abuse.



it is everywhere, but it's more in USA than any other country, face it...
I think you'll find that more rapes occur in conflict areas in Africa than in the USA.

Fallen_embers
August 16th, 2009, 07:33 AM
What if you get raped and don't do anything about it?
Like years later can you still get the person who did it arrested or something?
aah :(

Sapphire
August 16th, 2009, 08:00 AM
It does happen.
I'm not sure what the likelihood of a conviction is though...

blameitonvogue
August 27th, 2009, 03:57 AM
Is filing a stalking report good enough if it is currently happening (re-occurring) and you include it in the report? :/

Sapphire
August 27th, 2009, 04:14 AM
Is filing a stalking report good enough if it is currently happening (re-occurring) and you include it in the report? :/
If you report it to the authorities then they can help you stay safe.

blameitonvogue
August 31st, 2009, 02:11 AM
It's harder than I thought.

:/

Mikey
August 31st, 2009, 03:16 PM
My friend nicole fails to realize that guys touch her ass, grope her, and whatnot. Its because shes an idiot. One of her neighbors put a blanket over her head and she couldnt get it off so she took her shirt off... I mean seriously. Sometimes things like this could be avoided if people payed attention.

But the story is sick. The girl could have been saved if the woman testified.

rukiayua
October 11th, 2009, 11:38 AM
"# Go straight to the police; waiting a few days will compromise the evidence needed to capture the rapist.
# Failing that, go to the hospital (You should anyway), so that you may be treated for whatever injuries (emotional too) you may have sustained in the incident.
# TELL SOMEONE, don't live in silence. It will make it harder to forget.
# There are a number of helplines and websites dedicated to rape victims below."

what if it's not that easy??????

Sapphire
October 11th, 2009, 04:11 PM
Rukiayua, it's never as easy as those words imply.
Telling someone helps a lot though. Being able to talk things over with another person makes it easier for you to heal. That I can tell you.
Reporting a crime like this is very tough. Before you consider reporting anything you have to make sure that you have the support you will need to pull you through it.
As long as your support system is strong, you can do anything.

clone
October 11th, 2009, 09:23 PM
25 years in prison isnt enough because when he gets out he may do it again i cant believe people are that horrible

rukiayua
October 12th, 2009, 01:54 PM
25 years in prison isnt enough because when he gets out he may do it again i cant believe people are that horrible

exactly :( i mean......unless you kill him instantly....there really is absolutely no justice....there is nothing you really can do.....it's all pointless:(

Sapphire
October 12th, 2009, 02:46 PM
It isn't pointless. Do you know what happens to child molesters and the such like in prisons?

rukiayua
October 13th, 2009, 03:04 PM
yea, they get the same thing...they go in tight end come out wide receiver....if you kno what i mean....but that doesnt really do much either....cuz it's still happening....there's no way anyone can stop it

Sapphire
October 13th, 2009, 05:48 PM
They still get punished.
They still get judged against wherever they go.
There isn't a way of getting away from a prison sentence for a crime of this nature...

wisse2012
October 13th, 2009, 06:53 PM
hey im 15 and was raped by a man when i was 9 and it is so much harder to tell then u think. i have toldd 2 people in my life about it i still suffer and i just cant get up the emotion to tell somone

rukiayua
October 14th, 2009, 11:23 AM
They still get punished.
They still get judged against wherever they go.
There isn't a way of getting away from a prison sentence for a crime of this nature...

yes, but who are we to judge them? i mean it's terrible that someone did some stuff to me, but then again you feel like it's all your fault, and there's nothing you can do to prevent it again...i mean....i dunno...it's just so hard

wisse2012
October 14th, 2009, 03:22 PM
yes, but who are we to judge them? i mean it's terrible that someone did some stuff to me, but then again you feel like it's all your fault, and there's nothing you can do to prevent it again...i mean....i dunno...it's just so hard
your exactly right... i feel like it is my fault like what did i do wrong to diserve this and what if it happenes again what did i do to u

Sapphire
October 14th, 2009, 03:44 PM
yes, but who are we to judge them? i mean it's terrible that someone did some stuff to me, but then again you feel like it's all your fault, and there's nothing you can do to prevent it again...i mean....i dunno...it's just so hard
I know that it feels like it's your fault. But it isn't. This is probably one of the hardest thing for a survivor to get their head around, but you can get your head around it. We didn't do anything wrong.
They are the ones who did wrong.
They are the ones who are at fault.
They are the ones that will get punished for it.

rukiayua
October 15th, 2009, 11:42 AM
I know that it feels like it's your fault. But it isn't. This is probably one of the hardest thing for a survivor to get their head around, but you can get your head around it. We didn't do anything wrong.
They are the ones who did wrong.
They are the ones who are at fault.
They are the ones that will get punished for it.

you hear those words all the time...god, i think i 've memorized them, but it's just too hard to go through...

