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[Jekyll]

Hi i need your advice. I Have been on and off selfharming for the last 5-6 years and i really thought i had cracked it this time (5 weeks without cutting) but a mixture of urges, stress, and other such contributing factors made me do it again what can i do i really want to stop for good but i just cant

Any advice?

[Random_oso06]

try an actvity or a sport it will get your mind off of cutting your self

[Oblivion]

Try punching a pillow instead
Or even cutting an old pillow.
OR try getting a rubber band, put it on your wrist, and every time you get angry, snap it against your wrist.

[Jekyll]

thanks but the pillow doesnt work i end up punching brick walls i dislodged my knuckel last time, i may have to give the rubber bands a go thanks alot

[Fiending_the_freedom]

well, i can tell you really want to, and your maybe like me when i quit, that you knwo its bad, you knwo you want to stop but you've been doing it for so damn long that its just this habbit and its the only way you know how to function.

well i'll tell you what i did.
first of all, throw out all your razors, and i mean ALL OF THEM (its hard, even i havnt thrown out all of mine and i quite 6 months ago)
write in a diary when you feel like cutting even if its nothing, i used to write everyday about how badly i wanted to.
i also used to take a razor (this kinda interfears if youve thrown them out XD) and iused to cut the cover of a book, over and over, really hard.
just remeber, your better than this, you CAN do it. and it does only make things worse.
you can do it!

[Xistrance]

there is no alternative, trust me, you'll always end up back in the same route and going even more extreme.

I tried ever trick in the book, rubber bands, red marker pens, pins etc.

And my self harm addiction got worse it went from top arm, to wrist, to both arms, to all my arms, to my arms + legs, then onto cuts + burns. its a vicious addictive cycle.

The only answer? get to the root of the problem there is always a problem;

An ex-BF/GF? money troubles, bullying, grieving. Think deep down, I mean really deep, the sort of self soul searching when you walk and walk and walk, or I like to sit in a busy area with a cup of coffee (starbucks <3) and just watch the busy world buzz past and think about what cause me to cut and abuse my own body, and sort it out.

I know it gets hard, we all understand, if you have someone who you can talk to, a best friend, or be anonymous here and we'll support you, just listening, because we all understand what you go through seriously, Its wierd because I only realised that this is a community of self harmers, we understand fully and we never ever laugh, judge or even tell others outside this community, even if your anonymous which u are, because we all want to get better.

Whats the root of it, I understand if its distressing, Im always open for PM. And im an open book myself. I cut because of a Ex-girlfriend who isnt blood related to me but is my mothers BFs daughter and I have to live with her father after I had a serious depression phase, I still do now, But remember your not different because only ourselves can decide what is normal. Open up and beat the self harm, I know it feeeeels so fucking good but its not, the scars people judge you, theres always people who judge and theres also people who accept.

but in the end, when you do kick it. You feel amazing. no drugs, no SH, no depression (although life does get tough and you do get depressed but you will have found you dont need to cut)