Parent's Authority

[Ryandel]

Not sure where this would go. But feel free to move it.

Do you think that some parents abuse their position as parents to their kids and people. Like yesterday I saw a woman with her child at the store. The kid was somewhat fooling around then the mother told him to stop. The kid then asked her why. Her answer "Because I'm your mom."


Yes that's mild. But do you think that parents somewhat abuse their tilte as parents?

[Rutherford The Brave]

Yeah I do think that's out of line. Still I've never had to deal with it. I'm definatly not going to be like that.

[Ryandel]

Yeah I do think that's out of line. Still I've never had to deal with it. I'm definatly not going to be like that.

My sons' 4 years old. He's starting to be the more troublesome kind. I dunno how to react to him. Should I be subtle and be the talking kind. Or give him minor punishments. I only use my parentive authority when I leave him alone or something.

[Rutherford The Brave]

My sons' 4 years old. He's starting to be the more troublesome kind. I dunno how to react to him. Should I be subtle and be the talking kind. Or give him minor punishments. I only use my parentive authority when I leave him alone or something.

I just had my daughter, I'm not to great on parenting. I haven't even learned how to change a diaper.

[Zephyr]

Oh yeah.
Ever watch Nanny 911?
There are some terrible parents on there.
This one lady would taunt and tease her kids,
And telling them that they were bad,
After she had put them in timeout for more than 30 minutes.
I wanted to reach through the TV screen and beotch-slap her,
The kid hadn't even done anything that bad.

From what I understand, parenting is very impromptu.
You just have to do what you find best/suitable for the situation at hand.

[Yasmine]

my mom wasn't the talking kind, she just slapped me across the face, or something like that, and in that case i do think parents abuse their power, but they don't punish as harshly as they used too, because it's not necessary.

[Maverick]

Some do, but your example wasn't abuse. I've asked why and my parents have said "Because I said so" but its not really abuse. They are in charge and end of story.

Btw:

http://i35.tinypic.com/14spsev.jpg

[Ryandel]

Some do, but your example wasn't abuse. I've asked why and my parents have said "Because I said so" but its not really abuse. They are in charge and end of story.

Btw:

http://i35.tinypic.com/14spsev.jpg


Love the poster thing. I don't consider it abuse. But it was minor abuse OF the authority. I guess in my view, it wasn't necessary for the parent to state her position. =/

[theOperaGhost]

I hate seeing parents like that. Your example wasn't much, but I see a lot of that in stores and such. Parents need to learn to be more patient with their children. One time, I was sitting in my car in a parking lot and the woman in the vehicle next to me had a little kid. The kid wouldn't sit in their car seat and the mother just screamed...ugh..I don't have time for this. Then I heard something bang down (she threw something)...then she slammed her van door...over excessively, got in and tore out of there. I just wanted to get out or my car and ask her what the fuck her problem was. It really pissed me off.

[Sapphire]

I don't think parents abuse their authority. I think they are just trying to do the best they can do at any given moment. There is no set of guidelines to parenting and so each parent is just left to feel the role out. Sometimes the results are far from ideal.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think it depends on the type of parents your parents had :)

[Sapphire]

i think it depends on the type of parents your parents had :)

not necessarily

[ShatteredWings]

http://i35.tinypic.com/14spsev.jpg
lol nice. too bad there's that law thing of 18+ in this country (yeah, i know wtf..)

anyways, it's not fair, not at all

but sometimes you have to, so i understand it


"beacause i said so" could be more of "If you do that you could seriously hurt yourself, but you're too young to be able to understand that"

[byee]

I don't think the issue is 'abuse', most parents don't intentionally do things to harm their kids. I think most parents just try to get thru the day, and sometimes we see things that just don't seem quite right or necessary, it's like a snap shot of some moment in time. To understand what it might mean, you have to take the context into consideration as well as the parents own personality into consideration, too. An unruly toddler in a food store is difficult, and it takes some special abilities to manage not only the kid, but your own frustration as well. Likewise, people who tend to be respectful in general, tend to interact with their kids respectfully, they can discipline or otherwise respond to their kids misbehavior without somehow degrading them.
Parents are people, their interpersonal skills and abilities are the same ones available to them and on display regardless of the age of the recipient.

[Medical Kid]

I think so......I cant even walk past my dad without him striking me with his shoulder :(

[Hyper]

In parenting you need to be subtle & persuasive you need to be able to talk and have the patience for it.

But you also need to be able to see when the time for talking is over and something must be done.

There isn't a child in this world who hasn't been properly punished atleast once in their life.

And punishments, their severity vary for different kids and their actions.

You can't grade how wrong something is or what kind of a punishment it deserves but the worst thing to do with children is to give in and to show frustration

Anyway I don't think it was an abuse of authority in a way she is right and you should respect your mother..