You to Grandma?

[The Batman]

Wow I just found out that my grandma doesn't believe in homosexual relationships. She's a very religious lady and she thinks all gays are condemned to hell. It really makes me contemplate being single for the rest of my life. I really don't know what to do now, I was finally accepting it and then she starts talking about how homosexuality is wrong. It's like I was climbing a mountain and I slipped and fell halfway down.

[byee]

Well, 2 things here, Thomas. First, your Grandma isn't talking about YOU, she doesn't know you're gay. Don't take her comments personally.

Second, is that as your Grandma, she's from another time, she was brought up in a far more restricted time, when people weren't as open to homosexuality as they are today.

So, you put the two together, adore her b/c she's your Grandma, and realize she adores you. And maybe recognize that people we love are also a product of their own time, and that it;s a good thing that the time we live in is different!

Don't take it personally, eventhough you're gay, there's more to you than that, she's not talking about you.

[The Batman]

But she's talking about her granddaughter and her son who both are gay. What makes me any different?

[Axellance]

its not fair or realistic to stay single your whole life you gotta except who you are. If you change your mind or stop excepting it every time someone says something negitive about it you will have a verry hard time in life. I mean inagine if you where in a amazing relationship with a awesome guy and someone says that and you feel the need to break up with him and remain single for the rest of your life, not verry progressive....

[Rutherford The Brave]

You must realize that your Grandmother is 60/70+ and you already know that. Still, back in that time she went through the civil rights movement. We must remember that people of different ethnicity we not the only people segregated. Also some scientists said that if a child grew up in an anti-civil rights house, the tend to hate thosse who fit in the criteria. That's only because that's what they learned from their parents.

[MrPinnick17]

I don't know about you but my grandma is crazy as hell.
Half the stuff she says I don't agree with, she's a nice lady but still she refuses to accept society as it is.
Who says your views have to be the same as hers. You know what you are, and nothing she or anybody else says should influence you. You just now know that she would probably not be one of the people you would want to come out the closet to.

[byee]

But she's talking about her granddaughter and her son who both are gay. What makes me any different?

What makes you different is that you'll have the good sense not to take it personally by needing that acknowledgement or approval.

She's entitled to have her values and beliefs, and so are you. It would be nice if they agreed, but they don't need to. This is one of those times.

She approves of you and acknowledges you in other ways, Thomas, enjoy that part of it, and don't focus on the one part you guys don't agree on. You're more than your sexuality.

Besides, she probably likes you better than the other two, anyway.

[The Batman]

Thanks guys I just won't let it get to me.

[Axellance]

Glad to hear it :)

[Zan0ra]

My grandma has the very same views. in the 1950's Home sexuality was treated as a disease or insane. My grandad was gay but said he had been. "cured" From what I get they used to shock you then put a pic of a boy in front of you. There was a film on this I think it was called a very sex british scandal. Something like that. Any way. Don't let the words get to you.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

look she does not know you are gay so may be if she knew she would change her mind about homosexuality ;) and dont care about what people say about you just be your self AND be happy with who you want

[Requin]

It's all down to how your brought up.
My nan is VERY pro english. Any sign that someone she's talking to is foreign, she blanks them out.
(She is 94 mind you)
We all might be against or at least wary of asians etc. It's all to do with surroundings.

[waterplayer]

your grandma doesn't have to accept you for who you are Gay, Bi Straight or Lesbian, as long as you are happy with yourself:yeah: