Hey everyone. i need some help =[

[cj4976]

I just recently tried having sex with my girlfriend. it was both our first time ever. unfortunately, right before we did. i got really nervous and i couldnt get it up... im so embarassed and i feel like i just completely blew everything. i feel like its going to change things between us and like i wrecked things. =/ idk what to do. i told her i loved her and it wasnt her. i just got nervous and she said its ok and not to worry but im just completely beyond everything. i cant believe it happened and i rly feel like shit.... any similar expriences?? can anyone help? thanks...CJ

[Oblivion]

We can't share personal sex stories, but we can help you :)
If she said she understood, then thats fine. She shouldnt mind too much, and theres always next time.

[cj4976]

We can't share personal sex stories, but we can help you :)
If she said she understood, then thats fine. She shouldnt mind too much, and theres always next time.

yea i know but i just have a strong feeling of failure. like i didnt do my job as a man. idk guess ill just have to get over it

[Oblivion]

Yeah there isn't really much we can do
If your worried about not being able to get an erection, you can talk to your doctor.
But, you didn't fail 'your job as a man' because the goal of mean isn't to have sex.

[cj4976]

Yeah there isn't really much we can do
If your worried about not being able to get an erection, you can talk to your doctor.
But, you didn't fail 'your job as a man' because the goal of mean isn't to have sex.

yea its not like i cant get up. just that i got too nervous and am worried.
but thanks

[Oblivion]

No problem.
But if your worried and nervous about having sex, maybe your not ready?
Maybe you should wait until your emotionally ready for that kind of commitment and risk?

[byee]

No problem.
But if your worried and nervous about having sex, maybe your not ready?
Maybe you should wait until your emotionally ready for that kind of commitment and risk?

Once again, 'Dr. Nick' beats me to it.

Yeah, sex is about emotions, too. Hers, but also yours, as you now see. You have to be ready emotionally, you have to feel confident and secure in order to not feel nervous, and eventhough 'Firsts' of all kinds can be nerve wracking, when they're taken with some sense of assurance they're more likely to work out OK.

Sexual performance is very complicted, you need more than just the opportunity for it to be successful. Keep that in mind, don't fret about it too much, and learn from this experience that it takes time, perhaos more time than you'd like, before you're ready to perform.

It's not a question of 'manly performance', it's just about emotional readiness.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Sex is something you must recognize as a good and bad thing. During this amount of time you are expressing your deepest amounts of passion and love. Being nervous is one thing but it really shouldn't be about lasting long its more about just sharing the expierence. You should be able to do it. Good luck. ;)

[cj4976]

No problem.
But if your worried and nervous about having sex, maybe your not ready?
Maybe you should wait until your emotionally ready for that kind of commitment and risk?

yes maybe thats it. ill be thinking about that

[cj4976]

i told her that i was thinking we should wait more and that i dont think im fully ready. she said its fine. phew

[mr.sexy_bomb]

its ok you didnt do it because you are not ready and i think that if she loves you she wont mind that, just tell her how you feel and why you didnt do it, it will all be fine good luck :)