My religion or My sexuality

[The Batman]

Ok guys this is something that is hurting me. My religion is simply conflicting with my sexuality and when it comes down to it I can't be gay. Some of you guys are thinking that I should just leave my religion but the truth is I can't it's the only thing keeping me sane. I just have to go find myself and try hard to get rid of this curse known as homosexuality. Yesterday I would have proudly admitted to being gay but now I just can't live like this.

I was on this website chatting when I let it out that I was gay so this guy just starts bashing and I just can't take this for the rest of my life it's either I try and it now or I end up killing myself over it in the future.

I'm sorry guys but my religion comes before this and I need god to help me through this(I usually keep religion out of this forum but I need it now). I bet your wondering why I'm posting this. Well it's because I can't do this by myself I need help. I know this is wrong for me to ask you guys but...

How can I stop being gay?

[Oblivion]

I'm sorry that you have to go through this Thomas :(

But truthfully, in my opinion, you can't choose not to be gay.
It's like food. You don't choose what you like or dislike.

[The Batman]

Please I cannot hear that right now I need this gone.

[Oblivion]

Im sorry :(
Maybe you can find a way
Ive never heard of it, but i know you can do a lot of things many can't.
Maybe you can do it, since you need it so bad!

[Random_oso06]

Sorry too dude just like he said you don't choose your sexuality sorry you can't change it try to let the people except you for you can't change who you are because then you will be living a lie for the rest of your life

[Zephyr]

Sweetie, you can be gay and still have your religion.
Maybe consider switiching to a more accepting section of Christianity,
Especially if it's that important to you.
You can't help who you're attracted to.
Other people need to understand that.
God loves all of his children, correct?
No matter what?
God forgives all sinners if I understand correctly.
If that's true, rest easy.
It's not like there's a whole section in the Bible dedicated to why homosexuality is wrong.
And you know why? Because it isn't wrong.

Heck, when I was in Seattle last summer, there was a church there celebrating gay pride.

[Sapphire]

God is an all-loving being. He loves us all, regardless of colour, gender, wealth and sexuality. He loves even those who sin against him and will forgive them if they ask for it.
There isn't a reason why you can't continue your relationship with God and have a relationship with another guy. As Zephyr said, homosexuality isn't wrong. You will be a lot happier once you accept that it is alright to be religious and gay.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

oh i lived in seattle since the 6th grade then moved to burien in the of my 8th grade year but any way u cant change who you like just try to think about how to mix both your sexuality and your religion

[Zan0ra]

I am afraid u cant change your sexuality. And even if you did. You wouldn't be truly happy with it. As others have said, god loves all who loves him. No matter of who they are. Sexuality doesn't change that. It changes who you like.

[The Batman]

Ok so now that I've slept and thought about it I'm only thinking one thing. What the hell was I thinking. How can I let someone like that have so much control over my happiness. Yes I'm gay and I'm tired of being depressed about it. I'm gonna start living my life and be happy.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Good for you; and don't you EVER let religion or religious people around you make you feel bad for something that you have no control over; something that isn't even wrong.

It took me a couple years, but I've realized the foolishness of religion. I'm straight, but if I were gay, and I had to "choose" between religion and being HAPPY as a gay person, I wouldn't have a second thought about rejecting God. I had no such problems, I just realized as I matured mentally that... simply put... God doesn't exist! It seems to be a growing trend; as generations go by, the intelligent ones surpass their parents when they realize that they've been brought up to believe a fairytale just as real as Santa Claus!

[Zan0ra]

well said canadian guy. Well nice to know your happy now :)

[Requin]

Thank god for that (sorry for the pun, not originally intended)
Who cares about what other people think anyway. Personally i beleive that this is what religion does to people. It helps and ruin's peoples lives. IT's like a horrible irony that god would give the earth.
That's why i'm not religious.

