Social Anxiety

[Ceilidh]

I've known I've always had a problem talking to new people, it's just getting worse now I'm getting older... not better.

I just can't deal with this anymore :(

The idea of meeting new people alone makes me feel sick, alone actualy doing it.

* Unable to use the telephone
* Fearful of every meeting with a new person
* Worry that you are being watched and negatively judged by strangers and friends alike
* Mind goes blank
* Think that people are staring at you
* Want to escape from a situation
* Extensive analysis of past and future situation. What he said ... she said ... I should not have said
* Fear that will do something embarrassing
* Anxiety when eating in front of others
* Any public performance
Soooo, that's pretty bad o___0

I'm starting to use the internet alot more to talk to current friends aswell, I rarely go outside anymore. I'm starting college soon, and I'm just so nervous about it :(

Weirdly enough I'm a bar maid, which is probably the worst job for someone with social anxiety.. but I'm not too bad there because I work with my sister and mum's best friend (my boss) I just get really nervous that I'm gonna mess up someone's change or drop a glass or something :( I also hate it when people try and make convo with me :( (it's something you kinda have to do when you work behind a bar too) so I normaly just answer with one word answers, so people there seem to think I'm being a bitch when I'm really not :(

I think it started when I got bullied in high school... so in my mind I just asume everyone is going to be horrible to me.

I am quite happy and talkative with people I know, it's just around people I don't know where I act like this.

I kind of want therapy, but Idk who to go to or anything... plus, once again that involves me meeting someone new :( so I don't really want to do that either.

[Shpadoinkle]

I have it too, I'm going to a psychologist once a week and I feel like it's helping so I reccomend about therapy, it's better than doing nothing about it... even though it'll probably over to you soon, it's not forever, it usually ends around age 18-21 I think and you are close, hope I was helpful.

[byee]

It's difficult to determine what the cause of social anxiety is, sometimes it's the result of a bad experience, sometimes it's not. But, typically, if you find it's getting worse with time, it's doubtful it will just start to get better suddenly, esp. since you're facing some new challenges, like going to Uni.

I like the idea of therapy, too. Although it means meeting someone new, it's a lot different because there's really no social risk involved, the therapist is a profesional, and won't judge or criticise you. S/he will help you understand your fears and work with you to overcome them, as your ally.

[Ceilidh]

Thanks guys <3

I'm hoping there'll be a counciler (..blah, can't spell) at my college <3

I just don't know who to see or who to ask, I mean I could see my GP but I doubt he would anything

[Callwaiting]

wow that's pretty interesting, every one of those things applies to me.
Especially going over past conversations in my head.

[DoYouLikeCookies]

* Fearful of every meeting with a new person
* Worry that you are being watched and negatively judged by strangers and friends alike
* Think that people are staring at you
* Want to escape from a situation
* Extensive analysis of past and future situation. What he said ... she said ... I should not have said
* Fear that will do something embarrassing
* Anxiety when eating in front of others


I have most.
Sometimes I take diffrent routes just to avoid crossing a street light. . .to many eyes on me. Gets me scared

[Stark]

I know how you feel, I use to have the same problem, to get over it I just forced myself to go greet new people, now I'm still a bit shy, but I'm pretty good.

[The Batman]

Please don't bump old threads if the OP wants it reopened then she can pm me.