She moved away, Now im really confused, :( help

[HaZe]

Well, this is my first post here.. so firstly hi..

umm, im just abit confused really and dont know what to do in life :(
i'll try and fill you in as much as i can..
Basically im 16.. and in all 16 years of life i have never found that special girl,
well until a few months ago..
It wasnt quite love at first sight but it was pretty damn close!
and i knew it... she was the one.
BUT there was a problem,
she and her family were moving to australia as her dad had gotten a big promotion.... this was about a week or two after me actually i think falling in love with her...
Anyway.. she has been in australia for about 4 weeks now, and i still miss her like mad,
we speak together on skype or msn every single day unless one of us cant be there..
Anyway...
the problem is.. she doesnt like it there at the moment and really wants to come back home, her parents also know this and say if she still hates it by december then she can come home..
anyway yes, she told me that she hates it.. but she doesnt know as she may possibly like it in future but she just doesnt know and its difficult dragging her whole family back..

This kinda leaves me stuffed, and i actually feel quite selfish..
I have been told by alot of my friends to try and forget about her and move on,
but i really really cant.. i think i actually love this person,
and i admit, she is the first thing i have ever cried about in about 8 years or so..
but i also really dont want to wait for her to come back for 4 months or so.. then find out that she doesn't want to return home :(
that would absoloutly crush me! i dont know what i would do, i would be distraught!

arghh.. im just really frustrated/confused/upset..

I'm sorry if some of this is abit random, i suck at writing these things,
feel free to ask any questions ;)

i'm Just wondering.. what would others do,
First girl ive felt something really really special with in 16 years(my age)..
about a 1 week relationship and she moved to australia (she was really upset also)

yeah.... any views? :confused:

By the way.. in 2 weeks i am starting further education (6th form) at school,
this means meeting lots of new people including new girls..
ahhhh another thing that messes things up :S

Oh and she feels the same about me.. i think, well she says she does :)
but she has moved to sydney.. what an amazing place to go to from south rainy england :S

[PrLatino93]

I understand that its hard to loose a girl you love, but you are still young and can meet tons of other girls. You have to wait and see how she likes living there over time. By time passing and not seeing each other, the love that you two share may stop and you both can fine someone else to fall in love with.

[doktored]

If there is anyone on these forums that can help you on this it is me. My girlfriend moved to Perth last year and that day was the worst day of my life. We too spoke often and she too was also homesick pretty quickly, so things were tough, we bought webcams and microphones so we could talk face to face and we were there daily for each other. If we ever want to see each other badly then we start saving up and both our families pay for one of us to go over to the other person's country/house, luckily she is pretty rich so in the past year we have met each other twice, with her family often picking up most of the fee.
Anyway, my advice to you, from someone who KNOWS what he is talking about is that the person you love will always be their in your mind, you may go out with someone else but no matter what you will always think about the one you love. So, talk to each other as often as you can, keep the relationship strong, save up for her to meet you or vice versa, and most important remember that there can only be one person who will make your heart skip a beat every time you see them

[HaZe]

Thanks man,
Yeah what you just said makes alot of sense,
pretty much exactly what is happening at the moment..

and its really comforting to see its happened to someone else the same age,
she is quite rich also.. but i am the complete opposite hehe,
but i was planning on flying over in march with a couple of friends to visit and stay at her place for 2 weeks..

Although now im not sure with this either because if shes coming back in december then booking the flights would be a waste.. and ive gotta book asap so theyre slightly cheaper :D

But yeah, thanks again;)

I understand that its hard to loose a girl you love, but you are still young and can meet tons of other girls. You have to wait and see how she likes living there over time. By time passing and not seeing each other, the love that you two share may stop and you both can fine someone else to fall in love with.

and i understand where you are coming from..

but i really dont want the love we share to stop...
just gotta hope she returns i guess,


ive taken lots of hard hits in my life though, so i may be more prepared than i think :S

[Nihilus]

well firstly hello. Well I guess you have to wait and see if she comes back. Keep in touch with her and who knows, she may not come back, but she may come for collage or something of the sort. Good luck And I hope something works out.

[doktored]

Thanks man,
Yeah what you just said makes alot of sense,
pretty much exactly what is happening at the moment..

and its really comforting to see its happened to someone else the same age,
she is quite rich also.. but i am the complete opposite hehe,
but i was planning on flying over in march with a couple of friends to visit and stay at her place for 2 weeks..

Although now im not sure with this either because if shes coming back in december then booking the flights would be a waste.. and ive gotta book asap so theyre slightly cheaper :D

But yeah, thanks again;)



I'm glad to see someone in a similiar position to me too. And helping is what virtual teen is for. Anyway, about going over with your mates, think about it, make sure you spend as much time with her as you can instead of with your mates on the beach, does sydney have a beach...? Also, consider whether your gf will want to come over to england too, because then you can plan to have a couple weeks down under and then another week back home with her, that's over a month and is a way in which she will see her old friends too and you will have a nice vacation.

[HaZe]

Hmm...
We spoke today, and i found out that she is not coming back..
after a long convo we basically decided to move on,
we're both young and like they say there are plenty more fish in the sea.

I'm abit gutted... but i'm used to shit things happening in my life :D
Still visiting her as planned next year, and shes coming late this year

So yeah, nevermind, it happens :)

[Gumleaf]

well i have to say that its probably best to both move on and i think you have made the right decision. i'm sure you will feel quite flat and gutted, but thats only natural. in time you will move on and you are quite right that there are plenty of fish in the sea. you'll just have to make the most of the time that you will get to spend with her when you visit eachother.