Sapphire
October 15th, 2009, 11:46 AM
you hear those words all the time...god, i think i 've memorized them, but it's just too hard to go through...
I know it's hard. But if you have the right support then you can get through it.

rukiayua
October 15th, 2009, 12:30 PM
i freaking hope so...if not..then why in the hell am i here????

SmileyGirl
January 18th, 2010, 03:23 PM
Good job on these facts.

Seeker94
February 13th, 2010, 11:17 PM
ABSOLUTELY!
If you're not willing, it's rape.
Anyone can be raped, male or female, by any gender.

Exactly just because I'm a guy it was still rape and yes it was by family and she never even got in trouble by police nor my mother did a thing after I said it. I am still slightly suffering but am mostly come to terms with it.

YouKnowWho
April 26th, 2010, 08:58 PM
I broke my boyfriend's bubble when I told him how many girls at our school I knew at the top of my head were molested and raped. He even changed his view on tis girl at our school whom everyone thinks is a bitch.

My best friend was telling me how this pervert molests her and the girl whom everyone thinks is a bitch did such a selfless thing and put herself in the path of the perpetrator in order to save my best friend.

welcome_to_chaos
September 18th, 2010, 11:26 PM
Sigh i wish it were that easy but it really isnt. it is very hard to go and say "this is what happened and this is who did it" especially if that person is a family member or in my case. a father.

nikole95.7
December 29th, 2010, 05:47 AM
One year ago in November, my "then" boyfriend tried to rape me......
it did result in suicide attempts but talking to someone REALLY helped.

You're NOT worthless and that's not all you're good for.
Don't block everyone else that tries to walk into your life, they could change it for the better.
Everything starts with trust, but make sure that people earn it.

I'm open to discussion if anyone needs to talk about their experiences. I know how big it is, but it is possible to talk about, and to cope with it.
Don't worry about dumping everything on me, that's what i'm here for<3
PM me whenever.

Great info. +rep I did not know half the stuff up there. Thanks for helping me get caught up. And I don't know if this a stupid question or not but can a male be raped by a female?

hotlaboy
April 30th, 2011, 07:35 PM
i know a friend that was raped... its messed her up forever... and the justice system let the guy that did it walk... ssux

Pancakes
June 14th, 2011, 08:24 PM
Scared of rapist? I am

MadManWithaBox
June 15th, 2011, 04:34 AM
Rape is a horrible thing. I've......... been had that done to me more than once. If you need to talk, I'm here.

RoseyCadaver
June 15th, 2011, 09:01 AM
Rape is a horrible thing. I've......... been had that done to me more than once. If you need to talk, I'm here.

Oh my :(,I was touched once as a child by a cousin,not really rape just touched,well and something else.....but I'll won't really talk about it :/ .

RoseyCadaver
August 1st, 2011, 12:16 AM
It's sadly always been this way,it's just more open about it now.

kindofdepressed1
August 9th, 2011, 08:14 PM
I was raped and it haunts me that it caused a pregnancy. Not just that it caused a pregnancy. But what if she's raping her. I feel sometimes like no one would believe me. I was only 13. She got me drunk and I begged her to stop but she wouldn't and I was too weak to get away. I just had to let her do what ever she wanted. My own body betrayed me. She always said it was my fault because I had an erection or whatever. I swear I didn't want it.

butty_92
September 3rd, 2011, 06:27 AM
I was raped and it haunts me that it caused a pregnancy. Not just that it caused a pregnancy. But what if she's raping her. I feel sometimes like no one would believe me. I was only 13. She got me drunk and I begged her to stop but she wouldn't and I was too weak to get away. I just had to let her do what ever she wanted. My own body betrayed me. She always said it was my fault because I had an erection or whatever. I swear I didn't want it. Please don't blame yourself, rapists are opportunists, they have no respect for anyone but themselves and will always look to excuse their behaviour!

JessicaConners
December 5th, 2011, 09:33 AM
I hope tis isn't to forward. but i just read a great book about date rape. it was called unlovable on my kindle. it help me alot because it was same kind of story that happened to me and i didn't knoe what to do when things happened to me. but it helped me feel like i could do somethinfg. maybe pass the infor along?

Rayquaza
January 1st, 2012, 02:37 PM
93% of under 18 knew who raped them? That's terrible.

HeyMissAwesome
January 29th, 2012, 01:42 PM
omg it was so....depressive.

Love.Hate
February 7th, 2012, 02:13 PM
This has really helped me, thankyou <3

rukia_yua
February 15th, 2012, 11:49 AM
how do you know that these will work? i believe that this list of "help" is nothing more than an obvious repression upon the unreality of how "stuff happens"

kai99
March 22nd, 2012, 01:22 PM
Rpae must be a terrible thing. If I could I would help everyone who suffered it

plebble
April 1st, 2012, 06:58 AM
Americans shouldn't be scared, they all have guns so they can shoot the rapists :P

Desuetude
April 1st, 2012, 07:34 AM
Americans shouldn't be scared, they all have guns so they can shoot the rapists :P
That's not funny if i'm honest.

Those statistics were horrible to read, it's sickening to think people are being taken advantage of like that. This isn't meant in any patronizing way but I'm really sorry that anyone had to go through that.

plebble
April 1st, 2012, 07:36 AM
That's not funny if i'm honest.

Those statistics were horrible to read, it's sickening to think people are being taken advantage of like that. This isn't meant in any patronizing way but I'm really sorry that anyone had to go through that.

Americans don't need guns... Why can't they just not shoot people like the rest of the world?

Desuetude
April 1st, 2012, 07:38 AM
Americans don't need guns... Why can't they just not shoot people like the rest of the world?
You can't go shooting random people, they need a license to carry a gun. I honestly don't know, write a letter to the american government or something?

plebble
April 1st, 2012, 07:39 AM
You can't go shooting random people, they need a license to carry a gun. I honestly don't know, write a letter to the american government or something?

Damn this world is fucked up... rape, drugs, guns, murder etc... The police need to be more strict. If rape happens, the rapist should get raped thrice as hard or some sort of traumatising punishment.

Desuetude
April 1st, 2012, 07:46 AM
Damn this world is fucked up... rape, drugs, guns, murder etc... The police need to be more strict. If rape happens, the rapist should get raped thrice as hard or some sort of traumatising punishment.

Yes the world is pretty fucked up, the list goes on about the amount of things wrong with it but about the rapist getting raped, that's another story and leading on to capital and corporal punishment which is something I have pretty strong opinions on.
I'm guessing we should not get to off topic and spam the thread so i'm going to end here.

Mortal Coil
April 1st, 2012, 10:16 AM
Great thread, very informative.
I wish I'd known some of this stuff when I was younger :cry:

ApresMidi
April 24th, 2012, 12:10 PM
I know its a late reply but its stickied and a reply was made on the 1st of this month so... :P

If you are raped and the person comes inside of you, as much as you want to scrub away the touch,leave the shower til they have taken sample.Essential dna can be gained from samples, thus helping if they have raped before x

XxAssasiNxX
May 5th, 2012, 05:33 PM
You can't go shooting random people, they need a license to carry a gun. I honestly don't know, write a letter to the american government or something?

Yeh u do need a license. but u cant go round shooting people. its for self defence. if somewone threatens u are allowed to shoot them. and u cant go round everywhere carrying a hangun..real life aint a video game..

Society is fucked up and humans only did this to thrmselvs so they have only tgemselvs to blame..the human race is not yet ready for the world we have today. we cqnt controll our own power. i helive qny criminal tlshould die as punnishment.prisns do nothing...

Posts merged. -StoppingTime

Valedar
May 5th, 2012, 05:48 PM
i only read the what to do when get raped and didnt have the chance to read everything (lazy me).

another fact on what to do (i dont know if this has been said, i didnt read the websitr link)

dont take a bath or clean your self. evidence are within your body. like pubic hair(if any) saliva and finger print (on body or clothes) etc that can be wash away when cleaning

VictoriaGotaSecret
June 12th, 2012, 09:24 PM
i wish i could put away my dad for doing this to my mom but i dont know the last time he diid it and you need proof.

EvanShaw
June 13th, 2012, 12:44 AM
I know it's stupid but after I was 'raped', i didnt tell anyone until a year later. But I only told her because we were opening up to eachother... I didn't tell her because I wanted to get it out there. But she promised never to tell..and I don't plan on ever telling the police or anything...

Silver Assassin
September 22nd, 2012, 04:52 PM
To add to this, my half-sister was raped by her father. He was reported, though my sister still receives counselling. Her dad at least is suffering from severe heart conditions.

Kriss41
January 24th, 2013, 12:58 PM
I know how bad it hurts...
I was sexually assaulted twice, and raped once. (The slight difference is I wasn't raped three times, they just hurt my chest a lot.)
These facts can really help anyone though. Even me.
I don't see a point in joking around about this, personally the idea sickens me. But whatever floats your boats.

VictoriaGotaSecret
January 25th, 2013, 02:33 PM
I hate how people get away with things like this. my mom has been before and this man is her husband and its reoccurring

NeuroTiger
February 2nd, 2013, 09:11 AM
Great piece of information and advice for us all...
Hopefully, there is a decrease in rape cases...it's so sick.

XxWilsonxX
June 27th, 2013, 03:25 AM
can a boy be raped by a girl and how?

Magenta
June 27th, 2013, 07:28 PM
can a boy be raped by a girl and how?

Being forced to have sex without consent (if you say no and you are forced, drugged, drunk, under the influence in any way and unable to say yes to sex) is rape. It does not matter if you are male or female or otherwise. If you did not want sex and were made to do so anyway, it is rape.

Lovelife090994
June 28th, 2013, 11:54 PM
Is it even possible to prevent rape right then and there? I mean if someone is trying to rape you even after your screams, bites, and if you're like me skinny and your strength isn't helping either, what can you do? It's over then...

James Bond
June 29th, 2013, 08:58 PM
Good post! Great job!

Maria72k
August 3rd, 2013, 08:36 PM
rape is so wrong!!

bubble .
August 16th, 2013, 09:17 AM
.. Rape is the reason for my birth.. :c

Katiya
September 28th, 2013, 01:22 PM
This saddens me. A old friend of mine had her guy friend from work force him self on her. She Refuses to tell authority's what he did. She just says if she did that he would tell everyone what they did. She says 'I mean idk why I let it happen... It was not that bad... Kind of nice in a way" but then she gets real upset about it and angry at her self.

I feel awful and I'm afraid he will do that to another girl. She says she said no several times and he still did it. I personally think the ass is going to have his way with lots of girls who don't know how to react to his advances.

I tried and tried to get her to tell but she won't. She lives in another state so I cant do much an frankly i dont want to hurt her by pressing her to tell.

I did manage to get her to go get the morning after pill and get tested for STDs which came back neg she said. I just feel bad for her and any of this guys future victims. To me it sounds like he's an ass that just wants what he wants no matter what.

EmmaJane
January 2nd, 2014, 08:17 PM
This saddens me. A old friend of mine had her guy friend from work force him self on her. She Refuses to tell authority's what he did. She just says if she did that he would tell everyone what they did. She says 'I mean idk why I let it happen... It was not that bad... Kind of nice in a way" but then she gets real upset about it and angry at her self.

I feel awful and I'm afraid he will do that to another girl. She says she said no several times and he still did it. I personally think the ass is going to have his way with lots of girls who don't know how to react to his advances.

I tried and tried to get her to tell but she won't. She lives in another state so I cant do much an frankly i dont want to hurt her by pressing her to tell.
I know how she feels. It happened to me at a very young age and I never told anyone. Then in 2012 my best friend tried to but I got away. I never told anyone about this and I still haven't to this day. He now has a girlfriend who was my other best friend now I'm scared he will do the same to her. But I know if I tell her she won't believe me and will tell him that I told her. It's very painful to even think about it. My advice is to leave it be she will tell someone when she is ready to.

DarkSide
April 27th, 2014, 01:46 AM
I know most are scared to talk about it but one way to deal with rape is to talk about it in public. Speaking in public creates awareness but it also takes a whole lot of courage. Being raped may be met with prejudice but it's really hard to keep it inside you for so long. Sometimes, you just have to speak up because others may find it as an inspiration and less women will get raped.

With the age of social media, there are a lot of mediums you can use to make your point. There are also scandals sites out there that helps for this purpose alone, one is http://www.scandalsatschool.com/submit-a-scandal/. I think it's great that they are hoping to create awareness in schools where I believe most of the rapes occur because of the division between bullies and nerds.

Let's help create awareness, even if it's only just for the online community. One post can go a long way.

cunny7
May 26th, 2014, 02:36 PM
That is so sick! I hope the police caught the person responsible and locked him up for good. I think your sister is very strong in being vocal and able to tell her story so others can be cautious when going out. Thank you for sharing. Jade x

Tifany
April 15th, 2015, 02:54 AM
Very painful but true facts. You did an amazing job by sharing them. It will help lots of people who don't know what to do.

Just JT
August 25th, 2015, 12:35 PM
Giving this thread a well deserved "bump"

I've also been a victim of sexual abuse over a long period of time, by the same men, and it's fuckin horrible to think that the same people we believe loved us would cause so much pain
Stuff nobody likes to hear, but we all need to hear about it, to increase awareness

I'm glad they didn't lock this thread early on, like they were talking about, this is a good place for us to help each other if we need

angelina
November 27th, 2015, 11:45 PM
yeh...rape is very threatening and endangering cancerous assault ...