taking it seriously?

[ArtistInNeed]

i dont think my mom or my psyciatrist take my depression seriously, i kno for a fact my therapist does but theres always room for doubt. i have this feeling cause my psyciatrist lets everybody before me talk and talk and talk but as soon as i get in there he tells me to lay down, he asks me how im feeling and then he writes my prescription and i leave. wtf is that about?? and my mom is always asking me when am i getting off my meds and when do i think ill be leaving my therapist, its so ridiculous, i cant stand that stupid whore. y cant she just leave me alone? and last night on our way home from seeing Dr.Cohen (psyciatrist) she asks me "when do you think ull be coming off ur meds?" i replied, "idk, its not up to them." and she stupidly asks, "whos it up to? you?" uh yea u stupid bitch, im the one with the issues. fuck.

[byee]

Hmmm......I think it's most important for you and your therapist to understand what's going on here, so you've at least got that covered.

The psychiatrist's role here is to just assess the meds and how they're working, he's the 'Medicine man' here, not the therapist, he doesn't do therapy, and he doesn't use therapy in the assessment process. So, although it might seem a little strained when you see him, maybe if your expectations were more in line with his role, it wouldn't bother you so much. He's not there to talk with you about your feelings and issues the way the therapist does, he's there to assess the meds. And if he felt they weren't working, or that you weren't depressed, we have to assume he'd tell you and take you off them. So, he believes you're depressed, he's just not there to work thru the psychological aspects of it with therapy.


I think your mom might not understand your depression, I don't know if she's ever participated in some meetings with you and your therapist, but maybe she should. Perhps with the therapist's guidance you and she can talk about your feelings in a way that will help her better understand them. Also, it's not unusual for parents to be uncomfortable with the idea of their kids being depressed and seeing 2 shrinks, so maybe for her, if you cpme off the meds it means you;re getting better. Maybe it's not resistance, maybe it's just a bit of denial, the need to sweep something aside b/c it;s too hard to accept.

Consider talking with her and the therapist together, share some info, help her to better see and appreciate what you're experiencing, and maybe give her the opportunity to do the same.

[ArtistInNeed]

well me and my mom dont get along at all, she thinks we do but my therapist and many other ppl feel that she is a big problem with my depression. she used to come into sessions with my old therapist but i dont really want to talk to my mom, as soon as i can drive and i have money im out of here and i dont want any contact with her at all. but y i dont understand with the psyc is that he lets other ppl talk.

[Mzor203]

I know how it feels having someone not seem to understand about something like this. My mom dismisses my anxiety for the most part, so I'm sorry you have to deal with it.

For the most part I think Sam is right, but if you really want to maybe next time you see our psychiatrist you should ask him to talk with you. And as for your mom, when you talk to her is it a conversation, or are there bad emotions being thrown around? She is probably worried about how the meds could affect you, so don't immediately write off her nagging as just being a bitch. She probably cares for you. If you haven't tried just asking her to listen and explain it to her, you should. Just say you're sorry if the meds are worrying her for any reason.

Parents can be really tough sometimes. Mine are usually great parents, so I can't really compare with some people, but I know how they can be sometimes. If you have to, just wait it out. You've always got VT. ;)

[byee]

well me and my mom dont get along at all, she thinks we do but my therapist and many other ppl feel that she is a big problem with my depression. she used to come into sessions with my old therapist but i dont really want to talk to my mom, as soon as i can drive and i have money im out of here and i dont want any contact with her at all. but y i dont understand with the psyc is that he lets other ppl talk.


Perhaps part of the reason you're depressed is b/c you and she don't get along? Sure, you can just wait it out and finally be rid of her when you leave, but those feelings might come with you. Memories have a way of interferring, long after the initial damage has occurred.

Maybe you might take the risk of talking with her in therapy, sharing with her what's on your mind and how she affects you. There's always the chance that she might respond favorably if she heard it from you, that she might better understand you if you opened up a bit with her. And, your therapist can help guide the discussion to maximize the probability that she 'gets it'.

With regards to the psychiatrist, maybe the next time you're with him, you can ask him why he doesn't talk with you and that you'd really appreciate that. His first role is to be responsive to you and your needs, and it's good practice for you to assert yourself appropriately by letting people know what it is you need from them.