[byee]

Professor, you know, you are who you are. No one chooses their sexuality, in much the same way as we don't choose our gender or our family. It just is. What you CAN (and maybe should) choose is who you share this with. The internet is not the best place to bare your soul, you know, they're just strangers, and you cannot predict their response. And besides, who cares what they think anyway.

Personally, I believe religion and spirituality can co exist quite peacefully with sexuality, regardless of what that might be. Religion gets a bad rap, you know, by those who really misunderstand it and use it as a bludgeon against anyone who dares to have a different set of beliefs. Religion isn't about control, it's about harmony and a deeper sense of belief in a Supreme Being who we are all accountable to. And, I might humbly add, that accountability is about your actions towards all things living, not what you do in private with another consenting adult or who you choose to love.

I think the task for you, my dear Thomas, is to feel strong and confident in those things about yourself that make you a good person, and to recognize that what you feel about yourself, how you accept yourself and embrace yourself as a whole person is far more important than the self righteous nonsense of the Lost.

Sam

[Vermillion]

Please I cannot hear that right now I need this gone.
Yeah bro... They're right. You cannot just stop being gay. Imagine asking a monkey to stop using it's awesome hand-feet to swing boundlessly from tree limb to tree limb. Not to say you're a monkey (But if you were that would be SO awesome), but it's nearly impossible to hop in the driver's seat of your hormones and own mind.
Sure, it's your brain "making" you gay (Though it's not like it randomly decided to do it, as you said you've accepted you're gay [Or at least was about to]) but there is nothing you can do about it.

And, as far as religion goes, don't worry about it. I mean, I'm not sure which God(s) you worship but if "Jehova" and "Jesus" are any part of it then you don't have to fret, because even IF it's a sin, it's not like you're gonna go to hell for it.

Are you ever gonna stop lying? Hell no. And, of course, lying a sin but ya' don't see many people freaking out about a "hell date" from lying often.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't worry about a thing and accept yourself. Hope I've helped :)

[mden]

Ok guys this is something that is hurting me. My religion is simply conflicting with my sexuality and when it comes down to it I can't be gay. Some of you guys are thinking that I should just leave my religion but the truth is I can't it's the only thing keeping me sane. I just have to go find myself and try hard to get rid of this curse known as homosexuality. Yesterday I would have proudly admitted to being gay but now I just can't live like this.

I was on this website chatting when I let it out that I was gay so this guy just starts bashing and I just can't take this for the rest of my life it's either I try and it now or I end up killing myself over it in the future.

I'm sorry guys but my religion comes before this and I need god to help me through this(I usually keep religion out of this forum but I need it now). I bet your wondering why I'm posting this. Well it's because I can't do this by myself I need help. I know this is wrong for me to ask you guys but...

How can I stop being gay?

I'm really struggling with this as well. I'm a Christian and I really don't want to be bisexual, but I am. It's like a tempt, a poison.
And mate, I don't know if there is a "Way" not to be gay... I don't know. I always think there is some way, wether easy or hard. Religion is a tough thing, and I agree with you: my religion is the only thing keeping me sane.

[Atonement]

Hey, a while back I wrote up a thread in ROTW and heres the link http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=28090

Okay, the first thing that bothers me here is that you let out that you're gay and they started bashing. If this was some kind of religious site, which I presume it was, then they are the ones that are F'ed up. God calls us to love everyone as Jesus loves us. And bashing people for doing or believing something is WRONG.

Okay, I am going to be blunt and don't take this a wrong way. In the bible, it says God hates gay sex. Now, keep in mind that gay sex was often part of paegan rituals and not of out the firey passion we call love. So, it says god hates gay sex, but never the people. God hates sin, not sinners. Make sense? Though never, ever, forget that God has unconditional love for you and he loves you SO much that there is nothing, literally nothing that you could do to take that away.

If you ever want to talk, the door is open.

[sieg]

its said you cant change your sexuality, which i believe. but hey god is known to perform miracles.

[Kahn]

Super bump. Over 2 years old. :locked: